u/stillunknown20

I'm a big guy. I'm about 6'/6'1 and currently about 355lbs (actively losing). I often see bigger guys that are considered attractive are often seen as quite masculine. A burly/rugged look with lots of body and facial hair. But I'm not that. I have next to no body hair and can't grow a beard. A lot of people have described me as baby faced. On the other I often see less masculine men( no body hair or beard for example) who are considered attractive are typically slim/athletic.

I know a lot of people struggle with their appearance and a lot of men struggle with wanting to appear more masculine. But I don't often see people talk about a mix of opposite features. In my case, certain masculine and non masculine features. Has anyone else ever dealt with this and how it relates to how you view your own attractiveness.

Im a very overweight guy (360lbs down rom 450lbs). I recently had a woman offer to sleep with me. I am a virgin and honestly really don't want to be. I want to have a sex life. My issue was I didn't find her attractive. The conversation kind of died, and nothing happened.She was also overweight.Not that I can't find overweight women attractive, but I think less than I do average to curvy/chubby women. Am I a hypocrit for this?I feel pretty shitty about wanting to be found as attractive myself but not necessarily finding bigger women attractive.I can and have been attracted to bigger women but not always.Does this make me sound awfull? Am I setting my own standards too high by wanting to be attracted to someone even tho I'm not attractive myself.