
Scripts for interacting with buyers: Questions to ask when receiving a custom video order
Remember: You dont have to guess the details and hope they are right, in fact the buyer wants you to ask!

Remember: You dont have to guess the details and hope they are right, in fact the buyer wants you to ask!
Since Creators Spicy Tea's website is being censored by ISPs across the US, we will be slowly sharing the education library here as well to ensure it is well preserved. You can support the efforts of the team here. This resource consists of excerpts from the Direct Selling on Reddit | The Adult Content Creators Beginners Guide
Reddit is a forum based social-media-like platform that prides itself on community involvement and has a strong focus on anti-spam. As a promotional platform for adult content it provides ample opportunity, and ample road blocks. When it comes to selling on the platform, the roadblocks double, but so can the income opportunities when done right.
When on Reddit you will find plenty of different ‘social norms and standards’ that pretty much must be followed (or face the wrath of the trolls and redditors). Along with the platform social standards there are multiple other Reddit-specific details that a direct adult content seller must know of on platform. Lets get into it all!
When creating your profile there are a few things that are important to know and a few things that are important to have set up.
Check out this video starting at 4:10 for tips on creating your profile!
Having a post pinned to your profile is crucial! This is a space where you can provide details about your offerings while also giving users a feel for your style. The below resource will go in depth on everything your pinned post needs to include!
TLDR:
This resource goes in depth on pinned posts and why it is so important to have one.
💡Pro Tip: Use a text based post and add in images and GIFs to help break up walls of text and maintain visual interest. Check out the resource below to see how to do that!
Reddit is a tricky platform for many because it is often forgotten that it is NOT a social media platform. It is a forum based platform. On top of that it is a forum based platform that thrives on anonymity and a hatred for self promotion. With those in mind, the question usually is: How do I interact on this platform in a rule and etiquette conscious manner, and still promote?
You are responsible for knowing and following Reddit’s platform rules. Y’all, when you lose an account on Reddit it is so much more devastating and hard to build it back. You are not just losing an account and followers, but you now have to build you karma back from the beginning. Its easier to never give the admins an excuse to boot or shadowban you.
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In the past, I have spoken about the importance of having a well-rounded profile on whatever platform you sell on. It helps the buyers get a better, more diverse understanding of what content you have to offer. There is one aspect of a well-rounded profile that needs to be emphasized more and that is a pinned post with all your crucial information. In this resource we are covering what a pinned post is, why its important to have it, and exatly what needs to be in it.
That pinned post shows you are taking this seriously, operating as a professional, and not just guesstimating rates. It shows them what to expect and gives them a heads-up before messaging you if you are even within their price range. It will save both parties from wasting each other’s time with questions that won’t lead to a sale. It doesn’t have to be a wall of text or even frumpy in the slightest. Here is mine for example. You can utilize this space to be a part of your brand and show off who you are.
This is all from my perspective as a creator though, and that is not the perspective we need to be focusing on. We need to hear from a buyer. So, I reached out to Cesar, one of and my best friends and a moderator of r/fetishbuyerscommunity family of subs, and r/fetishspicytea and r/creators_spicy_tea. He is also a very long-term member of the fetish-buying community on Reddit. Here is what he had to say on the topic:
>“Personally, I’m very reluctant to work with a creator that doesn’t have a menu posted, and I absolutely will not work with one that doesn’t have any kind of menu at all. Usually, if I look at a profile and they don’t have a menu posted at all, they immediately get moved to the back of my list of creators to work with. I do my research, I don’t just look at a post and reach out to someone, I will dig into their profile and see if they seem like someone I want to work with.
>The menu is the first step, it shows me they are serious about selling and have their rates set out. I can quickly look through the menu, see if they offer services/products that align with what I enjoy, and then see if their rates fall into a range that I am comfortable spending. I will never argue pricing with a seller, I fully respect them charging what they determine is fair for their time. I also have a rate that I am comfortable paying, and if we don’t align, then that is fine. I know ahead of time, and there is no need to waste either of our time reaching out. I can always come back somewhere down the line if I’m in a position to spend at their rate.
>There are occasions when I don’t see a menu on their profile, but they seem like someone I would really like to work with, I will reach out and ask if they have a menu with rates for both physical items and digital content. It hasn’t happened often, but it has happened where I get sent the menu and I get that sticker shock. Once again, I fully respect the creator charging what works for them, but now I have to politely explain that her rates are outside of my range, and that always feels bad/awkward. This is why I will often not even ask. I don’t want to have to have that conversation and I also don’t want to waste anyone’s time, so I just avoid it.
>If I do ask a creator if they have a menu/rates, and they come back saying that they don’t and they price each order out individually…that is an immediate no from me. I have heard the excuse that each request is so different so that is why they don’t have a menu…and I call bullshit. You still have a base rate that you use to build off of, and then you can adjust for specific requests like name use or heavy fetish content. If someone tells me that they will charge based off the request, that tells me they are just looking for anything and everything to nickel and dime the order. I’m also not interested with them providing a rate but then saying they are willing to negotiate with me on the price. Once again, I don’t argue pricing and I don’t haggle. You should have a rate and you should charge at that rate. If you are willing to adjust just to make the sale…honestly, you are not someone I am really interested in working with anymore. That is very much a me thing, but it speaks to integrity and how much you put into what you do. It is one thing to offer a deal/sale to everyone and have a flat drop on your services for a short time. It’s another to be loose on pricing just to secure an order.
>Also, not having any kind of a menu just feels like you, the creator, are opening yourself up to buyers who are going to try and dictate their own pricing and haggle with you over everything. Not sure why you would want the hassle, but that also tells me a little about you as well.
>General industry standard is for creators to have a menu. As a seasoned buyer, this is something that I find incredibly important, and sellers that do not have them could be missing out on potential clients, as I know I am not alone in operating this way.”
If it is at all helpful to anyone, my selling accounts' pinned post is here as an example.
It seems my teammate and my perspective are fairly matched. Having a pinned post with all your information will not only help you keep your numbers straight but also help you prevent wasted time and energy. If you need some guidance designing your tip menu, this is a fantastic resource. If the guidance needed is more geared to pricing your menu, check out this podcast episode.
Thank you to Cesar for his perspective on this topic! We will always believe the wisdom of the crowd is always greater than that of the individual, from all sides of the industry.
Fix Your Menu: Use Sales Psychology to Skyrocket Content Sales
Everybody's view counts are a very very likely to look like they are about to skyrocket. More than likely our view counts will have not changed that drastically.
YouTube is changing how they are counting views.
They are no longer only counting engaged views however they are counting from the moment the first frame is played.
More information can be found here
Multiple creators have been reporting on multiple forums and multiple private Creator communities that their YouTube channel is being taken down and the reason given is adult content via their Link in bio. YouTube is not just looking at the link itself it is looking at what is on the page similar to instagram. If your link in BIO consists of any NSFW looking links or content or if the links lead to another page that has NSFW, your page can be taken down.
Examples of reports:
YouTube channel terminated with no warning BC of linktree
What's the deal with the YouTube banwave?
What I can say:
Either I haven't been hit yet, or their systems can only dig so deep into the link in bio. I have my NSFW website and multiple of my platforms linked within the creators spicy tea website which is linked in the bio. But it's generally heavily embedded within the blog posts and pages and nowhere on the homepage. I don't know if just getting it off the homepage is enough yet. But I can say either it's possibly coming for me soon, or if you have it buried enough you could be okay.
Hey y'all! I'm just popping in with the crisis hotlines and support lines for mental health support that I know of. It is so important to remember to put our mental health first. Especially when we are in this industry. We go through so much. We experience so much. And we take on other people's traumas as well as our own.
If you need help, it is out there for you. You are not alone if you are experiencing a mental health crisis. And you shouldn't be alone in it. There are trained people ready to help with whatever you need.
Mental health first every time y'all! And it's okay to say when you're struggling and it is okay to get help ❤️
If anyone is aware of any of these options no longer being valid, please let me know either in modmail or comments so I can remove them ❤️
Recently the team was alerted to a moderator who has used their crumb of status and dribble worth of power to sexually manipulate and extort a creator. We saw the entire screenshot of all DMs on all platforms that the interactions were held on to confirm prior to making this announcement.
The creator was having trouble with her posts going up so she reached out in modmail. The moderator then reached out in private DMs to continue the conversation and began promising that he could fix her account problems by approving all her posts. To do so he said that she was going to have to send content and he would approve all of her posts which would fix her account. Then he promised to join her to a ton of groups for buying and selling which was going to skyrocket her career as long as she gave him an hour of sexting. This was all promised while also trying to sell her on management.
Veteran creators and those of us who've been here long enough know this is all a scam to get free content. But to somebody who is brand new who doesn't know the rules of the game, this might seem like it is just something you have to do to make it work. Its not. This is disgusting and predatory behavior.
I am not going to tell you to not use these subreddits or telegram groups, I'm not going to tell you to not trust this moderator. I'm going to tell you the screenshots made me feel sick to my stomach. And in them they clearly mentioned having done this to multiple people.
Moderator: u/Current-Monitor-7529
Telegram username: Crashmunkie
If a single moderator ever demands anything from you to engage in their subreddit outside of baseline verification they are not a safe moderator. If a moderator ever takes a moderation conversation outside of modmail with you, that is not a safe moderator. You do not have to pay, IN ANY CURRENCY, to join a subreddit. This moderator violated the code of conduct in so many fucking ways in this conversation but because they took it outside of modmail it cannot be reported to reddit. If it has to do with moderation keep it in modmail for your own safety.
Reddit moderators are meant to adhere to a specific code of conduct. This includes rule number five which is being blatantly violated here. Rule number five states:
Users expect that content in communities is authentic, and trust that moderators make choices about content based on community and sitewide rules.
In order to maintain that trust, moderators are prohibited from taking moderation actions (including actions taken using mod tools, bots, and other services) in exchange for any form of compensation, consideration, gift, or favor from or on behalf of third parties.
Moderators can be reported to admins:
If a moderator ever puts you in a position similar to this, or in some other way violates that code of conduct, they can be reported to the admins. To report them to the admins, click this form, and ensure that the options stating "Report a Moderator Code of Conduct Violation or Appeal a Moderator Code of Conduct Action" is selected.
A word of warning:
Submitting a report to Reddit should not be done wantonly or without consideration. They will penalize anybody who they believe is abusing their reporting system. Be sure you have a strong case against anyone you are reporting including moderators. As this creator did above, the one thing you should be abusing is your screenshot button. Screenshot anything the second it feels weird.
Howdy y'all! I'm having creators block and I can't figure out what would be a good topic for Septembers pod.
Upcoming in August is our hard truths and hot takes podcast episode. Coming either this August or September we are going to be doing some deep dives in dmca takedown services, and I can't think of anything else to do for this podcast episode!
Soooo, figured this would be a good thing to be asking y'all! Is there any topic that we either have or have not covered that you would want to see a deep dive on?
Help!
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The \"email from Reddit\" they got
The \"certificate of accreditation\" they provide in Discord
Forgotten_Dog1954redditvalidation@outlook.com
Stay safe, and thank you for reading!
This is a link-less copy of the full resource available in the below two links. This is riddled with links that would be taken down by Reddit. But I figured it is still important and worth sharing.
https://www.patreon.com/CreatorsSpicyTea/posts/downloading-app-165746555
https://www.creatorsspicytea.co/downloading-telegram-without-app-store/
Yesterday, August 3rd for all of about 40 minutes Telegram was removed from the iOS app store. This can be incredibly stressful news if you’re a Creator like me even though it has since been restored and is available again on the app store. This is incredibly stressful because what happens if next time they choose not to put it back? How then will creators go about downloading Telegram and updates? What happens to creators like me who manage most of their clients on telegram or who have telegram channels that we depend on or even groups that we depend on for storage or again client management.
The best of news is that you do not just have to hope that telegram doesn’t accidentally get deleted from your phone and you don’t have to just deal with never having another update on your device. There are so many many many ways to get telegram. In fact if you’re purchasing telegram premium it’s incredibly cheaper to not go through the app store that is how much the app itself encourages you to step away from app stores.
Telegram offers two official browser applications:
Both versions are listed on Telegram’s official applications page and can be used on mobile or desktop browsers.
There are so many, many, many ways to get Telegram.
Telegram offers official applications for iPhone, iPad, Android, Windows, macOS, and Linux. It also offers official web versions that can run inside a browser. You can see every current option on Telegram’s official applications page.
Your safest starting point is Telegram’s official applications page.
Telegram lists official apps for:
Telegram also lists experimental and unofficial apps on that page, so pay attention to the labels. An app using Telegram’s technology is not automatically an official Telegram application.
For beginners, I recommend sticking to one of these sources:
Do not download Telegram from:
Under normal circumstances, the easiest way to download Telegram on an iPhone or iPad is through Apple’s App Store. But we just watched how fickle of a fact that can be. So what happens if she disappears again?
Telegram does not currently provide a regular direct iPhone download through its website in the same way that it provides a direct Android APK. So, if Telegram disappears from the iOS App Store and you don’t already have it installed, your most practical official backup is Telegram Web.
You can open Telegram Web through Safari, log into your account, and add the website to your Home Screen so it functions more like an app.
The following directions were compiled with AI, as I am an android girly.
Apple officially supports turning a website into a Home Screen web app. The website receives its own icon and opens more like a traditional application.
This isn’t exactly the same experience as using the full Telegram iOS app, but it gives you another way to reach your account, messages, groups, and channels.
For most Android users, Google Play is the easiest installation method. Downloading through Google Play is the simplest option for beginners because Google Play normally handles updates for you.
But Android creators have another official option that iPhone creators don’t.
Telegram provides an official Android APK directly through its website. An APK is the installation file Android uses to install an application. Telegram says its direct Android version has fewer restrictions and receives automatic updates directly from Telegram.
Download Telegram Directly From Its Website
The exact wording and steps may vary depending on your Android device. Basically, download the file and follow all set up steps.
Only download the Telegram APK directly from Telegram’s official website.
Do not search for: “Telegram Premium APK” “Unlocked Telegram APK” or anything similar
A modified or fake app could expose:
The fact that Android allows direct installation is useful. It also means you are responsible for checking where the file came from.
Telegram offers an official desktop application for Windows.
The official Telegram Desktop website currently provides:
Telegram Desktop syncs with your Telegram account, so your regular cloud chats can appear on both your phone and computer.
If you are not wanting to only use Telegram web in your browser the following steps will help you donwload the app to your device:
The following steps were compiled with AI, as again, I am an adroid girly.
Telegram provides a native macOS application and includes macOS support through Telegram Desktop. The official applications page links to both choices. The easiest way is through the Mac app store.
The second option: Download Telegram Diretly
If the store disapears, Mac users do stil have an option:
The following steps were compiled with AI, still am an adroid girly.
Telegram officially offers several Linux installation methods.
These include:
All three options are available through Telegram’s official desktop download page.
The following steps were compiled with AI
Creators who already use Flatpak can select the official Flatpak option linked through Telegram’s desktop page. Your exact installation process will depend on your Linux distribution and software manager.
Telegram also offers an official Snap installation option through its desktop download page. This may be easier on systems that already support Snap packages. Linux installations can vary, so I’m not going to pretend every distribution has identical steps. The important thing is that you begin from Telegram’s official desktop page rather than downloading a similarly named package from a random website.
I remember when tiktok went down and I realized cap cut was going down with it. I made it my life’s mission to figure out how I could download that. And that was just my video editor. The thought of the app that manages 90% of my client interactions disappearing overnight is incredibly stressful. But with these many many many other options we have available for downloading Telegram, I still feel pretty damn secure that this app is going nowhere.
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We want to hear from yall so we can make this right for y'all. Please feel free to leave a comment below with what ya got, or if you aren't comfortable with it publicly posted, just shoot a modmail!
Every now and then you have someone from r/fetishwantads get banned for posting illegal requests get mad. And sometimes they start a website to get even. This is exactly how this copycat website was born.
As you can see, the disgruntled buyer took out their anger in every aspect of the site down to the blatant copyright violation in stealing the logo.
Recently we put out a post covering how to ensure you are posting on safe platforms here.
Please ensure you do your due diligence before joining this platform. Do not feel like because it is a platform that it's safe.
Please be safe, double and triple check before using any site or any subreddit and don't be fooled by copycats and scammy sites built out of anger.
Recently multiple new or developing sites/platforms have been reported to be in creators DMs, and trying to recruit. Most of these have been dangerous and concerning sites/platforms. This made the team here at Creators Spicy Tea realize that we didn’t have a resource up that covers new platform safety checks.
When you are first looking at a new platform, what are the specific areas you check to make sure the site is safe and above-board? Do you have these checks for yourself? If not, then this resource is crucial for you. In this resource we are going to cover my checks that I do when finding or being approached by a new platform.
I am talking ‘the-bar-is-in-hell’ bare minimum. My checklist is as follows:
This means the terms of service, privacy policies, community guidelines, etc. The big questions are:
Some specific areas in the legal documents will include:
This is usually all done off the site or the platform. I am usually going to be trolling creator community subreddits, deep diving in private creator communities, and on the 10th page of Google before diving into a platform. I want to know way more about them, before I help them make money off me. This usually includes:
Sometimes though, the site/platform will tell on itself. For example a team member from cherrypop(io) reached out to one of the members of Creators Resource Chats. That member noticed that the site seemed fishy as all hell right away and went in for more info. On their site they have a banner with ‘creator reviews’.
Well the CRC member got curious and tried to look into any of the mentioned creators. and all of them came back inactive. The dm interaction below is their explanation. Well, less of an explanation, more of an admission of absolute lies.
So, this shows us that if the site is listing reviews from creators, we cannot take that at face value and we need to do a bit more digging to decide for ourselves if that review is to be trusted or not.
If a platform approaches you, a lot can be inferred from how they reach out. For example if they reach out on social media:
If a site/platform reaching out to you feels sketchy, unwanted, or harassing, you can always reach out to the moderation or admin team of any community they found you on. For example if someone says they found you on r/Fetishwantads, you can report that message to the modmail and the team will action those accounts.
The best thing you can do is have your own checklist in your mind ready to go to double check the safety of new sites, before diving into them.
I stumbled upon a gold mine of a subreddit last night and it led to a four hour long deep dive into a trove of free online tools. This resource will list out a handful of the specific tools and tool collections I found that can in some way be used by adult content creators while running our businesses
This site contains 240 free developer tools and claims that no data is ever shared or sent to their servers and all tools run in browser.
Contains multiple tools for text and image management. Also claims all processing done client side in your browser.
A smaller collection of tools that seem geared to the neurodivergent for simplifying lifes big tasks.
174 tools for business, finance and general daily life.
160+ tools that claim to never include an upload to their server.
A free and crowdsourced site that compiles and makes a searchable database for free or cheaper alternatives to popular apps and services.
Freelance Pay & Tax Calculator
NDA (Non-Disclosure Agreement) Generator
Receipt Photos to PDF - Expense Report Generator
Blur / Pixelate / Redact Image
At the very beginning of this month I set a goal for myself to create 1000 New pieces of media before August hits.
Just hit it y'all! That last set of 33 pics led to 1,003 pieces of media total over the month!
My promotional calendars are scheduled out at least 2 months each. My subscription channels are scheduled out. My files are overflowing with content ready to go.
My whole reason for doing this was not only to try and get ahead, but also force myself out of a creative slump that I have been in by pushing quantity over concept. I had been so stuck in this headspace that everything needed to be an elaborate concept that it was slowing me down. It was a hard experiment but a damn fun one.
I'm going to be lazy for a bit now but I wanted to celebrate with everyone!
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The August episode on the Creators Spicy Tea podcast is going to be a round table discussion with Mistress Quynn, Thelovelykacy and Cesar focused on hard truths that we learned, and hot takes we have. We are hoping to also hear from everyone within the community! What hot takes do you have on the industry? What hard truths have you learned along the way and want to hear shared?
This could be in relation to anything from content creation, business and admin, buying content, creator interactions, and everything in between! For example one of mine as a creator is: Luck ABSOLUTELY matters in success in adult content. We would love to hear from you whether you buy or sell/create!
Responses will be shared anonymously during the podcast to protect everyone's general privacy.
That puts us in the top 20-25% of channels with at least one subscriber 🥹
Cracking that top 20% for the first time can be really really fucking hard, regardless of platform
Thank you so much for viewing, sharing, engaging, and continuing to give me a reason to dig into my passion!