Is it normal to have issues getting a boner during sex when clothes are off?
I'm nearly 30 and have only had very few sexual experiences, none of which have ended up with any penetration. At most it was makeout sessions or sucking - both of which I love . I don't HAVE to have anal, but I would like to try it (both top and bottom).
However, I find myself having trouble staying hard when intimate. I would say I have fairly normal libido, got morning wood, I jerk off daily (some days I'm super horny). In the presence of another guy, when we make out and we touch each other BEFORE we undress, I'm super bricked up.
But the moment clothes start coming off, I just completely flap. And I feel like this turns off a lot of guys too, as they feel like I don't find them sexy enough to get a boner.
Perhaps I get into my head too much, but I don't find myself thinking about whether I'm liked or not. Though my mind does go all over the place. I'm in imaginary situations. I'm having imaginary conversations with people, I'm suddenly recalling some random conversation from 3 weeks ago. Maybe there is some discomfort and my brain's way of dealing it is to bury itself in some random shit.
Anyone else had similar problems? How did you solve them? Some guys are more patient than others, but I do get a feeling after a few times with the same one that there's this "well when is it going to work" type of attitude.