Hey everyone! I purchased a Cobra N(black) from Kink3D a a few months ago. My wife and I have just gotten serious about chastity in our relationship and after trying on the Cobra it doesn’t fit like I want. I was wondering if anyone had a Baby Cobra or Baby Viper cage they would trade. I will obviously clean and sanitize mine even though I’ve worn it once. Not looking to trade the base ring. Let me know if yall have anything!
My wife(30F) and I(30M) have dabbled with chastity over the last three years. Always short term stuff. One day she asked if I could put on my cage again. I used that to open a conversation about us getting more serious about it. I had her read this website.
https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/introduction
If you are trying to get your wife to understand chastity and the benefits for her and the benefits for you, I highly suggest this website.
After having her read it we sat down and read through it together and had a serious and open discussion about what each of us wanted. We put the website up on the TV and went through it page by page talking about what aspects we liked, what aspects we didn’t, and things it talked about that hadn’t occurred to her. It was a very eye opening experience for her and a very productive conversation for me.
We ended up agreeing to a long term trial run. We agreed to 24/7 wear, she holds the key, only she can unlock me, and her needs are prioritized over mine. That is something she said she has a hard time with. I told her I wanted her to be selfish in bed. The act of pleasing her pleases me, and every time we have intimacy the cage doesn’t need to come off. In fact it rarely needs to come off for that. She also had a hard time with using it as a “punishment”. So I didn’t push that further.
Throughout the five years we have been married we have always struggled with penetration. She was a virgin when we started dating and she is tight. Like medically tight if that makes sense. That has caused us to not be as intimate because she ends up feeling like something is wrong with her and I end up feeling like she is not attracted to me. I presented this as a long term solution to that problem. Something where penetration is not expected and we can be intimate without it.
I am at a week locked now. It’s not the longest I’ve been locked, but it is the longest in years and the longest without being self locked. It’s different for me having a serious key holder because before if I didn’t want to do it or wasn’t in the mood I could just take it off. Now she holds the key and I don’t have the option of taking it off. I like it, but it makes me nervous, but in a good way.
If anyone has any thoughts or suggestions on activities or toys or anything that we can incorporate into this I would appreciate it. Or if there is anyone with a vanilla keyholder that can give advice on how they expended the keyholders horizons I would love to hear!
Hey everyone! I purchased a Cobra N(black) from Kink3D a a few months ago. My wife and I have just gotten serious about chastity in our relationship and after trying on the Cobra it doesn’t fit like I want. I was wondering if anyone had a Baby Cobra or Baby Viper cage they would trade. I will obviously clean and sanitize mine even though I’ve worn it once. Not looking to trade the base ring. Let me know if yall have anything!