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When you look rationally at it, for most men a handjob would be better than sex. Sex can lead to anxiety for a lot of men with the pressure to perform. Men usually have a higher need and want to have sex often but let's be fair, do they actually need it? The problem is mostly full nuts, not an empty vagina. Often there are better solutions to that problem, like a quick handjob.

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The outcome is the same: it's a released the sperm is out and the orgasm is achieved. The method to get there however is much easier. It's less time consuming, less energy consuming and gives less of a mess. Most men are just not good at sex and never will be. That isn't bad, it's just how nature intended it.

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Sure, there are moments in which you want or need sex, or in which the man does preform up to standards and actually can deliver a good time. Then sex is a great option to have. It is however a lot rarer than most men think. Most men would be fine with just a handjob and that's it, as long as they get that release. They're happy. Men can get used to a lot of situations as long as their basic needs are met, and that need is isn't sex but is the release. That release van be accomplished much more efficiently through a handjob. Usually the handjob is the rational choice.

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If men don't get used to sex or don't have it for a long time the need gets less and less and they are happy more easily. They need intimacy and an orgasm but that is something else than sex. Most men would be better off pussyfree.

I wondered, is it just the ovulation that counts and when there is a sperm injection (sorry for the plastic term, just to be clear about it) at the right moment that's it or does it actually increase from multiple sperm injections?

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I've read that chances don't really increase with more than a try every two days since men only build up sperm for two days but I wondered if it does increase and by how much when there are multiple men involved. Does anyone know more about that? Have there been publications about it?

When you look rationally at it, for most men a handjob would be better than sex. Sex can lead to anxiety for a lot of men with the pressure to perform. Men usually have a higher need and want to have sex often but let's be fair, do they actually need it? The problem is mostly full nuts, not an empty vagina. Often there are better solutions to that problem, like a quick handjob.

The outcome is the same: it's a released the sperm is out and the orgasm is achieved. The method to get there however is much easier. It's less time consuming, less energy consuming and gives less of a mess.

Sure, there are moments in which you want or need sex, or in which the man does preform up to standards and actually can deliver a good time. Then sex is a great option to have. It is however a lot rarer than most men think. Most men would be fine with just a handjob and that's it, as long as they get that release. They're happy. Men can get used to a lot of situations as long as their basic needs are met, and that need is isn't sex but is the release. That release van be accomplished much more efficiently through a handjob. Usually the handjob is the rational choice.

Would you like to chat about that or do you have a similar situation or opinion? You can send me a message. I'm 29, I have a boyfriend that is a few years older and my kinks are habdjobs, cuckold and premature ejaculation. I can talk in English or Dutch.

I know a natural insemination is a kink for a lot of guys, especially when the sex is specifically for just that (breeding). For us the opposite situation has become reality a while ago. We're doing artificially insemination on purpose.

We don't have penetrative sex. That is something we started out our relationship with. Then it was because of my vaginismus, but we kept it in place once I was cured. Within our relationship our sex is mostly me giving him handjobs regularly and him pleasuring me orally on occasion. I like to keep it that way since it has become our thing. That is why we continued it while we are trying to conceive.

There are more roads to Rome than just the "normal" way.wr have chose to do it with a sort of plastic syringes with a full end with which you can suck up the sperm and inject it. That should work at least as good as regular sex. It's a method that is tried and proven for a lot of couples with vaginismus and lesbian couples. I like that we chose to do it even though we don't have to. I like it that way.

When we started out the pussy free thing was a necessity, not a kink. I had vaginismus so physically I wasn't able to have penetration sex. I had postponed relationships because of it but my boyfriend didn't mind. He wanted to have sex but he accepted that I couldn't and I was very happy with that. I had sex in several relationships before (as my vaginismus developed during my second to last relationship) and my boyfriend was/is still a virgin.

Our sex life is mostly concentrated on handjobs for him and oral for me. In the meantime I was doing my exercises and trying to get rid of my vaginismus but it is a lengthy process. I was still in that process when he admitted his cuckold fetish to me when we were a bit over a year together. I was very surprised at first and suspicious (since I always was afraid that he could cheat since I couldn't give him sex) but he actually had those feelings. We talked about it several times and I gave it a try. Of course only with handjobs at first since that was all I could/would do.

My confidence grew enormously and I got more dominant in the process. Because of that I started to get a fetish of my own. I wanted him to stay a virgin for me, that turned me on immensely. So when my vaginismus was mostly cured about half a year later I told him it would be better to try it with someone else. Since we were already doing the cuckolding thing and it would be better to practice my first time having sex again with someone with more experience. After some talks he agreed to that.

It was amazing to have sex again and I loved that we didn't have to end our own streak because of it. We've been together for 8 years now. He is in his mid thirties and still going strong as a virgin. I love that. I love that he sacrificed his virginity for me, that even though he would like to have sex, he wants this even more. I hope we can continue this forever.