I grew up in the bible belt going to Catholic school and Baptist church on the weekends, which combined with a shit step-father made for a very repressed upbringing where I wanted to avoid being perceived, let alone perceived sexually. Now I'm an adult, going on two years married to a great guy and I still have difficulties initiating sex with him. Even when I do, my attempts at seduction have a tendency to come off as just cute, very little sexy to be found.
As a second part of the question, how did you become comfortable talking frankly about sex? I'm a lot better than I used to be, but the bar was underground. How do I find lingerie that I look good and sexy in? I know theoretically what I should look good in, but I find that what I find attractive on other women I don't like on myself, but that may just be lingering insecurities on my part.
I did search to see if this had been asked before on here! I didn't see it, and I have read through the applicable pinned links. This is not academic or creative research I swear, I just don't have anyone I can ask about this and I figured y'all would be the experts on how to act sexy and/or initiate sex.