u/phoebestars69

So I’m just getting into this practically speaking (as in have had this fantasy for the longest time but never actually DID anything IRL for it with my partner, nawmsayn?) and we have made “normal” rules/boundaries/conditions like condoms, knowing where I’m going location wise, texting when I get there safely, no vids/pics during dates. These are for mostly safety and discretion reasons, but there’s one rule we agreed on that I think is a little bit odd even within this LS: Thirds can’t eat my cooking.

If I’m on a date, we can go out to eat, order hotel room service, call for a pizza/doordash, or he could even cook for me but *I’m* not cooking for *him*!

Do you know what though? This makes complete and total sense to me as a boundary for respecting our relationship because when I cook, I put my whole elbow in that food. I normally cook for my family or SO so it makes sense that this shouldn’t be something shared with a third. Also, maybe modern times have changed but I still believe in the whole “the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” and I invited my SO to my home for Hainanese Chicken Rice the night after we met and I swear he caught a crush/got attached the very first bite. I cook for my SO with lots of love, even plating and serving him in a way that is special and has a lot of care behind it.

The third can have a cold ham and cheese sandwich on a paper plate if the situation is dire 😅

What do you guys think? Do you have similar rules that are more about your relationship/marriage than about sexual stuff? On the surface, this rule seems silly to me but I also really get the deeper meaning and importance of it.

I am not entirely sure this is the subreddit to post this but I can’t think of anywhere else that would accept this, certainly not the civvie relationship advice ones 💀

I have had a hotwife fantasy for a long time. When my SO and I got together he was a *very* vanilla person. I am a camgirl and do a lot of kink and fetish related things for work (this is not a promo, do not reach out to me for that, I will block you lol) and over the course of us dating he has gotten very into femdom and related things within that larger umbrella. It didn’t take very much time for him to open up in the bedroom as he’s very much a submissive man romantically speaking, I just don’t think he ever explored that sexually. So imagine my partner who a year and a half ago had no idea what femdom even was, is now in this situation:

For MONTHS I’ve had my eye on his friend who I’ll refer to as BF2 (bf #2 lmao). They’ve known each other for years and do a sport together. My SO started off not even liking us flirting and at one point even banned me from speaking to him??? But BF2 did admit to me that he loves my body and can’t help but want me, that I hit all his weak spots and it drives him crazy that I’m taken and tension has built for weeks and weeks over the course of the Sports season. It makes me feel so powerful, sexy, seductive knowing that I can make this super serious goody-two-shoes guy *uncontrollably* desire his best friend’s woman by just batting my lashes at him.

Well SO and I have been really exploring different things and he does really enjoy the taboo-ness and thrill of sharing me. The other day, I brought up a hall pass and he agreed to give me one. We talked about me picking up a stranger in the wild at first, then I asked “well hypothetically, what if it wasn’t a stranger?” He INSTANTLY brought up BF2 and I could feel my heart racing. YOU GUYS!!! It happened for me!! I simply had an open, honest (and filthy haha) conversation with my SO and a couple hours later he called BF2 up and asked him to “do a favor for me as my friend and come fuck her”. He feigned hesitance to SO at first for optics but he definitely wants to!!!

To my surprise, when we talked about kinks and things like that BF2 told me about his experience being a regular bull for a married couple in the past; very shocking to me! BF2 is gonna get us a hotel and there’s just something so fucking HOT about having a rendezvous in a hotel. Especially because BF2 wants me to dress up in a particular way, kinda a “classic” hotwife look with stilettos and stockings. It makes me feel so so soooo hot picturing myself in a ritzy hotel room dressed like that, getting to have something I wanted for so long because my SO just LOVES me that much and wants to please me *THAT* much because I’m *that* special. And because I had the power to make it happen!!!

So I’m really really really excited with my SO being on board and setting it up but I’m also incredibly anxious. BF2 is a busy guy and lives a bit further away so the actual date won’t happen for a couple weeks and I’m worried that too much could change in that time. What if BF2 loses interest or his concerns become too much within that time? What if this affects their friendship and makes things awkward? What if my SO becomes resentful or insecure?

If you’re still reading thank you: any of you ladies/gents have advice on how to not let my nerves get in the way of celebrating my win? I’m very excited.