Seeking discussion/advice
Happy Monday 🧚🏼♀️
I went to a M&G tonight! Everything went pretty well, but there was a moment that really stuck out to me. I’d like to paraphrase and ask general commentary on whether my response to his question was insulting/harsh.
We were talking about approaching people in real life, and he basically asked - “How would a guy know if he is attractive to a girl like me/how can a guy know whether i am genuinely sexually attracted to him as opposed to faking it?”
Now, fair warning, I already know how my response could be taken as offensive. I’m not known for being subtle, and I’ve always been told that my bluntness will get me in sticky situations.
To paraphrase, I basically said something like:
If my demographic doesn't normally approach you then you're probably not attractive to us. If you are approached rarely/out of the ordinary it's because someone has recognised you can offer something other than physical looks. But sexual attraction can develop - I’m a sapiosexual, and Im also attracted when someone can recognise this fact of patriarchal heteronormative capitalism and dive head first into a provider/mentor role. If I'm being looked after, and my SD is intelligent enough to understand that his wallet and his personality is what turns me on about him, then who cares if there's no real physical attraction. I still want to please him, and enjoy when he's pleasing me.
……should I keep something like this to myself next time and just lie with my answer?
He seemed colder after he came back from the bathroom and he hasn’t texted since we parted ways outside the restaurant.
Edit:
a) guys I am real, I’m not AI, I just have an extensive vocabulary and I’m passionate about a lot of social injustice.
b) I SAID that I was paraphrasing - I did not actually pull out “ patriarchal heteronormative capitalism” - his questioning and my answer was a few back-and-forths. I’m just summarising my point about the way the western societal system is to him, to you guys.