u/propaul1

So my wife has known about my prostate play for about a year now and we do incorporate it into sex. She has also come home and found me with a toy in my ass before, once completely by accident and a few times when I knew she was coming home and I was getting a head start on our night. No big deal.

Well, yesterday was a bit different. I can see our work cameras on my phone so only do the more extreme things she doesn't know about when I am 100% not going to get caught, but somehow lost track of time and thought I had more time. Did a bit of THC so time compressed somehow since the last time I checked in.

Heard the dogs bark and figured it was just Amazon or something again since I thought I checked recently and had at least an hour. For some reason though I decided to get up and peek out just in case and panic hit me as I saw her car already parked in the driveway and she could walk in any second.

As I said before, she has caught me before, but this time there were many things that she didn't know about. For one, I was wearing a pair of her panties. Two, I had on a negative chastity cage and I don't think she even knows what a regular cage is. Three, had camera on my phone streaming to the TV so I could watch. My balls were rubbed down with shea butter which I use for the cage. Also had three stainless steel ball stretcher rings she doesn't know about in the bathroom sink along with three different Aneros I had been trying in addition to the one in me.

Talk about panic! Had no idea how I would explain all that to her at one time. Had no idea if I could put away anything in time or get cage off.

Luckily she took a bit of time so I was able to get the cage off quick. Threw the cage and the harness that holds it on in a drawer. Pulled out toy and three in the sink with the others. Had no idea how to hide them all so just scooped them all up with both hands and threw in our sex toy drawer still all covered in Xlube. Tried my best to wipe my ass and hands and throw on sweat pants.

Well, she came in and asked if I was playing and didn't answer he so she probably just thought a standard session and let it go.

Lesson to be learned. Next time I will keep a plastic grocery bag around your quick throwing everything into and also wash and put away the toys as I use them. Also need to keep much better track of time.

My wife has known about my prostate play for about two years now and it is so great to not just do it in secret. She now encourages me to put in a plug for sex because she knows that it turns me on more and when the prostate orgasms start it becomes hard to cum so I can give it to her long and hard.

I love her and love that we can play together now. Unfortunately she had never fingered me and I never brought up pegging. Figured her wiggling a toy just a little or putting a vibrator against it was as close as I would ever get.

Don't get me wrong, what I have with her is absolutely mind blowing and I generally have many dry orgasms before she even has her first, but when I am with her I have to close my eyes and imagine that she is pegging me. When she rubs my taint and I feel her move the toy a little I have to imagine that it is her finger deep inside of me.

So my deepest fantasies of fingering and pegging have remained in my head. Also have fantasy of being in chastity and being made to cum inside a cage. To satisfy mu fantasies now I also play solo when she is gone and I have a lot of toys she does not know about like some dildos, a cage, and a strapon harness. Also sometimes wear her red silky underwear.

Well, yesterday she left to go to work and I was off so thought I would go all out on a fun solo session. I took a shower and sprayed the hot water on my taint and balls to loosen them up. Put some shea butter on my balls so they were soft and moisturized and not stick on the plastic cage. Put a toy in my ass, then put on her red underwear. I put a medium dildo in the harness and strapped it to the post on my bed so I could back up to it later.

I was was laying on the bed having had two or three prostate orgasms with my eyes closed when I heard something and opened them and saw her standing in the doorway. Still have not asked her why she left work early.

I was shocked. She has caught me before with a toy in my ass, but the cage, the dildo, the harness, the underwear, these were all things she never knew about. I expected to get an ear full and have to explain it all, but she never did that. She just said "What are you doing?" as she giggled and then made a joke about me looking cute in her panties and maybe I should trade all my underwear in on panties.

This was not at all what I expected as a reaction, neither was what was to follow.

I know for a lot of people the vulnerability of being pegged is a huge part of it. Well, let me tell you, you don't feel any more vulnerable than all your toys found out at once. I think she understood that and it made for a better reaction.

Then she walked towards me with a grin on her face and reached out and gave the dildo in the harness a soft stroke as she walked by it. She told me to close my eyes and she gave me a gentle tickling rubdown from my hair to my face, around my nipples over my stomach, down my legs and then to my inner thighs. I could feel my skin tingle.

Then she started to rub under my balls through her soft silky panties I was wearing.

Oh, my god, nothing feels quite like having your taint rubbed through that soft silky fabric while you have a toy just dancing in your ass.

She kept rubbing my taint with one hand and then she reached up and started rubbing my nipples with the other hand. It all felt so amazing and I just melted into the feelings, but was also wondering what she thought of the dildo and harness and if she would even mention that she ever saw them, let alone actually peg me with them.

Then she rubbed over my balls and went up further to rub my dick through the panties.

All of a sudden at once I felt her pull her hand back and jump back a little like she was surprised. Had no idea what that was about and then she put her hand back on me, but more deliberite, not gently rubbing, like she was feeling for something.

Oh fuck. I had completely forgotten that I had the cage on under the panties until she grabbed it with her hand through the panties and then she pulled them down so she could have a look. I was so embarrassed and had no idea what to say.

She asked me what the cage was for and I told her that sometimes it feels good to see if I can make myself cum without being able to touch my dick at all. She looked intrigued and wondered out loud if she could make me cum without touching my dick then she continued to rub the cage, my balls, and my taint through the panties.

A little while later she was getting worked up herself and she stripped all of her clothes off and stood where I could reach her wet pussy and rub it. I could tell that she was very turned on.

She pulled the panties off of me, rubbed the cage, and then she said: "Now I see what this is for." and she undid the harness from the bed post. I was so excited in anticipation and then disappointed when she started to strap the harness to me over my cage. Seems she thought the whole reason for the harness was so I could fuck her with it while I was caged.

I figured at this point best to just go along with it for now and maybe she would catch on, but she just started stroking the dildo and licking it trying to excite me enough to cum in the cage.

Then she told me to stand up and she got on her knees and started sucking on the dildo very passionately. It was hot to watch, but not so much that I was going to cum from it. Five minutes later she realized that was not going to do it and she stopped and looked up and asked if she was doing something wrong.

I told her that it was OK, but just not going to push me over the edge. She looked disappointed and then she said "OK, then you are going to have to show me what to do better." as she started undoing the strapon from me.

Then she really shocked me when she put it on herself and said "OK, now you can get on you knees and show me how you like it."

I kneeled down and she put both hands on the back of my head and pushed the dildo towards my face saying "Open up!". I complied and she slid it slowly into my mouth.

I had never done anything like this with her before and it felt embarrassing and turned me on at the same time. I took half of the dildo into my mouth and started to slide it in and out of my mouth. I had not been thinking of the toy in my ass, but now my prostate started to feel really good and I couldn't help but start to moan.

It was such a turn on that I just forgot myself and started sucking on the dildo, licking the shaft, and slobbering all over it, moaning the whole time. I put my hand between her legs and felt that she was dripping wet so apparently it was turning her on too. I grabbed her ass and started pulling her towards me as the whole dildo slid all the way to the back of my throat and then I started long slow strokes all the way in and out of my mouth.

She said "Wow, I never thought that you could teach me how to give a better blowjob.". I figured what the hell and I said "Well, maybe you could also teach me how to do you better.". She replied with "OK, I will. You lean over the bed and I will show you how I like to be fucked."

I leaned over the bed and felt her pull the toy out and then I heard the squirt of the lube bottle. Then I felt the head of the dildo press firmly on my hole. She kept steady pressure on and and it slowly started to slide in. She grabbed my hips and pushed it all the way in and I let out a loud moan of pleasure. I had used a dildo on myself before, but it never felt like this. Her thrusting it slowly in and out while she held my hips was intoxicating. It felt better that I ever dreamed possible.

This went on for about ten minutes and then she pulled out of me and told me to lay on my back on the bed and close my eyes. I could hear the lube bottle again and then felt her rub my taint and over the cage. She kept rubbing lower and I was lifting my hips off the bed and rocking them. Eventually she slid a finger in me and started to rub my prostate like she had been doing it for years. I couldn't believe that she was finally fingering my ass after wanting it for years. She gave me to dry prostate orgasms and then hopped off the bed and went over to the drawer where we keep our toys.

Next she got on her knees on the bed between my legs and lifted my legs up, one on each shoulder and she scooted closer to me and started to slide the dildo in my ass. It was amazing and she kept a slow and steady pace and played with my nipples.

By this time I was just a quivering, moaning mess and having one dry orgasm after the other. Then I heard a vibrator turn on and she put it against the cage while she fucked me slowly. It was the most intense feeling I had ever experienced and in a few minutes I could feel my dick and balls get wet from the cum coming from inside the cage. She just held the vibrator on the cage and continued to pump the dildo in and out of me and the orgasm just went on and on for minutes.

When she stopped I was covered with sweat, cum, and lube and exhausted laying on my back and she went to the bathroom to take off the strap-on and wash it.

When she came back she said now it was her turn as she handed me the strap-on and told me to put it on.

I fucked her the same exact way that she fucked me and held the vibrator against her clit until she couldn't take any more.

Now all of my fantasies have been fulfilled and it is time to come up with some more.

I was doing some research for my book today using the Google AI search and it came back with an interesting suggestion. It recommended applying a warm compress to the perineum for five minutes before play to increase blood flow and force tight muscles to relax. I can't recall ever seeing that suggestion anywhere before other than in the context of pelvic floor stretching, but it does seem to make a lot of sense and I am wondering if anybody has tried this and can comment.

As I started typing this it also occurred to me that I actually had been doing that for a long time, but I just didn't realize it. For most of my best sessions in the past I have had a routine where I would take a shower first and I would use the shower head on my taint and balls with hot water, but I did it for a completely different purpose. Many times I wear a cage or ball stretchers because they just feel good to me, but my balls have the tendency to suck in tight, particularly during the winter and especially in the morning when I am usually starting a session, and it just isn't possible to put on a cage or stretcher unless I warm them up first and get them hanging looser.

Spraying the hot water on my taint and balls and stretching my scrotum with my hand also feels really good so I would often do it for a good five or ten minutes. Never occurred to me at the time that I might be relaxing the perineum at the same time.

Now that it is summer time and much warmer (and have not had the luxury of unlimited time of the whole day for solo sessions because of a shift in wife's schedule) I have been most times skipping this step. I have also not been having as good sessions. I am wondering now how much the warming and just the ten minutes standing in the shower relaxing have been contributing to the past sessions being better.

Obviously, doing this at just the beginning of a session does not keep the area relaxed for the entire session, but I think the first 15-20 minutes of a session and starting to get good results does really set the mood for all of it. Having a slow start can sabatoge a session for some.

So what thoughts or experiences can some of you share on this?

It has been a while since I have sent this link so posting it here to help fully help others. https://www.reddit.com/r/ProstatePlay/comments/1i96v83/secret_to_the_super_o/

I was having a session and had great feelings building to what was going to be a great orgasm. Right at that point I had an epiphany and decided to try something. The orgasm was seconds away and I was lifting and lowering my hips, my breath was getting faster. I was squeezing the Aneros tight, just about there....and then I decided to stop it all and just fully relax and not worry about the orgasm at all.

I relaxed and sunk back into the bed. Started slowly belly breathing. Cleared thoughts from my head and let fantasies come as they may.

What happened next was magical. Not that type of post, so I will just say it was minblowingly amazing.

So why did I decide to stop and relax before the earlier orgasm? Because I know from past experience that when I am in the right state of mind that I can just relax and trust that the feelings will build again soon. They always do once I am past a certain threshold and I know exactly where that is.

I remembered that in the past I didn't always know that relaxing, letting go, and doing nothing was OK because the feelings would build again soon. That meant that when things started to feel good I would always try harder, not relax, and try to keep it going. Sometimes that would intensify things, but more often than not it wouldn't. The good feelings come in waves for most of us. You need to coast all the way down the hill before you can start going up the next one. Holding on and trying to force it is usually counterproductive.

Once you have gotten great results for a long time you know this and it is easy to let go and relax and just trust that it will build again on its own.

So what if you are newer and you haven't experienced the ebbs and flows? Well I thing most people start to feel just a little bit of something and then they try to hold onto it and build it stronger. That is when you tense up and start to try and force things.

It is only natural. You have spent a long time practicing and now you think that maybe you are getting somewhere. You feel something and you don't want to let it go because you don't know if you will get it back. It is hard to have confidence in something you have not experienced yet. You wonder if you will ever have an orgasm, you get to a point that is closer than you have ever been before and you tense up, you start to worry that if you let it slip away you may never see it again.

I wonder how many people are stuck for that very reason. They can never truly just relax and let the orgasm come to them because every time it starts to they do exactly the opposite of what they need to do. Now the feelings subside and they feel that they lost it and their hopes change to despair. They repeat this on an endless loop.

Thoughts? Experiences? I think this subject can easily be an entire chapter in my book. I want to hear opinions and experiences from others.

When I started this sub it was supposed to be a place just for sharing pictures and videos. r/prostateplay and r/aneros have always been the best places to get advice.

I have not been deleting questions people ask because they are getting good answers and I don't want to discourage these discussions.

So anyway, how do the rest of you feel? Keep it pictures and videos only or allow related questions and stories?

Due to a variety of factors it has been months since I have had a really good session and I have been used to at least a few per week. Right now the stars all align so today............we ride!

I keep getting adds for vagus nerve stimulators on Facebook. Wondering if anybody has tried one during play. Someone asked the same about 9 months ago, but no replies from anyone who has tried.

I have been wondering something.

As many of us that have been here for a long time know, many of us get anal orgasms from areas other than the prostate. Some people get them from sigmoid bend stimulation, I personally get a lot of great results from right at the first sphincter where I am definitely not hitting the prostate yet.

So are there women that can get amazing orgasms from strictly anal stimulation? Now I know that many women report that they can feel pressure through their anal canal and to their G spot, but I am talking about stimulation that does not have enough pressure to go through to the G spot. Talking about just anal stimulation giving women different orgasms than what they get through clit or vaginal stimulation.

Wonder how many of you, particularly those happily married play alone. Either in secret, or as luckily for me my wife knows and plays with me also, but solo sessions are also very special.

For me solo sessions are amazing, but different. I can have an amazing solo session thinking only of loving myself and not really even needing to feel sexual. Just a feeling of pure bliss. I can touch myself and not have to imagine that it is someone else.
Try it sometime if you have not already. Just concentrate on being alone and loving yourself emotionally and physically.