u/madonnawhore-complex

Findom mental health check in: dommes and subs, how we doing?

personally, i’m burnt out as shit, from my job, relying on stimulating myself with caffeine to focus, I think i need to get on adhd meds (I do have audhd) and then i come here and feel so bleehhh like the same old same old like it’s an ouroboros of hell findom is. i have taken a huge step back from it not because i don’t enjoy kink, or money, but mostly because of like the lack of good aftercare and like being deleted on and disrespectful approaches and dms and shit like that. egregious candidate pool, so i’ve found better ones in different reddit nsfw circles.

on top of that i’ve been barely sleeping because of my strange work hours, and the caffeine.

with the recent release of drakes abhorrent garbage that was iceman, got me thinking about music problematic faves. personally i’ll dickride a problematic artist if they can produce music slightly well. like the whole kanye situation is a mess, i didn’t really like his new album, but tbh Ye is like one of my most played albums this year. cooked. and my goat JPEGMAFIA doing poppers and dissing respected classic artists but imma still bump experimental rap. also don’t get on me for this being off topic. i genuinely give zero shits, 99% of this sub is dm bait, shitposts, and twitter domes posting captions like god forbid women have fun. who are you shamefully bumping in the big ‘26 findom?

i have several alt accounts as is the nature of reddit but one of them is simply for the purpose of just perving out. someone here enlightened me to the existence of r/manhands when i was mentioning my hand fetish on my main account awhile back and this lead me to the discovery of r/forearmporn. can we/i get a sub whose hands and arms look like that please? oh my god. like jesus fucking christ it’s like i’m ovulating but i have pcos and i haven’t had a cycle since i was 14. boys with the hands come to mama 😖😖😖😫😫😫 jkjk or am iiii.

is anyone else experiencing posting and having zero engagement? i mean literally zero, im seeing zero views on my posts and i don’t know if im like shadowbanned, having internet issues, or if theres reddit server problems. let me ask the class

any one out there absolutely fascinated by sexology? i have a few books on sex and its relation to social sciences but id love to learn more about kink and bdsm specifically, unfortunately most searches have lead me to erotica. i read this book called “A history of sexual customs” such a good read!

i’ve been craving to play some chess for some bets heavily in my favor with a sub, only issue is i’m not too great, i’ve done some research into the theory of the game, openings, midgame strategies and endgames but i always find myself outplayed. but this is findom, the odds are ever in my favor, right?

i’m making this new account to start eventually posting on. i love the new user far more than my old one, i made a fucking autocorrected typo in my last one that will forever haunt me until i delete it. i mean it’s a long time coming. i’d love to rebrand my whole account, but ill probably keep the same tags for everything and just be my freudian self on reddit lmao. i think a new start is good because ive been EXTREMELY BURNT OUT OF FINDOM. to the point ive spent nearly a month very inactive in the community and spending more time on like bdsm personals and such. a mix of the toxicity of this community and my own life draining me like i should be doing to the finsubs.