u/sugar_sadist

Personally, I’ve been dancing two years and I feel like I’ve become jaded towards men, but more understanding/ patient with women. I always try to give women the benefit of the doubt and assume that if someone treats me bad, they’re probably not in the best situation themselves or they’re not having a great day.

I’ve been dancing for 2 years and this is the first time this has happened, which is why it caught me so off guard, especially at a club I thought had the nicest dancers and staff. 99% still do.

I was sitting with a guy, he said he wanted to finish eating then get dances with me. I went to the bathroom and left my purse and phone at the table so it was obvious I was with him. While I was gone, a girl I thought I was cool with pulled up and took my spot.

This is someone I’ve been nice to and complimented a lot, so it honestly threw me. Funny enough I ended up making more money anyway because I left and got picked up by a whale, which she probably would’ve gotten if she wasn’t with my guy.

So I’m grateful for the money, but I can’t stop replaying it and my anxiety’s been bad. I think it just hurt my feelings. I hate that competitive energy, I feel like we all make more when the vibe is friendly and not weird or territorial.

I know I probably shouldn’t be this soft about it, but it’s hard to process when I know I’d never do that to someone. I feel like I make my money by being positive and friendly, and now I’m questioning if that’s a mistake or if I need to be less nice.

Side note: even after all that I still tipped her on stage because I wanted to show her I don’t plan to be petty, but yeah… I keep overthinking everything.