Am I being petty for defriending someone for dating a homophobe?
I recently had issues with a best friend (F, bisexual) whose Boyfriend is extremely homophobic. Like has never said anything to me directly but refuses to speak to me, runs out of the room… literally runs out of it if i am there. He has said stuff to her about hanging with me. He has no issues with her hanging out with Lesbian friends because he doesn’t consider lesbians to be real basically… whatever the fuck that means.
Recently, like over a month ago, her boyfriend “broke up” with her because he was “tired of her associating with a f@ggot” his words. And then she called me upset and said “I defended our friendship and am done with him”
Cut to the following day they are back together. I told her how this made me feel and that I don’t understand why a bisexual woman would feel comfortable dating a man who hates gay people. She tried to downplay it and said “well he didn’t grow up here” because hes from Europe and was raised very religious. And that “you don’t need to like my BF for us to be friends” i kinda told her “well i think we should not hangout anymore until he gets over it” and she said i was being petty essentially.
Idk i have distanced myself since then and kinda stopped talking to her totally. Also distanced myself from our little friend group because another friend (who is a LESBIAN) sided with her and the BF, especially when I vented about it. I don’t really think my actions are petty, but wanted to get input from outsiders💀 cause this situation is fucked up to me. We have been friends for 3 years and got really really close this past year cause I moved to her city for work. Talked every day, hung out most weekends.