u/sigmoidfun

I've been experimenting with sex for a while now. And have laid out a few mental models from what I've observed. Will be sharing them. This is part 1 of the series.

It is very cliche to say that foreplay is important and get foreplay to your bedroom. But it is not that straightforward.

First, you gotta make up your mind that you wanna do it. Know exactly why you wanna do it and ultimately how you're gonna do it.

To answer the first part, the female brain is wired to enjoy craving sex more than actually being involved in it. I'd like to believe it is probably a survival extinct they've evolved with. But I'm not expert to comment on that.

But the point is, when she's turned on, her love hormones are spiking at unholy levels and as soon as the actual sex starts, they spike and stabilise.

Your objective is to make sure she's actually peaking before you get into the act of coitus. Because hey, who doesn't want her partner to be into it real bad?

The other objective must be to make her cum at least once before you get in her. This has multiple benefits. One, you're not in pressure to make her cum anymore. And another that now for the rest of the session, it's easier for her to cum the second time.

Now let's address the elephant in the room. How to actually get it done?

Well, the answer is in what I told you earlier. Tease her the idea of sex, for as long as you can, but do not offer anything to her. Below is a general guide of how I like to do it. Ofc there are always variations as the passions take over.

1. Start touching her non sexually. Here you'll be teasing the idea of getting touched sexually. Not even sex. And more often than not, they love her. Give her that forehead kiss, gentle touchy appreciation of her beauty round her neck. Do it for a few minutes before moving ahead.

2. In the second stage, you must touch her sexually. But make sure to be away from the highly stimulated sexual organs. They must be left alone to develop more cravings. This is the dress when you'll undress her. Make sure to do it while touching her all over. Your hands must measure lengths of her torso, thighs, feet. This is also the stage when you'll start kissing. How to kiss is another open question for another post.

3. After around 10 minutes, you can finally get to her sexual organs. But again, keep the tease. Touch her breasts but make sure to miss the nipples. Massage them all around the nipples. Use your tongue as well. Then get down there, touch all around her vagina. But miss touching the vulva or clit. This is the time when she'll be truly turned on. Expose your penis to her but do not let her touch it. You must run the game yourself.

If you've been doing everything right so far, she might be high enough to actually beg you to get involved with her.

4. This is the point when you actually start full foreplay. Get to her nipples, draw spirals around them to reach them and then give them a tight pinch. Put your tongue right on them and stimulate every single nerve ending in there. Similarly, get your fingers in her and stimulate the right spots. This is again that's something that should be covered in another post.

Once you're done with everything above, you MUST offer her oral. It's not optional, she probably deserves it.

5. Everything above should take anywhere between 30 minutes and am hour. You must put concious effort into touching every single of her body part. And into every single artistry you perform on her. And only then you must think of penetrating her.

All this alone will probably improve your sex life multiple times.

That's all for this session. Hope you got something out of it. Ladies reading this, I'm sorry it was written from men's perspective. But you can always share it with him.

Best,

Sigmoid