Sir is upset. What do I do?
Hi! Long time lurker, first time poster here. I am looking for an advice how to take care of my Sir. Sir is upset about things I didn’t do.
My Sir and I met about a month ago. We both felt this instant intense attraction to each other. Prior to committing to the dynamic, we discuss our limits. One of them is no PIV sex, but anal is fine. Last week we met for our first play session and we discussed to try anal. This is my first in person dynamic and will be my first time anal.
During the play, he said the right words and did the right things. My brain was a mush and my body couldn’t help it but just to submit. I felt held and appreciated throughout the time. Towards the ends after he edged me four times, I said ‘please fuck my ass, Sir.’ At this point I was a dripping mess. Then he made himself hard and in a single thrust, he’s inside me. I felt him in my pussy, NOT my ass.
I was surprised but it felt incredible. I had thought that maybe he changed his mind last minute. I checked in and asked ‘are you okay?’, he said yes. He checked back with me and I said yes. I felt like I was in floating in space and I let him cum inside me, when he asked.
It was the best sex I had in my entire life. I thought I had great sex before, but I was so wrong. The power dynamic took it to the next level then just a vanilla sex.
So the next day, he texted me ‘was that really your first time anal?’ . My blissful bubble of oxytocin high just burst. I called him immediately and explained that it went in the wrong hole. He was pretty upset about it and said that I should’ve said something. He felt I crossed the line, crossed his boundary, that he felt violated.
I’m aware that I should have said something. I was so deep in sub space , full in total surrender, my judgement was clouded, and I couldn’t say a word to do the right thing. My Sir is upset and we are in an awkward position now. How should I diffuse the situation? How can I move past this?
Appreciate any thoughts and advice.. I will take it as a learning experience for me, since it’s my first in person play session. Thank you!
EDIT: thank you so much for all the response. I have a tendency to be hard on myself, but I felt supported and am able to find my ground back. Thank you.
There are definitely lots of learning experience for me around limits, communication, what to look out for in a Dom.