u/falafelthum

hello everyone, i (21f) am in my first dom/sub dynamic with an experienced (23m) muscular sub and it’s a long distance relationship we’re both in different countries so we can only do anything through video calls or texting
he already had three mistresses before me and has lots of experience with women in general unlike me technically i’m still a virgin ( i don’t believe in virginity but that’s a topic for another time) so this makes me nervous a little idk what to do sometimes and i don’t want to look hesitant in front of him so i end up avoiding doing anything until i’m prepared enough but idk how long this is gonna take me and i don’t want him to be bored with me ( we’re not dating we just have the dom/sub agreement).
i love dominating him being on top is the only way i like doing it with men without getting bored ( i’ve had vanilla phone sex before and it was so boring i wasn’t turned on at all even tho i did it with someone i was in love with at the time ) and we had two sessions before that he liked and i would say i enjoy degrading and humiliating him the issue is it’s really hard to do anything from the distance i can’t touch him or do what i want to do so after the scene is set and he’s all turned on idk what to do afterwards we both enjoy pegging and i wish i knew how to do it through the phone screen i’m more into less talking and more action but talking is the only way to do anything with him
i know my issues arise from my lack of experience so i would like to ask for some advice on how to improve my performance and any tips for long distance dynamics would be appreciated