u/hauntinglovelybold

My sub is very interested in shibari and being tied/restrained in general - I’m just wary about starting with rope right off the bat. I’ve seen scarves suggested as beginner friendly and non painful options, are there any other suggestions you all have?

ETA we are both complete beginners to restraint and I’m very aware that this is something that could cause pain and danger so I’m trying to make sure we move slowly and safely.

Things like slapping and spanking - what’s the best way to learn how and regulate my amount of force etc?

Also, any recommendations on soothing creams etc to apply afterward?