u/plsmama

I saw a few posts get removed from this sub for not being in English. ¿Por que?

1.) That’s not a rule, so it seems unfair to murk people’s posts for doing that. 2.) If it were a rule I think it would be a bad one. Online translators are good now. The posts can be translated on desktop easily. Many times, I’ll see a post in Portuguese or French with people responding in English. 3.) It makes it harder for people from countries where English is not the first language to participate. How does this benefit anyone, even English speakers? I’m a monolingual anglo, and I’m not bothered by literally just seeing words in another language. 4.) It removes one of the most interesting (to me) kinds of posts! I want to hear about what ABDL is like in Brazil and Egypt and Germany! It’s culturally beneficial to get to interact with people outside of the anglosphere.

I think this rule is dumb and but maybe I’m missing something. Thoughts?

Hi hi! So I’m curious what all the subbies here think… so what does being a mommy means to you? What do you dream of doing with your mommy? What does she do for you to make you feel special and cared for in your fantasies, and what would you hope you got out of a dynamic with your mommy? 💕

What do you think got you into this from the mommy/femdom side of the equation? And if you usually don’t post, why not?

In the spirit of sharing: I was introduced to it by an ex, but always liked wetting and desperation porn. I also wet the bed for a long time… idk if that has anything to do with it.

I actually had just stumbled upon a dude wetting a pullup on Pornhub in the wild before my ex came out to me about him wanting to call me mommy. I “got” the diaper stuff… the mommy domme/adult baby stuff took awhile longer, but I eventually came around and started to understand the appeal.

But anyway I’m curious about the rest of y’all. Sound off, ladies. Let’s see a show of hands.

Also dear men: if women respond here, please don’t use the comment section as your mommy hunting ground. 😘

I still have all the onesies, jammies and diapers I bought my ex when we were together and I have no idea what to do with it. I’ve had a couple play partners since but I have no faith I’ll ever find my dream little one. My primary partner tried to be little/wear diapers for me and it was a huge bust. He doesn’t like it (though he’s an angel for trying for me) and as a result it’s awkward. He’s honestly more of a caregiver/dominant himself, and we end up just vanilla caregiving at each other. It’s great, but doesn’t scratch the mommy itch. I fear I’ll never experience that dreamy, cuddly mommy headspace ever again. And every time I open that drawer and see all that stuff I bought my stupid ex, it pisses me off all over again. Also I have like, $160 of diapers just chilling in my closet. I want to just chuck it but 1.) my apartment has a trash chute and 2.) so much money 😭😭😭

What would y’all do about this predicament?

My ex-husband was into this kink. I hated it at first because I experienced a lot of CSA and it was super triggering for me. I learned everything I could about this so I could be a good wife. I taught myself to like it. He never gave me any space. Always pushing it. First we did it once a week, then it was twice. Then always. Then sneaking messing. And always pressuring me and shaming me for not ‘getting it‘ fast enough.

Then he wanted to do poly, and I said okay to that, too. Then I met other ABDL guys and realized being a manipulative sex pest didn’t have anything to do with me being a ‘bad mommy’ but were actually all about my (soon-to-be) ex-husband. Now I’m getting divorced! Yay! I can’t wait to try being a mommy with someone I love mutually and respectfully. After a whole lot of therapy first, though.

Edit: Everybody is so nice! I’m so glad I found this community even if my marriage ended up a bit of a dumpster fire. Y’all are awesome. 🥹💚

I feel like the things I want are too much. I want a girl to take care of that really wants me to earn her trust. I like girls who are hard to get and who think their submission is gold and something I should work to earn. I love sex but that’s not the most important part of the relationship to me.

I want a girl who really wants to be taken care of, who wants to have her clothes picked out and her hair brushed. I want to bathe her and feed her and control her body. I want to prove I’m a good leader and give her something worth following. To make sense of the world for her and make her feel safe. I’m child-free by choice and I crave a relationship where someone relies on me for so much and can come to trust me completely.

But so many times I talk to girls who just want to be physically intimate or who give up submission immediately. “Can I call you mommy?” like… less than a week in. I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable or not.

And that doesn’t begin to cover the fact that I think maybe my taste is basic? I like very feminine women and I love frills and ribbons and cute little lacy socks and bloomers and pigtails and going on picnics and having tea parties… I feel like this kind of girl is so hard to find in actuality. I don’t care what she looks like but I do like when women try hard to look nice for me. I like to spoil and treat and get rewarded with something pretty to look at and take care of.

I’m not sure if that’s a real thing I can want or just a fantasy. I wonder if I’m holding my breath for something that doesn’t exist. Idk I guess I just want to hear that there are girls who want the same thing as me. Just for some hope.