Hookup (Lightly) Slapped Me Across the Face without asking. What Do I do?
I F(21) have been seeing a guy (M23) for the past few weeks. We have gotten along great and I started to really like him. We’ve been going on dates and talking for hours into the night. I know he’s starting to really fall for me, asking me how I feel about being his girlfriend, introducing me to friends, talking about future plans, etc.
A few days ago we had sex for the first time and it was great. The next day we had sex again and once again it was great, but at some point he slapped me across the face. It didn’t hurt or anything, but I got mad and slapped him back (lol).
I was really thrown off and after I brought it up and he said he was just kind of into that. I got a bit upset and said he should’ve asked and not done it out of the blue. He agreed and apologized that he got too into the moment and didn’t think about it. I just think it’s a bit disrespectful. I also don’t know if i’m into that. I asked him why he liked that and he said it’s a “dominance” thing. i understand people have this kink but I don’t like the idea of a man wanting to playfully hurt me. I’m wondering if this will bleed into other aspects of the relationship. Any advice? Is this too disrespectful or should i give him some grace and keep seeing him?
edit: besides the slap it was genuinely the best sex I have ever had. so i’m not sure if we are incompatible necessarily. it was more so the lack of asking.