Naturally dominant but relatively inexperienced. Looking for advice on refining dynamic with a submissive partner (restraint, cnc, frame etc)
I'm looking for some advice from people who have considerably more experience with structured D/s dynamics than I do.
I'm a guy in my late 20s. I have plenty of conventional sexual experience, but very little formal background in kink or BDSM. The dynamic I have with my current partner (early 20s F, seeing each other ~2 months) developed completely organically simply because I'm naturally directive/dominant and she is naturally very submissive.
On her own she has a high stress life/job, and seems to immediately calm down around me. Happily surrenders 100% of logistical control. I noticed this from the 1st date when she couldn't decide what to order and I picked for her on the spot after ~60 seconds of silence.
She has since told me explicitly she likes when I make pretty much every decision & don't even give her a choice.
Obviously, I keep an eye on her intuitively to ensure that she continually prefers that dynamic over time and try to read if there is a preference she has that she's not expressing.
I noticed on our first several hookups that she unusually enjoyed being pinned down/overpowered/light hair pulling/breath play/spanking/visible marks.
She clearly enjoys putting up a token physical struggle/play-fighting. She also used to playfully say 'stop', but was very ambiguous about it, complaining when I actually stopped, so I gave her a clear directive on a safe word which she's not yet used.
We also have a running flirty dynamic of 'behavioral intervention'/'corrective measure' or being my prisoner. Most recently she sent an attitude over text and I responded with her needing correction and she basically said to make it stricter this time since the last few times haven't worked well enough.
Clearly, something I am doing is working right now but I don't really know what or why. I have a few questions:
>Any tips on what I state above or corrections/things I should do differently? Are there any mistakes or pitfalls I should be aware of?
>She clearly requested something 'stricter'. I already leave light marks, light breath play, spanking, & light restraints. What is the best next step? I don't want to actually hurt her but I'm open to just about anything, I'm really digging this dynamic we have so far.
>What are the best entry-level tools/methods for restraints to elevate this without going full dungeon? So far literally just restrained her with a random scarf. We both definitely want to elevate this.
>Any additional tips/techniques or tools that you think either of us would enjoy are welcome. Right now I've been managing with pretty much only a bed.
>My goal is to create an environment where she feels completely protected and can turn her brain off if she wants (You're with me, don't worry about figuring anything out, I got it). I am open to any tips on that kind of soothing/caring/grounding without making any common mistakes.
>How do you actually balance praise/discipline in this kind of dynamic?
Feel free to add anything else you think I'm missing. My ultimate goal is a heightened experience for her which in turn would be a heightened experience for me.