u/itcertainlydepends

So… I have a problem. I’ve tried dating apps. I’ve tried meeting people in person. Sure, I can find dates easily enough as a woman. I can meet a nice guy, maybe get into a relationship. But my previous experiences have always felt lacking because I’ve never met anyone I’m into who’s also into kink. I’ve just accepted it as a reality that it’s something I’ll never get to experience. But when I hear people online talk about their experiences with kink, I get jealous. Why can’t I have that? There are people out there living my fantasies. Why can’t I experience them for myself?

So here I am. I’m a switch looking for a serious relationship with a switch/dominant/submissive man. I want something genuine and I’ll keep posting here repeatedly until that man sees this ad and is like, “This is perfect, I want this.” I want respect, adoration, and passion. True intellectual compatibility. I want to feel like I can talk to you 24/7 and never tire of you because we bounce ideas off of each other! I want us to understand each other deeply. There’s nothing hotter than being understood and loved for who you are. And we get to explore our filthy fantasies? Even better. I want the power exchange to be a part of how we live and communicate with each other.

I have a particular type of man though. I don’t do well with ambiguity and lukewarm energy. I want a man who’s proactive, plans things, and knows what he wants (aka me). I want someone who’s mad for me. Someone who keeps thinking about me because I fascinate him. Someone who’s all about me because he loves me. Someone who will do anything for me. If I don’t feel like he’s obsessed, I don’t want him. I want a yearner! Let’s yearn for each other, yes?

Now, who am I, really? I’d say I’m analytical, straightforward, and intense. I’m an acquired taste because I come with contradictions and extreme views. I’m a seemingly normal person with a VERY active imagination. I’ve always been a bit rebellious and I’m not afraid to speak up for what I think is right. I’m a yearner. I can be harsh sometimes but also very cutesy. I want to be treated like your queen. I’m semi-shameless. IRL-wise, I’m a student with a tech background. I enjoy reading, writing, board games, and video games (I recently got a Switch 2 and I used to play a lot of League of Legends haha). I’m in a cozy phase of my life right now where I mostly just study, read, and stay in. But I can also rock going to social events, socializing, and meeting new people. I enjoy exploring new restaurants and bars and dancing at nightclubs (grinding on you? ;))

Dynamic-wise, what do I seek? I enjoy the buildup just as much, perhaps even more. I enjoy the teasing very much. I need someone who is a gentleman out in public, but has a very filthy mouth in private. I have a lot of fantasies, and I'd love to explore that with the right person. Some examples I suppose: bondage, discipline, praise/degradation, hunter/prey, psychological D/s, etc. I’m not experienced since I haven’t met the right person to explore this with.

I’m located in Northern California. I would need you to travel to me if we meet in person. Physically, I’m a petite Asian woman with a slim/average body type. As for my type, I like white-collar men who are good at what they do. I like a successful man! 28-45 only. If you live outside of California, I’m still open to talking to you, provided that you’re willing to visit me and vice versa. And oh, I’m child-free as well. I don’t want kids.

Anyway, dear future boyfriend, I hope we meet soon? DM me! 😃

So… I have a problem. I’ve tried dating apps. I’ve tried meeting people in person. Sure, I can find dates easily enough as a woman. I can meet a nice guy, maybe get into a relationship. But my previous experiences have always felt lacking because I’ve never met anyone I’m into who’s also into kink. I’ve just accepted it as a reality that it’s something I’ll never get to experience. But when I hear people online talk about their experiences with kink, I get jealous. Why can’t I have that? There are people out there living my fantasies. Why can’t I experience them for myself?

So here I am. I’m a switch looking for a serious relationship with a switch/dominant/submissive man. I want something genuine and I’ll keep posting here repeatedly until that man sees this ad and is like, “This is perfect, I want this.” I want respect, adoration, and passion. True intellectual compatibility. I want to feel like I can talk to you 24/7 and never tire of you because we bounce ideas off of each other! I want us to understand each other deeply. There’s nothing hotter than being understood and loved for who you are. And we get to explore our filthy fantasies? Even better. I want the power exchange to be a part of how we live and communicate with each other.

I have a particular type of man though. I don’t do well with ambiguity and lukewarm energy. I want a man who’s proactive, plans things, and knows what he wants (aka me). I want someone who’s mad for me. Someone who keeps thinking about me because I fascinate him. Someone who’s all about me because he loves me. Someone who will do anything for me. If I don’t feel like he’s obsessed, I don’t want him. I want a yearner! Let’s yearn for each other, yes?

Now, who am I, really? I’d say I’m analytical, straightforward, and intense. I’m an acquired taste because I come with contradictions and extreme views. I’m a seemingly normal person with a VERY active imagination. I’ve always been a bit rebellious and I’m not afraid to speak up for what I think is right. I’m a yearner. I can be harsh sometimes but also very cutesy. I want to be treated like your queen. I’m semi-shameless. IRL-wise, I’m a student with a tech background. I enjoy reading, writing, board games, and video games (I recently got a Switch 2 and I used to play a lot of League of Legends haha). I’m in a cozy phase of my life right now where I mostly just study, read, and stay in. But I can also rock going to social events, socializing, and meeting new people. I enjoy exploring new restaurants and bars and dancing at nightclubs (grinding on you? ;))

Dynamic-wise, what do I seek? I enjoy the buildup just as much, perhaps even more. I enjoy the teasing very much. I need someone who is a gentleman out in public, but has a very filthy mouth in private. I have a lot of fantasies, and I'd love to explore that with the right person. Some examples I suppose: bondage, discipline, praise/degradation, hunter/prey, psychological D/s, etc. I’m not experienced since I haven’t met the right person to explore this with.

I’m located in Northern California. I would need you to travel to me if we meet in person. Physically, I’m a petite Asian woman with a slim/average body type. As for my type, I like white-collar men who are good at what they do. I like a successful man! 28-45 only. If you live outside of California, I’m still open to talking to you, provided that you’re willing to visit me and vice versa. And oh, I’m child-free as well. I don’t want kids.

Anyway, dear future boyfriend, I hope we meet soon? DM me! 😃