I have never cum from anything except a vibrator and it’s ruining my relationships
Hello everyone I am currently seeing a guy and he is amazing in every way but we are struggling with sex and I need advice
So he is kinda inexperienced and I guess I am the more experienced one but not really because I have never actually had great sex either. Even with past partners who had bigger penises it was never amazing. I have never orgasmed from penetrative sex or oral, only ever from strong vibration. So in a way we are both figuring this out together.
He doesn’t have the biggest member and it’s on the thinner side so it slips out a lot, I think because I get really wet. The position that works best is legs on his shoulders, feels really good but always hits a plateau. When I added vibration in that position he actually came inside me for the first time which was a big deal. But I had to use it after with just him inside not thrusting because my brain genuinely cannot process two stimulations at once.
Right now I use my vibrator while he jerks off because he likes seeing me feel good and honestly same. But he feels like this isn’t sustainable and worries he can’t satisfy me long term. He feels like he’s failing. I really like him and don’t want to lose him over this.
Oral feels nice but never enough to finish. When he uses the toy on me, it’s a curved vibrating one and he uses it on me properly and everything builds and feels REALLY good or like I need to pee but I just cannot get there. So frustrating. I have squirted before with a past partner who had a bigger penis so I know something works somewhere lol.
I also think I might have a really small clitoris, like no visible tip the way most people seem to have. Thinking of getting a wand since it might be more powerful and easier to hold.
My actual questions:
Has anyone who has only ever cum from a vibrator managed to cum from oral or with a smaller penis? Is it even possible or is that just not how some people are built? Did I desensitize myself from vibrators or is that a myth? Does anyone else have a really small clit and what helped? When everything builds but you just cannot cross the finish line has anyone overcome that? Do I need a wand?
TLDR: I can only cum from strong vibration, my brain shuts down with too much stimulation, penetration feels good but plateaus, and my partner worries he can’t satisfy me long term. Is any of this normal and can it get better?