(CW) Feeling weird about the realization I have a cnc kink

To clarify Im not trying to sound kink shame-y, especially considering this is about my own thoughts on it but to make sure nobody takes it the wrong way ^

Me and my girlfriend have both talked intensively about scenes where I say ‘no’ and beg but don’t actually mean so unless its a safeword. We’ve had alot of talk about forced orgasms and denial periods, and recently things like kidnapping or powerplay has came up (specifically ghost face lmao) and she pointed out alot of my kinks are CNC adjacent. And then eventually just said bluntly that more than likely had a cnc kink.

At first I admittedly was very against it. I guess I hold my own not great biases against it. Me and her have both history of sexual misconduct in our childhoods (being vague) so it feels less like an unsafe situation in my mind with her, if that makes any sense? Plus we’ve also been very sure about using safe words and respecting them both ways.

I think in my head when I think CNC i think guy hiding his rape kink, honestly. But at some point of telling her that I want her to chase me in a ghost face mask and hold a fake knife to my throat definitely made it undeniable 😭 like omg.

Idk how to get over that big discomfort around using that title when thats quite literally what it is. Its nothing shes doing so I know for a fact its just in my own head. But regardless I can’t help but associate CNC with the most extreme form of it

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u/pawvertedd — 22 hours ago

Handling denial during shark week?

Please only AFAB responses (not exlusive to cis women but to those with afab anatomy). Sorry if this isn’t as sexy as other posts, its a genuine question and I wanna figure out methods to the madness lol

Recently I had an accidental orgasm and really really wanna start my denial streak over. But I have a really big adversion to doing anything too early in my cycle, especially with cramps and general feeling grossness. Im not against grinding or friction against, just any direction touch on my lower body until the first bit ends tends to kind of gross me out unless I’m maybe in the shower and it’ll all wash off anyways. But I do really want to stay horny and make my girlfriend proud of me, and make sure I stay a good girl for her.

How do others handle it? I considered focusing more on grinding and nipple play, but that can get boring quickly. Any ideas, stories, ect ect?

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u/pawvertedd — 16 days ago

Had an orgasm during a denial punishment

Accidental orgasm, kinda nervous about what comes next

Huge fuck up. Ive been supposed to be on denial for four weeks, a whole month, and I came last night when I was a quarter of the way through. And I regret it so much

I was on day twelve, and I was constantly aching and my clit was sore and uncomfortable. My girlfriend was busy for most of the day, so she made her orders in the morning through text. Three spanks on my pussy, and then three edges. The night before I had caught a bit of an attitude, so that was supposed to be a punishment until she got to me later. I begged her for more, and she told me to leave the toy inside of me all day, and turn it on every two hours for ten minutes.

It killeddd me, I kept twitching around it and grinding into a pillow throughout the two hours I couldn’t do anything. For the ten minutes I could, I put it immediately on full vibration and thrusting. The first time I edged seven times. The second time I think maybe four. Each of those times I turned it off the second I felt myself get too close, recovered for less than a second, and then turned it back on and built it up again. The third time my girlfriend was back, she made me hold it off for as long as possible, and then turned it off and let me keep it inside for a bit longer before I took it out.

I still remember the aching, the way my pussy would clench around nothing constantly and how sensitive I was. I really miss it. I miss that level of devotion to her, even though it was originally a punishment it started to feel less like one and more like I was being good for her.

Then we get on the phone, she decides to do a similar format all night long. Fifteen minutes with the toy on low, not enough for me to get close but enough for me to get progressively more wet and needing more. And then five minutes with it on max, she told me she wouldn’t turn it off. I’d better try my best not to get close, cause if I did, I’d have to hold it for whatever time I had left. Any mistakes ment two weeks added and hell to pay. The fifteen minutes felt like hell, I grinded the toy in my hand as if that was gonna help much. The five minutes was where everything got fucked up.

I lasted literally like two fucking minutes before I got close. And it didn’t feel like something I could hold off. But I tried, I really tried! I begged her to stop for maybe a few seconds before I felt it, it was honestly really strong and to the point I forgot how to speak for a second. My legs curled into my chest and it felt really good to finally cum, but also really really bad. She stopped once she noticed my moans, when I cum she says I make a small choking sound before I do. Like my voice gets stuck in my throat. She asked me if I came, and I hesitantly said yes. I was really scared of what was gonna come, I knew she was gonna overstimulate and yell at me. And she did.

For the rest of the night, she drained every bit I had left in my pussy out. She made me cum with my clit I think two or three more times, and squirt at-least three times. Back to back, so there was a release, but a painful one. I begged her to not extend the punishment for a second, but mostly I just kept repeating that I was sorry. That it was an accident, she knew it wasn’t on purpose, Im a good girl for her.

Maybe all that hypnosis crap and repeating little mantras about how good girls don’t cum really fucked with me. Honestly I partially thought most of it was just dirty talking and playing into the scene, until I genuinely started craving her approval. I always liked it when she called me a good girl, when she told me I was a good slut making her proud. But recently I catch myself kind of \*needing\* it? Like making her upset is the worst thing I could do. I want her to tell me I’m daddys good girl, that I take everything so well. Which is weird. Not that I didn’t care before, but usually I was a brat for the opposite. Her punishing me, telling me I needed to be taught a lesson, spanking and overstimulating me endlessly until I cracked and apologized just to do it all over again.

Even though she wasn’t being necessarily harsh, I think me repeating over and over in a cracked voice that I was sorry and it was really an accident probably got to her too, I just feel kind of disappointed. In myself, I think? The way it doesn’t hurt anymore. The way I didn’t listen to what she wanted. And especially now that my pussy feels satisfied, theres no ache, theres no strain. Before I couldn’t wait for it to go away and now I really just want it back. Ughhhhh. She did reassure me alot that after six weeks it’d be ten times worse, especially since I came in the middle of it, but like..still.

Anyway, I know she’s reading this so I’m sorry again daddy. I’ll make it up to you.

Any ideas on punishments, getting me needy again as quick as possible? As of right now I think when she wakes up she’s gonna have me spank my pussy again. We’re adding two weeks to the original four week plan, totaling six weeks. Is there anything I can do to make this up to her quickly, be her good girl again?

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u/pawvertedd — 17 days ago

Accidental orgasm, kinda nervous about what comes next

Huge fuck up. Ive been supposed to be on denial for four weeks, a whole month, and I came last night when I was a quarter of the way through. And I regret it so much

I was on day twelve, and I was constantly aching and my clit was sore and uncomfortable. My girlfriend was busy for most of the day, so she made her orders in the morning through text. Three spanks on my pussy, and then three edges. The night before I had caught a bit of an attitude, so that was supposed to be a punishment until she got to me later. I begged her for more, and she told me to leave the toy inside of me all day, and turn it on every two hours for ten minutes.

It killeddd me, I kept twitching around it and grinding into a pillow throughout the two hours I couldn’t do anything. For the ten minutes I could, I put it immediately on full vibration and thrusting. The first time I edged seven times. The second time I think maybe four. Each of those times I turned it off the second I felt myself get too close, recovered for less than a second, and then turned it back on and built it up again. The third time my girlfriend was back, she made me hold it off for as long as possible, and then turned it off and let me keep it inside for a bit longer before I took it out.

I still remember the aching, the way my pussy would clench around nothing constantly and how sensitive I was. I really miss it. I miss that level of devotion to her, even though it was originally a punishment it started to feel less like one and more like I was being good for her.

Then we get on the phone, she decides to do a similar format all night long. Fifteen minutes with the toy on low, not enough for me to get close but enough for me to get progressively more wet and needing more. And then five minutes with it on max, she told me she wouldn’t turn it off. I’d better try my best not to get close, cause if I did, I’d have to hold it for whatever time I had left. Any mistakes ment two weeks added and hell to pay. The fifteen minutes felt like hell, I grinded the toy in my hand as if that was gonna help much. The five minutes was where everything got fucked up.

I lasted literally like two fucking minutes before I got close. And it didn’t feel like something I could hold off. But I tried, I really tried! I begged her to stop for maybe a few seconds before I felt it, it was honestly really strong and to the point I forgot how to speak for a second. My legs curled into my chest and it felt really good to finally cum, but also really really bad. She stopped once she noticed my moans, when I cum she says I make a small choking sound before I do. Like my voice gets stuck in my throat. She asked me if I came, and I hesitantly said yes. I was really scared of what was gonna come, I knew she was gonna overstimulate and yell at me. And she did.

For the rest of the night, she drained every bit I had left in my pussy out. She made me cum with my clit I think two or three more times, and squirt at-least three times. Back to back, so there was a release, but a painful one. I begged her to not extend the punishment for a second, but mostly I just kept repeating that I was sorry. That it was an accident, she knew it wasn’t on purpose, Im a good girl for her.

Maybe all that hypnosis crap and repeating little mantras about how good girls don’t cum really fucked with me. Honestly I partially thought most of it was just dirty talking and playing into the scene, until I genuinely started craving her approval. I always liked it when she called me a good girl, when she told me I was a good slut making her proud. But recently I catch myself kind of *needing* it? Like making her upset is the worst thing I could do. I want her to tell me I’m daddys good girl, that I take everything so well. Which is weird. Not that I didn’t care before, but usually I was a brat for the opposite. Her punishing me, telling me I needed to be taught a lesson, spanking and overstimulating me endlessly until I cracked and apologized just to do it all over again.

Even though she wasn’t being necessarily harsh, I think me repeating over and over in a cracked voice that I was sorry and it was really an accident probably got to her too, I just feel kind of disappointed. In myself, I think? The way it doesn’t hurt anymore. The way I didn’t listen to what she wanted. And especially now that my pussy feels satisfied, theres no ache, theres no strain. Before I couldn’t wait for it to go away and now I really just want it back. Ughhhhh. She did reassure me alot that after six weeks it’d be ten times worse, especially since I came in the middle of it, but like..still.

Anyway, I know she’s reading this so I’m sorry again daddy. I’ll make it up to you.

Any ideas on punishments, getting me needy again as quick as possible? As of right now I think when she wakes up she’s gonna have me spank my pussy again. We’re adding two weeks to the original four week plan, totaling six weeks. Is there anything I can do to make this up to her quickly, be her good girl again?

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u/pawvertedd — 18 days ago

On day twelve of denial

On day twelve and im losing my mind

Currently sitting with a toy deep in my pussy, its off and I cant turn it on for another hour. Kill me now

To refresh anyones memory who hasn’t seen my other posts, I’m on a month long denial because I really pushed my girlfriends limits. I came without permission multiple times, talked back, and laughed at her when I did it. She was gonna let me cum for a couple days, overstimulate me and surpise me one night with edging, but I really just wanted her to do it and stop overstimulating me. I came more times without any permission, and told her about it to make her angry enough to start.

I regret it so fucking much. I keep begging her for any way to cum, even tried convincing her that me squirting wouldn’t count.

Yesterday I got an reward to solo masturbate. She told me to stop at four edges but I honestly spent most of my day rubbing my clit to the edge, stopping, getting too horny again to fully stop and do my chores, and repeat. She wanted me to get on the phone with her and her friends, and I got really bratty about it and complained endlessly through text until she let me go. She didn’t forget about my attitude though, and when I woke up in the morning I woke up to her ordering me to spank my pussy and edge three more times. After, keeping the toy in and only turning it on every two hours for ten minutes. I can’t turn it back on till 1:30 and w 12:40 while I’m writing this. Im dreading it because I know ten minutes will only fuck me over more, but at the same time Im dying for any extra stimulation other than feeling myself warming this stupid toy.

One week and some change down,, three more to go,, yay…I can’t wait for this to be over

Small update since I copy pasted this from r/femaleorgasmdenial
I finally got to turn it on and I edged 7 times in ten minutes. I hope she loved the video of me leaking for her

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u/pawvertedd — 18 days ago

On day twelve of denial

On day twelve and im losing my mind

Currently sitting with a toy deep in my pussy, its off and I cant turn it on for another hour. Kill me now

To refresh anyones memory who hasn’t seen my other posts, I’m on a month long denial because I really pushed my girlfriends limits. I came without permission multiple times, talked back, and laughed at her when I did it. She was gonna let me cum for a couple days, overstimulate me and surpise me one night with edging, but I really just wanted her to do it and stop overstimulating me. I came more times without any permission, and told her about it to make her angry enough to start.

I regret it so fucking much. I keep begging her for any way to cum, even tried convincing her that me squirting wouldn’t count.

Yesterday I got an reward to solo masturbate. She told me to stop at four edges but I honestly spent most of my day rubbing my clit to the edge, stopping, getting too horny again to fully stop and do my chores, and repeat. She wanted me to get on the phone with her and her friends, and I got really bratty about it and complained endlessly through text until she let me go. She didn’t forget about my attitude though, and when I woke up in the morning I woke up to her ordering me to spank my pussy and edge three more times. After, keeping the toy in and only turning it on every two hours for ten minutes. I can’t turn it back on till 1:30 and w 12:40 while I’m writing this. Im dreading it because I know ten minutes will only fuck me over more, but at the same time Im dying for any extra stimulation other than feeling myself warming this stupid toy.

One week and some change down,, three more to go,, yay…I can’t wait for this to be over

Small update since I copy pasted this from r/femaleorgasmdenial
I finally got to turn it on and I edged 7 times in ten minutes. I hope she loved the video of me leaking for her

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u/pawvertedd — 18 days ago
▲ 22 r/BDSMsapphic+1 crossposts

Day twelve and I’m losing my mindd

Currently sitting with a toy deep in my pussy, its off and I cant turn it on for another hour. Kill me now

To refresh anyones memory who hasn’t seen my other posts, I’m on a month long denial because I really pushed my girlfriends limits. I came without permission multiple times, talked back, and laughed at her when I did it. She was gonna let me cum for a couple days, overstimulate me and surpise me one night with edging, but I really just wanted her to do it and stop overstimulating me. I came more times without any permission, and told her about it to make her angry enough to start.

I regret it so fucking much. I keep begging her for any way to cum, even tried convincing her that me squirting wouldn’t count.

Yesterday I got an reward to solo masturbate. She told me to stop at four edges but I honestly spent most of my day rubbing my clit to the edge, stopping, getting too horny again to fully stop and do my chores, and repeat. She wanted me to get on the phone with her and her friends, and I got really bratty about it and complained endlessly through text until she let me go. She didn’t forget about my attitude though, and when I woke up in the morning I woke up to her ordering me to spank my pussy and edge three more times. After, keeping the toy in and only turning it on every two hours for ten minutes. I can’t turn it back on till 1:30 and w 12:40 while I’m writing this. Im dreading it because I know ten minutes will only fuck me over more, but at the same time Im dying for any extra stimulation other than feeling myself warming this stupid toy.

One week and some change down,, three more to go,, yay…I can’t wait for this to be over

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u/pawvertedd — 19 days ago
▲ 23 r/femaleorgasmcontrol+1 crossposts

jealousy from seeing other women cumming

Does anyone else get insanely jealous watching other women cum? My girlfriend loves using this against me, and having me hold off from my own orgasm to cum in my ear before she turns off my vibrator. I always get a mix of jealousy and anger in my stomach, but instead of lashing out like I usually would and saying something bratty, I’ve been being good and (begrudgingly) saying thank you. I get a similar, but less intense, feeling watching gifs of other women cum on reddit or in erotica and my page is full of it. Fucks me up soo bad.

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u/pawvertedd — 19 days ago

Ignoring my clit

* please dont DM i have a gf, u will be promptly ignored

Me and my girlfriend have been playing with the idea of ignoring my clit during sessions. It started when she was ontop of me fucking me with her strap, and she outright refused to let me rub myself to an orgasm for a while. Once she let me it was one of my hardest orgasms yet, I think about that often.

Now Im on day seven of denial and we spent the last time we were otp ignoring my clit in favor of fucking myself with my toy. The only time I got permission was to tease it, and being told that it was useless and all I needed was my hole. Which for the most part I can’t cum from, it was killlingg me. But I felt weirdly satisfied after, the ache quieted down as if I had came even though I know I didn’t.

I wouldn’t want this to be a 24/7 no touch thing, I think that would become unfun for me since I have a heavy preference for it, but as a common thing as a punishment it sounds fun. We’ve talked about getting something to numb my clit or a chastity cage (far in the future for this one) especially for punishments. Any ideas or recommendations? I really want her to fuck me up. But I also wanna be safe about it and keep myself from having any loss in nerves or sensitivity, especially with anything numbing or causing light pain/warmth

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u/pawvertedd — 21 days ago

mantra ideas?

Me (18f) and my girlfriend (18f) have been experimenting with new ideas in keeping me denied for the four weeks as Ive said before. Im kinda interested in saying little ‘mantras’ while she edges me and having me repeat it till I believe it. So far all we have is good girls dont cum without permission but I want more things to give her as amo lmao. Nothing penis/male adjacent (lesbian rls and all) or with nicknames like ‘puppy’ or petpay related since ive seen alot of that

thanks :3

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u/pawvertedd — 23 days ago

Kinda regretting poking the bear

So me (18f) and my gf (18f) have had a set dynamic for basically as long as we’ve known each other and rules. Dont talk back, say things like yes ma’am or yes daddy, and especially no touching without permission. Theres absolutely no way in hell I can get permission aside from rewards though our obedience app, which im now in the absolute negatives in points.

awhile ago I really wanted to see how many buttons I could push before I got the biggest punishment yet. Usually denial periods maybe last a week, she really enjoys watching me get overstimulated if we’re otp or spanking me if we’re in person. But Ive always been really really into edging and denial, so I decided to see if enough pushing back could get it. And holy fuck im regretting that decision.

Even if I had or didn’t have rewards I touched myself till I came repeatedly, sometimes while we were otp and she wasn’t paying attention, other times when she was busy or asleep. And I told her everything, and at first she was annoyed. Then angry. She decided I needed something long term to get through my head that this was a privilege, not just something I could do whenever I felt like it. She decided a month (four weeks) would be enough.

On top of that, leading up to it she overstimulated me. Making me cum once twelve times to make sure the four weeks felt like hell. I felt like she was taking too long to start it. She wanted to overstimulate me for days, maybe a week then start, but I hated that. I wanted her to just start. And i regret that so much, id kill to cum twelve times again. We’re maybe a couple days in and Im constantly a little wet, one time I panicked and thought it was that time of the month (gross ik) and when I checked it was genuinely just wetness between my legs.

The first night I really pushed her. I made myself cum three times on my own and came back to her being really bratty. I wanted it, i wanted her to make me regret it. and she really really did. After edging me I dont even remember how many times, she made me listen while I sat with a pillow between my legs, not even grinding against it, while she came twice. I remember cursing her out for that one, probably didn’t help me much

Yesterday we went to a waterpark arcade thingy, and we went into the stall twice for quickies. Each time she didn’t let me cum, and made me leave and walk around like that. My thighs rubbing together was the cherry on top of fucking agony.

A big part of me loves it, but another part is so willing to do anything to get rid of this ache. I gave her so many ideas for this and Im a little scared of how shes gonna run with it. Like spanking my ass or pussy after a hard edge, or putting something to numb my clit which is one of the only ways I can cum while she fucks me. There’s no talking her out of this. I love my sadist

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u/pawvertedd — 24 days ago