u/jsmittyjr98

Open to it as fwb…but now as my gfs shes open..but more concerned

My (m28) gf (30f) started off as a passionate sex fueled sexting relationship in secret. We knew eachother at work years ago but never talked and she was escaping a very abusive relationship with her ex. She literally had to stay with him for months after the breakup bec he had destroyed her credit took all of her money etc

I guess she was expressing very pinned up sexual needs and despite her shy and sweet demeanor (and her hesitations of me giving off player vibes) she was very sexual with me and even expressed her sexual attraction towards women and was super horny. We even tslked about threesomes EARLY. I have always wanted to explore having a gf who was into that or even a fwb… and i was super excited lol.

As we got more serious. Conversations…dates etc. she has expressed to me that she would have had no problem us doing that or if we werent in a relationship BUT now she is nervous i might become attached or involved with the other girls.

I find it kind of weird and disappointing that as a guy who is not in a relationship with her and has less invested etc…i could have access to a wild and uninhibited version of my gf…but as her boyfriend shes less into it?

Is it doomed? Or a matter of me ensuring her emotional security(i really emotionally have zero interest in knowing or bonding with anyone else)

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u/jsmittyjr98 — 3 days ago

How much does attractiveness help couples finding unicorns?

I (m28) and my gf (f30) of a year have a great sex life and we are growing in our explorations and sexual chemistry.she openly has talked about how she used to watch alot of lesbian porn and has always had interest in women but never explored it.

The hardest part people talk about after the emotional security and connection between the primary couple is finding a “unicorn”. However because of how pro sex women are now days and with our society being more accepting of it in general…i figured that must be an older couple thing? My question is….

How much does youth and being conventionally an attractive couple make a difference? Or is MORE difficult?

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u/jsmittyjr98 — 3 days ago