r/BDSMsapphic

Met this 23 year old transfemme (i'm 19) online and fuck I really liked her. Our kinks matched, we talked for over an hour on call, texted basically every day and were planning to meet up this weekend when I told her off the cuff (yes this is my fault) that I've actually never kissed anyone before and made a couple jokes about her "preying on tender youth" (the joking is just how I am, i'm pretty pugnacious and bratty and I thought this was another part of the bit. Hell, I joked about her having a fucking coke nail.)

Anyway. She texts me at 12:41 am canceling and saying she feels like she's taking advantage of me and I'm just fucking sad. Like 1) she's not though, we literally sexted last night and the only reason I haven't kissed anyone is because I dated men and I didn't wanna get physical and 2) idk, it just feels like it's all my fault for saying stupid dumb shit and losing the one person that was into me for a while.

The date was supposed to be 10am today and I literally set an alarm 3 hours early for it...fuck.

Any of the dating apps work for you? I'm really just looking for fun over long term since I'll be in a different city come fall. Should I bother replying / arguing with that girl I was talking to? My gut told me to reply with "ok" and so I did but now I kinda hate myself for not trying harder

I think this is something I’ve always possibly known in the back of my head but I’ve just connected the dots. As much as kink shaming is “not acceptable” behaviour, the energy of it comes through in most degradation in healthy ways. The way it triggers my sub space when someone is surprised at the fact that I’m into a certain kink or fetish…

*Omg that’s so nasty! I never would have expected that from you*

Like it’s not inherently shaming me, but the idea that something is so filthy that it shocks people I think are loosely tied. The concept that I (or the way I present myself in vanilla life) shouldn’t be into something just SENDS me into it more.

Probably not the best articulation of that thought pattern but yeah

My gf always gently corrects me when I do something wrong. The other day we were out on a walk and I accidentally took the wrong turn, she gave me a light slap on the ass and then pointed me in the right direction.

It’s little things like these that make me love being submissive for her. She often knows what’s going on, but she still lets me make mistakes and then gently teaches me the right way while reminding me who’s in charge and why.

She’s so much smarter than me, so our dynamic feels so natural. When she lets me lead and I inevitably mess up, she disciplines me gently and picks up the pieces. She calls this training. It’s so effective because instead of simply listening to why she is in charge of me, I get to actually experience it firsthand. She jokes that she wants to get me to the point where if she says the sun is the moon I agree.

She wants me trained so well that I look to her before anyone else, and that I have no other thoughts except the ones she puts in my head. Sometimes I get a bit bratty and forget my training but a hard fuck usually gets me back in my place. Does anyone else do this w their gf?

I’m not going to reassure you that I won’t drop you. Not all the time at least.

Of course there are always exceptions to that rule, bad days and arguments will still be a thing; but in general, I try to avoid forming a pattern.

It’s a boundary for me, not because I’m heartless or because I actually would, but because I need to be trusted in my decisions.

I’m a frighteningly blunt, university educated woman with over a decade being an adult. I’ve had time to work out what I want, and if I’ve decided on you, it’s because I see something in you I like.

The door is not locked, so if I’m here, it’s because I want to be. Of course, I know I’m signing up for that anxiety and I’m prepared for it, but that does not mean I’m willing to enable the pattern.

Because it is enabling.

In my experience of anxiety and self esteem issues, I will never be able to reassure you enough that I’m not leaving. If a pattern starts to appear where you’re coming to me consistently for reassurance without being able to settle yourself, that tells me I need to support you into professional care.

It tells me I’m becoming a backstop where emotional management and distress tolerance are being replaced with immediate comfort and fresh promises. Neither are helpful to your overall health or the health of our relationship.

As a Domme, I’m not the one to heal your abandonment wounds. That responsibility lays squarely with a therapist. I can support you to find that care, but I will not myself become it.

If you’re my submissive, I respect you well enough to not pretend I can counteract everyone who has ever abandoned you. You deserve the support to heal those parts of yourself.

The feeling rising in your chest that you’re a bad person, or that these words are rejection in themselves? That feeling needs a comfortable couch and a kindly person with an hourly rate.

And when that session is done, we’ll go get ice cream and enjoy being together. That is how I support you as your Domme.

All I can do is show you the water under the bridge, it’s up to you to look up river.

Okay so nowadays I feel so horny. I mean I have only one thing in my mind 24/7 : (imagining fucking someone and getting fucked by someone). I always have the sensation down there!

But I'm single lol. So all I can do is making myself happy on my own!

Is there any one feeling the same , wanna dm ?

I’ve been pretty horny lately and today I decided to fuck myself for the first time in awhile and it wasn’t very….satisfying. I ruined my own mood by thinking about my singleness and gave up. I’m tired of being alone. I never had intimacy my whole life and getting myself off just isn’t working anymore (for a while actually…..)

I just wanna get fucked. I wanna get talked through it. But the thing is I don’t just want sex and that’s what everyone wants nowadays 😭 I hadn’t felt true satisfaction and I feel like I could only get that from someone else.

Ughhh

The feminine urge to tie up a cute girl and torture her with undescribable pain and have her cum to it just so you can hold her in your arms when she cries, twitches and thanks you for everything after 🤭💋

Hello! I recently decided I'd like to attend a play party that is femdom led! I've never been to a play party or dunegon or anything other than a munch and classes, so I was curious what I should wear. The post said submissives should wear clothes that are "submissive" or "respectful". Any ideas of things I could wear? Or examples of what submissives have worn or dommes would want submissives to wear at a femdom led play party?

My Domme gf and I are spending the summer in different cities, we had a suuuuper intense goodbye last night and it made me feel even more submissive than ever bc she gave me a collar to wear for her until we see each other again. It was thrilling and magical but today the emptiness of being apart and waiting for her to reply to my texts is breaking me 🥺 does anyone have any advice to help deal with these feelings pls

I'm so fucking horny rn and I just want to cuddle with a girl while watching series and she starts getting touchy and make me all hot and bothered.

Then I want to be fucked so hard with her strap and get my boobs sucked and bit so badly that it hurts the next day to even touch them.

and I want my whole body to be marked as hers then we eat ice cream and cuddle to sleep

(also please suck my boobs softly next day)

(idk what I'm fantasizing I'm just so horny😭)

Th-this is my first time writing erotica for… Well, anyone, I guess? M-my Mistress and I do a lot of roleplay, but… Haven’t ever really written out a fantasy for anyone else to, uhm, enjoy... So, uh… Here we go? Hopefully I got the Content Warnings right? U-uhm... F-feedback is welcome...

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I’m blushing before she even knocks on the front door. I’ve been waiting for weeks to see her and now… Now she’s here, just outside and waiting for me to answer the door. She’s incredible. She makes me squirm and pant just from her words… What is she going to be able to do with me once she gets her hands on me? 

Another knock. I shake my head to clear the thoughts that pinned me to my chair. I rush to the door, desperately trying to think of what to say… Shouldn’t have bothered. Any words drown in my throat as I see her. My knees nearly buckle. Maybe I should let them? I’m not saying anything, just gaping. I should say something. Anything. Her eyes are… Gods they’re like fires eating away at my mind, that half amused glint that I’ve only seen in pictures or videos.

She leans forward, not breaking eye contact, and whispers… Is it a whisper? It feels so loud… Like the entire world is gone and it’s just that voice layered over everything else like a blanket… What did she whisper? Oh gods, I wasn’t listening, what did she whisper?

Her eyes narrow a fraction and my heart begins to pound (or was it already pounding? It must have been pounding already, right?). “Invite. Me. In. Doll.” No louder than the first time, but each word bitten off and sharpened like a blade. Fuck. Fuck fuck fuck.

“Y-yes, Mistress! S-sorry! P-please come in!” I step out of her way, and she walks past, her eyes sweeping away from mine to take in the room. I should have cleaned more. I spent a week cleaning but I should have cleaned more. She’ll notice. She’ll hate it. She’ll…

“Close the door, Doll, and come here.”

I close the door. I’m standing in front of her. When did I move? Her lips are moving again. Her voice is drowning out my thoughts again. I’m on my knees and her hand is tangled in my hair. Gripping lightly to ensure I can’t look away from her eyes. Those eyes… I’m sinking and the world is a dark void filled with nothing but a thin glass surface and an endless sky dominated by one light. Her light. When did she say the trigger phrase to put me in this state? W-when did I drop out of reality?

“Such a good Doll, aren’t you? So willing and ready now… But why did you make me wait, Doll? Why was the door locked? Why weren’t you waiting like a good Doll for your Mistress, already kneeling and needy?”

Air. I can’t breathe under the pressure of her disappointment. My lungs are fluttering and nothing is going in or going out. I open my mouth. I close my mouth. Panic is settling in. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to do. I don’t kno-

“Hmm… Seems that my Doll is feeling quiet today… Maybe that’s for the best… Here, Doll… Open your mouth.”

I open my mouth. She gags me and carefully adjusts the strap so that it holds in place without digging in… My Mistress takes care of her things so well, and that’s all I am… A thing for her… My muscles are relaxing and tensing in waves of pleasure that emanate from where her fingers brush against me. A sting as she grasps my hair again, tighter this time, and wrenches my attention back to her eyes.

“Are you enjoying my touch, little toy? Are you having fun?”

I can’t respond. I have no voice. No muscles to move anymore. She tilts my head down and up, in a puppeteered nod.

“Good… Because I’m going to break you today, little toy. I’m going to dismantle you and lay out all of your little pieces so that I can look over them and enjoy seeing you spread out for me on the floor… You think you’re already so close to coming undone, but I’m going to show you how far apart you can be made to be, Doll. How far every little thought can become from the one that follows. How far a second can stretch… Do you want that, little toy?”

She nods my head. She grins. She whispers and her voice is the last thing I hear properly for a long long time…

“Good. Girl.”

I consider myself as a fem, and most of the times submissive, but I guess the fuck not now?
For like, a couple weeks now the same scenario of being the domme and top of a masc has been replaying in my head
Like oh yeah you say you’re sooo tough but you’re actually all bark and no bite, no?
Or maybe I’m too pushy and bitchy about it but give me free time and a calander to plan when I’ll ovulate and I WILL make a masc my pretty little slut
Especially when the masc is usually opposite of what I imagine calling them, like yes you’re absolutely adorable and gorgeous when you come and you’ve got the cutest moans ever
Wahhhh I just wanna top the masc that is usually the top so I can show them how great it feels to be fucked till your legs give out and till your throat can’t physically make any more sounds

Actually I wanna add too, bonus point if my nails are long… srry not srry I wanna bruise and scratch the insides of your pussies xx (consensually)

I feel her sweet devotion to me.
I have her under my spell.
Every word that comes from my lips,
She clings to them like she clings on to me.
She obeys them.

Her sweet eyes filled with desire
And desperation.
Desperation I use for my own benefit.
Having her under my spell,
Makes her weak.

Anything and everything for me.
She’ll do anything just to please,
And I’d do anything to see her plead.
Hearing her begging on her knees,
Makes me feel weak.

And yet, It makes me feel powerful, knowing she wants nothing more than to show me a different world,
with my permission.
By the sound of it, you would think she was the one getting plowed.

A world I can’t access without her way with my body.
My voice making sounds I never thought I could make.
My breath running away from me.
My mind somewhere on the steps of heaven.

This feeling is addictive.
Only she can supply, to fill my demands.
When she takes me to this world it
Seems like I’m more under her spell than she is under mine.

N.B Akissi

I LOVE being bossed around, being told what to do. My daddy told me to take off my panties so I did and sent a picture to them. My daddy said I’m such a good girl, it makes me feel so warm inside. I love being a rule follower, I just feel all warm inside!

I like it when they tell me what to do! Also I’m super horny !

Anyone else a really big fan of oral? Idk its my favorite thing ever my switch self would love to give it and receive it for hours on end,,, like I would prefer that over strapping or anything else just sitting on a face for hours on end till my legs collapse

not exactly sure if this counts as erotica but wtv!
i have a dumbification and hypnosis kink so the other day i decided to combine the two and wrote a hypnosis script that would theoretically turn me into a stupid submissive slut. i ran it through a text to speech site (regular old tts, not ai voices); the monotonous and robotic voices are absolutely perfect for hypnosis, and when i listened to it… omg it got me insanely wet and horny 😮‍💨

i started by writing a (fake) introduction where the “speaker” tells me my (fake) master/mommy has planned this hypnosis specially for me using specific trigger phrases that turn me on, like good girl, stupid doll etc. the “hypnosis” then begins when i’m instructed to clear my mind and only focus on the speaker’s voice. they tell me to start touching my tits and nipples and repeat a few trigger phrases as i feel myself up before eventually moving on. next they tell me my body is getting hot and turn my attention towards my pussy. they make me imagine my mommy licking and rubbing my clit, which gets me extremely hot and bothered… i typically start whining at this part. more trigger words. they continue with more suggestions that turn me on, making me more and more wet, till eventually they’re simply telling me to become stupid and to beg for my mommy’s cock like a good girl. at this point the speaker is only repeating trigger words to get me to cum and i have become a needy submissive mess, finally climaxing at the end of the session (i replay this segment a few times since i only wrote about 3 minutes of content but seriously it’s hot as fuckk).

i’m not experienced in actual hypnosis so i’m not trying to enter a trance or make the suggestions real (for now 🤭), i basically just wrote it to masturbate to lmao. but i think i’ve found my new favorite way to get off and i highly recommend trying it if you’re interested in hypnosis and/or writing erotica ♡

I just wanna buy her something nice damnit! I know she got me something special but all she wants from me is "for me to rest and relax after working super hard the last year and a half". Plus she says I'm too cute to worry about buying her a present.

I'm not cute 🥺

I just want to buy my mama bear a present for our anniversary 🥺🥺🥺

as of late when i get horny i can't stop thinking about a woman grabbing me by the head and pissing in my mouth, using me as her own personal disposal.

sometimes i think about two of us getting pissed on and or two women using me as their personal toilet (,: