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I had previously posted on this thread that my partner disapproved of my job and well we did in fact break up due to my job. We agreed to remain friendly due to the fact that we both had a lot on our plate and needed the support.
Now going back to my home club recently one of the lovely ladies I work with let me know that she actually saw him at the club maybe a couple of days after we ended everything. When I confronted him about it he proceeded to just tell me he didn’t want to talk anymore which was silly on his end but I accepted.
Now the concerning part is that he actually showed up to my club again except this time I was working. We didn’t say hi or anything however he would intensely glare at the customers I would talk to, after when I went to the back for a dance he actually ended up taking a dance with another one of my coworkers (many of my coworkers did not know we were dating). What disturbed me is that after my shift about an hour after I got home he started knocking at my door and spam calling and texting me and unfortunately I ended up having to call the cops because my anxiety levels were too high and I couldn’t do anything.
I’m not sure if maybe I should ask the club to not let him in anymore or if i should switch clubs or if maybe that’s a bit much for the situation. I couldn’t sleep over this and I’m not sure if I want to be worried every time I go to work.

Honestly I took a break from the club because it was consuming me but in going back next week. Obviously I need to make up for lost time a little bit for bills and such. I was thinking about working maybe 6-7 days in a row next week. Does anyone have any experience or advice for working that long in a row, my max is like 4 days in a row and I felt so drained by the end.

Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.

I’ve been having this recurring theme in my mind for quite some time. I’ve been struggling a bit mentally with leaving the club behind, although i loved my time at the club i had other personal projects i was working on so i started persuing them.

What I’ve been struggling most with is outside judgement which I was very aware of when I was working in the club but now that i’m not anymore it still goes on especially in my relationship almost like a lack of trust or always wondering if i’ll go back to the club from my partner (who was not a fan of my job).

I don’t know if anyone has also been through this I just want to find a way to be able to have a conversation with someone saying that it just makes me uncomfortable because I am a person outside of the club with hobbies and passions just like everyone else is.