u/littlebitembarassed

Last night I wanted sex but my wife wasn’t in the mood, so we decided to just cuddle before going to sleep. Normally a situation like that makes me a little aroused. I might get a boner and leak a bit, but there is never any actual danger of having an unwanted orgasm. This time though was different and it was so hot but so scary

We were just lying there in the dark. Her hand was resting on my chest and her arm was over my shoulder. There was absolutely no stimulation or contact with my dick, but I was suddenly rock hard and throbbing. Within seconds, I was balanced right on the edge of blowing my load, and stayed that way for several minutes.

The most stressful part was that I did not even want it to happen. I tried everything to mentally pull myself back, but the restraint just made the arousal build faster. My heart started racing so fast that my wife noticed and asked if I was okay. I managed to say I was fine, but internally I was losing my mind. I was paralyzed by the thought that I was about to ruin my pants right next to her without even being touched. Eventually I was able to calm down but I was so close to losing it which would have been a new low for me.

She told me she wants to have sex today instead. I am 90% sure that she is going to send a random text or a photo to tease me during the day. If she does, I’m not expecting I’ll be able to handle it. She knows exactly what she’s doing too which makes it that much hotter.

I’m pathetically quick with my wife and haven’t lasted longer than 10 seconds for months. She teases me for that all the time.

One thing that i would like to do next is start training to lose control in public. Hypno files seem to really work on me and have helped me get to this point but I just can’t seem to ever have a true hands free orgasm where I uncontrollably fill my briefs with cum. Any advice for finally getting over that hump?

Feel free to message me to chat. I’d love to get to the point where I can’t turn back even if I want to. It sounds so fucking hot

It turns me on so much to think about friends and anyone else finding out about my issues. It would be so humiliating but so hot. Unfortunately I’ve never gotten the chance to experience this. I’d love to hear stories about awkward hookups getting shared, or maybe ex girlfriends that tell everyone you can’t last or anything in between. They really are the hottest stories ever to me.

The closest I ever really came to this was on a trip to Amsterdam where my wife and I met two beautiful, young women our age on a boat ride. We met them for drinks the next day and I joked about how the average visit in the red light district was less than 5 minutes. Their reaction was laughter and disbelief that the whole visit could be that quick, as well as shame directed at those men like “geez you couldn’t slow down and enjoy it”. I’m sitting there wondering if my wife was going to throw in a “I wish my husband could last even half that time” in front of these beautiful women. I would have died of embarrassment but she (thankfully I think) just smiled and laughed along.

I was not prepared for what it would be like to really truly lose control.

For context, I haven’t had a hands free orgasm yet but I’m literally so close it almost happened in public. And having sex with my wife is basically off the table. I’m fighting for my life just to get the condom on before I burst it’s so humiliating. My wife doesn’t really care for sex anyway but the last couple of times we’ve had it she’s just taunted me asking if I’m gonna last 15 seconds. I always lie and say itll be longer but lately it’s been literally instantly. I’m pretty sure she thinks I’ll never be able to actually fuck her like a real man would and honestly she’s right. It makes her laugh so at least it’s amusing to her.

The thing that scares me is how it’s not even necessary for me to be touched and I’m squirming. It’s like I’m edging myself but without any touching. Like how am I ever supposed to fuck my wife if I’m borderline ejaculating when I’m just sitting on the couch next to her.

The chance for public humiliation is also such a scary turn on. A pretty girl in the elevator is my worst nightmare because I instantly get a pit in my stomach and a tingling sensation to go along with my uncontrollable boner. I’m literally having to jack off twice every morning just to keep these sensations at bay on a day I don’t want to deal with them.

Not gonna lie. I love it, but it’s getting scary to the point I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to last again, and hands free accidents are definitely in my future. Do I stop before I’m ruined forever or do I keep diving in head first. Might show this post to my wife and see what she thinks of the responses. I definitely think she’s considering what kind of fun she wants to have with this.