We’ve been married for almost 20 years. I think we are content with our life in many aspects, except the sex has been declining ever since our youngest was born 14 years ago.
Now in my 40s, my sex drive is off the charts. Unfortunately, the same can’t be said about him. The imbalance caused some tension between us. He tried to make an effort but the performance was just not good enough. And I tried to be understanding and took care of myself with sex toys, but as you know, it just can’t compare with the real human connection.
We talked about it in depth and reached the conclusion that I can see other men when the urge is strong, with one condition - he can watch when he wants to.
So far I had sex with 3 guys, and each time my husband just dropped me off, waited in a pub or somewhere, then picked me up afterwards. What surprises me is that he actually wanted sex every time we got home from my date. It seems my husband is aroused by the fact that someone’s been their seed inside me. Is that the path we should go down? And how to proceed from here?