My partner wants me to start degrading them
I (27NB) and my partner (30M) are both switches but have historically assumed very specific roles with each other in our 4 year relationship. He is not only my Dom but my Big as well.
Recently he joked about me being a mean girl being a turn on and I didn’t think much of it… Turns out he was dead ass serious. We ended up having another conversation about it where he opened up a bit more about his desires and we will be having a follow up conversation soon just to really dig deeper but I am a bit.. gagged.
For context, I am a Domme myself and am no stranger to being on the giving end of some good degradation, but I think there is a bit of a block for me when it comes to him. He is such a sweet man and I want to do nothing but protect him all the time so the thought of being mean to him is making me short circuit.
Now, I will say that there have definitely been moments of me showcasing that side but it’s very brief, very contained, and almost like a teaser. I’m not opposed to the idea at all but I think I just want to know if anyone else has had a similar experience, how they navigated it, etc.
Also any tips, suggestions, or words of encouragement from anyone else is more than welcome!
TIA 💙