u/muttranger

As a new SD on SA this month, observing the way SBs connect with me from different locations, it is clear that SBs are mostly motivated by the money, and very few actually take the time to have a normal conversation beyond "hey" to understand what SDs are looking for and if they are a match.

As to my motivation, it stems from a desire to meet new people and make connections in places where I travel to, not necessarily sex, but unfortunately, we seem to live in a transactional world. Maybe I am looking in the wrong place.

I'd be interested in both SB and SD perspectives - is it possible to have a social interaction in person for a few hours with someone you seem to have a connection on the app, without it leading to a longer relationship?

Assuming of course, the SD takes care of the incidentals (drink/meal). I guess that would be a M&G, and if both are inclined physically, can become a ppm.

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As a newbie SD, if you had a choice between

1. An SB who is both physically and mentally attracted to SD, but is a 4-5 for the SD in terms of physical attributes.

2. An SB who is a high 8-10 physically for the SD, but it's taking time to connect with.

Which one has a better chance of a good SR either short or long term ?

Of course ideally it is a complete package..

This is just crazy... I have been messaging with potential SBs in this city, for a potential meeting a couple of months later.

Except for SB who was fine with it, every other SB irrespective of age wants an online engagement, advance payment for pics or bills.. one of them in her late 30s, asked me how my search was going, and when I mentioned I was mostly hearing from scammers, she said she was not... She asked me what I was looking for, and when I mentioned that it was going to be a short term engagement, which may not be what she was looking for, she takes a day to think, and asks me if I was open to online fun in the meantime.. 😕..

This is the only city where almost everyone I have reached out to, seems to be desperate for cash.

I have had 3 women ask for money even before meeting - all from Toronto, and 3 women who say they are in Bangkok , but their location is Poland..

What's your experience of scammers vs real SB responses on SA? I have had less than 5 proper conversations out of the 50 or so that were in contact..