Am I actually into this, or is it just something that only appeals to me in the moment?
I’ve been trying to figure myself out, and I’m curious if anyone else has gone through this.
There are times when the idea of my partner being with another man feels incredibly compelling. I can spend hours reading stories, browsing discussions, and imagining what that kind of dynamic would be like. In those moments, it feels like something I’d genuinely want to experience.
But once that feeling fades, I’m left feeling embarrassed that I was even thinking about it. I start questioning myself and wondering whether it’s just something my mind gets caught up in during those moments rather than something I’d actually want in real life.
It’s confusing because both mindsets feel completely genuine while I’m in them.
For those who eventually embraced this lifestyle, did you go through the same cycle at first? How did you know it wasn’t just something driven by arousal, but something you genuinely wanted to explore?
I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been through this. Thanks.