My wife made me pussyfree a few years ago and took a lover. They became very close and I was eventually moved into the spare room when they became exclusive. They began taking trips and presenting as a couple in public. For numerous reasons, I agreed to this arrangement and don’t interfere with their life together. To stay out of their hair when requested, I started fishing a lot. This past Christmas they sent out Christmas cards as a couple to select friends updating them on their status. The card briefly mentioned that I was still around and would “always be family” but filled my time “fishing and helping out around the house”. I was unaware of the card until a couple of weeks passed. The angst was unbearable because I don’t know which friends received it and my wife stayed mum. She told me to trust her. She only sent cards to people who were already aware of our arrangement or affected intimately by it. I eventually just assumed everyone knew I was replaced as her romantic partner. But that’s not the wild part.
When my wife and I bought our house, I remembered our realtor had some discrete tattoos that gave vibes (and said some things) indicating that she might be in an open marriage. During our home inspection I remember her being flirty (very subtle) when it was just us two alone. I overlooked it because my wife and I weren’t into that at the time. But she was definitely beautiful and my type. So I ran into our realtor at a store and decided to see if there was anything there and took a risk even though I was very rusty at being dominant. She was very warm and after chatting for only a few minutes, I awkwardly asked if she wanted to grab a coffee sometime. She looked at me very softly then casually mentioned that she had received a Christmas card from my wife and had a coffee date planned with her next week to “discuss some things”. She kindly patted my shoulder before she amusingly walked away.
She told my wife about the date offer. My wife was amused at the rejection. It turned out that she and my wife had reconnected through mutual friends since the home purchase. They were close couple friends. I later learned she and her husband were planning on joining my wife and her boyfriend on a trip.
My wife and I had a conversation to confirm that we were still okay with the arrangements. She expressed being disappointment that I would ask someone out without telling her and quietly alluded to having to “re-evaluate” the status of our marriage if I can’t abide by the arrangement. Lesson learned.