u/slaaneshi_cutie

Sub I met a week ago, already wants a collar from me

As the title states, she (TF) wants me (TF) to give her a collar to wear during pride in a month, after just having met a week ago.

While I do want to give her the experience of having a walk in a leash during pride, I am also well aware of what a collar means. I don't want that commitment, and we already had a talk that I don't want that commitment.

I don't really know what to do, or how to navigate this; both in keeping her happy and respecting my own boundaries.

I've thought of

  1. Keeping the collar at my place, and bringing it when I see her, kinda making the whole thing temporary.

  2. Have her current partner be the one that "buys" and gives the collar to her, while I provide an experience the partner don't want to engage in (I'm having the sub ask their partner before I say yes to this whole thing).

  3. Pointing, and really pointing out, that it doesn't mean the usual stuff, and I'm not looking for that commitment.

I think I might do a mix of all three, but I want some input before I call her. It's really the first relationship where I'm the dominating one, so I want to step lightly.

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u/slaaneshi_cutie — 1 day ago