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I went to several events at KitKat as a sissy / crossdresser: four play, piep show, carneball bizarre and had mixed experiences.

Nothing crazy, just crossdressed with wig, make-up, bra, thong and see-through top and skirt.

From negative: young men and especially young women staring in disgust,
to positive: some women really being into the crossdressing.

That's why I want to try an event catered specifically to my presentation.
I found the Trans & Friends event at Club Culture Houze.

Can someone share experiences of the event and the croud?

And how does it work, can you come there in street clothing and somehow dress-up there, put on a wig there?

As it's not quite without risk to go crossdressed in a revealing outfit in public lol.

Thankful for any advice.

Committing fully to be a sissy made me realize it’s more than a fetish

Important to mention first, being a sissy can exclusively be a kink for you, but otherwise you feel and identify fully as a man.

I had the desire to be a total sissy. So I threw away all my boxershorts, started wearing thongs only. Fully removed body hair with IPL laser. I’m 24/7 in chastity for more than 6 months now, no hard on ever allowed. Only cumming from anal and vibration on cage. Getting regularly fucked by men, other sissies and women (with a strap on).

This led to a very unexpected realization, I feel euphoria by becoming this women. And I started to dislike all the humiliation and "you’re not a real man" play.

It made me realize: if this is a kink only, you’re turned on by feeling like a man that is humiliating by this emasculation. You have a fetish for lingerie and women’s clothes and that turns you on. But still see yourself as a man.

If you’re a femboy you like dressing cute, but still feel and see yourself as a man.

BUT if you see yourself as a women while dressing up and feel euphoria, it might be that you’re on the trans spectrum or gender-fluid.

Denial and cope can be soo powerful, I was so sure that I’m a man with a kink, since I often feel like a man. Thinking wanting to be "her", one of the hot girls, I see on the streets, was purely a sexual thing.

But the reality is, if you feel sometimes like a man, but it makes you feel soo euphoric being "her", yeah, you might not be fully trans, but you’re on the trans / nonbinary spectrum and NOT a cis man with a kink only.

And the weirdest part: since this realization, all the emasculating typical sissy play is not as hot to me anymore. Do I want to be a hot slut? Yes! But I want to wear the sexy g-string to be "her", to feel euphoric and complete. Not to feel like an emasculated and humiliated man (nothing wrong with that).

Even being locked in chastity feels less kinky, less humiliating. More gender-affirming in a wholesome way.

One day, you’ll not be able to run from your own truth, at least I did not.

Did anyone have similar experiences?

Do you agree? Or disagree? And why?

Important to mention first, being a sissy can exclusively be a kink for you, but otherwise you feel and identify fully as a man.

I had the desire to be a total sissy. So I threw away all my boxershorts, started wearing thongs only. Fully removed body hair with IPL laser. I’m 24/7 in chastity for more than 6 months now, no hard on ever allowed. Only cumming from anal and vibration on cage. Getting regularly fucked by men, other sissies and women (with a strap on).

This led to a very unexpected realization, I feel euphoria by becoming this women. And I started to dislike all the humiliation and "you’re not a real man" play.

It made me realize: if this is a kink only, you’re turned on by feeling like a man that is humiliating by this emasculation. You have a fetish for lingerie and women’s clothes and that turns you on. But still see yourself as a man.

If you’re a femboy you like dressing cute, but still feel and see yourself as a man.

BUT if you see yourself as a women while dressing up and feel euphoria, it might be that you’re on the trans spectrum or gender-fluid.

Denial and cope can be soo powerful, I was so sure that I’m a man with a kink, since I often feel like a man. Thinking wanting to be "her", one of the hot girls, I see on the streets, was purely a sexual thing.

But the reality is, if you feel sometimes like a man, but it makes you feel soo euphoric being "her", yeah, you might not be fully trans, but you’re on the trans / nonbinary spectrum and NOT a cis man with a kink only.

And the weirdest part: since this realization, all the emasculating typical sissy play is not as hot to me anymore. Do I want to be a hot slut? Yes! But I want to wear the sexy g-string to be "her", to feel euphoric and complete. Not to feel like an emasculated and humiliated man (nothing wrong with that).

Even being locked in chastity feels less kinky, less humiliating. More gender-affirming in a wholesome way.

One day, you’ll not be able to run from your own truth, at least I did not.

Did anyone have similar experiences?

Do you agree? Or disagree? And why?

I was walking through the city and just saw a girl wearing a crop top, black adidas joggers, and an insanely sexy red lace thong sticking out. Immediately I felt the desire that I want to be "her", walking around in this red lace thong. My desire alternates between wanting to "have" her and to be her.

I struggle because I cant grasp what this means, what do I want to achieve by being her?
Is is fullfilling a sexual desire and kink, being objectified and experiencing this sexual, provocative energy that the red lace thong and being a stereotypical hot girl brings?

Or do I like to be her for other non-sexual reasons, like in a femboy/trans direction?
I can't really make sense of it.

Also if it's just for sexual reasons it wouldn't be acceptable to dress and whale tail in public, right? But for non-sexual femboy reason it would be more acceptable, since women don't do this for sexual reasons too?

Can someone relate to this? And do you have more insights on the reasons behind this?
Thankful for any advice.

I was walking through the city and just saw a girl wearing a crop top, black adidas joggers, and an insanely sexy red lace thong sticking out. Immediately I felt the desire that I want to be "her", walking around in this red lace thong. My desire alternates between wanting to "have" her and to be her.

I struggle because I cant grasp what this means, what do I want to achieve by being her?
Is is fullfilling a sexual desire and kink, being objectified and experiencing this sexual, provocative energy that the red lace thong and being a stereotypical hot girl brings?

Or do I like to be her for other non-sexual reasons, like in a femboy/trans direction?
I can't really make sense of it.

Also if it's just for sexual reasons it wouldn't be acceptable to dress and whale tail in public, right? But for non-sexual femboy reason it would be more acceptable, since women don't do this for sexual reasons too?

Can someone relate to this? And do you have more insights on the reasons behind this?
Thankful for any advice.

First, I don't want to offend anyone with this question, if this is the wrong place, I'm sorry.

Also I respect and support all women including trans and cis, and think that disrespecting them is wrong and acknowledge all the hardships they have to face in the current world.

I struggle with understanding what is going on with me and I'm going in circles whether I'm trans, a guy that like to be feminine (femboy), or if it is related to my sissy kink.

For me, the sissy kink is not about being feminine is being less.
It is seeing women who dress sexy with revealing clothes, make-up, etc. and literally wanting to be "her". And the implication of this style and the persons being sexual, provocative. I literally want to be one the "hot party girls".

I know that this is based on outdated, stereotypical, problematic views. And I know that women in real life dress for themselves to feel pretty, not for sexual attention. So my desire makes sense in the kink space, but does not fit in the real world.

I started questioning, if this is more, when I got a navel piercing. Of course I liked it because of the sexual implications within the kink space. But I realized that I also like having a navel piercing when there is nothing sexual behind it, I just feel pretty and complete with it.

That started the questions, do I like to dress feminine outside of sexual context too? Am I a femboy?
I'm dressing more and more fem, started IPL, painting my nails, being outed to friends and coworkers as a fem guy, ...

Am I trans? But except from sometimes having the desire to have breasts, I have no body dysmorphia, I really like my genitals and body.
But sometimes I have a strong desire to become one of "the stereotypical girls". Less as being perceived as a women in general, more about the style and clothing and being able to express myself like that, it feels.

Did someone face a similar struggle?

How do I find out if I'm trans, a femboy, a crossdresser, if it's the kink, or even all of those, or nothing?

Thankful for any advice.
And really don't want to offend anyone and I'm open to be corrected if I said something offensive.

First, I don't want to offend anyone with this question, if this is the wrong place, I'm sorry.

Also I respect and support all women including trans and cis, and think that disrespecting them is wrong and acknowledge all the hardships they have to face in the current world.

I struggle with understanding what is going on with me and I'm going in circles whether I'm trans, a guy that like to be feminine (femboy), or if it is related to my sissy kink.

For me, the sissy kink is not about being feminine is being less.
It is seeing women who dress sexy with revealing clothes, make-up, etc. and literally wanting to be "her". And the implication of this style and the persons being sexual, provocative. I literally want to be one the "hot party girls".

I know that this is based on outdated, stereotypical, problematic views. And I know that women in real life dress for themselves to feel pretty, not for sexual attention. So my desire makes sense in the kink space, but does not fit in the real world.

I started questioning, if this is more, when I got a navel piercing. Of course I liked it because of the sexual implications within the kink space. But I realized that I also like having a navel piercing when there is nothing sexual behind it, I just feel pretty and complete with it.

That started the questions, do I like to dress feminine outside of sexual context too? Am I a femboy?
I'm dressing more and more fem, started IPL, painting my nails, being outed to friends and coworkers as a fem guy, ...

Am I trans? But except from sometimes having the desire to have breasts, I have no body dysmorphia, I really like my genitals and body.
But sometimes I have a strong desire to become one of "the stereotypical girls". Less as being perceived as a women in general, more about the style and clothing and being able to express myself like that, it feels.

Did someone face a similar struggle?

How do I find out if I'm trans, a femboy, a crossdresser, if it's the kink, or even all of those, or nothing?

Thankful for any advice.
And really don't want to offend anyone and I'm open to be corrected if I said something offensive.

I want to go to a lgbtq+ bar or club fully crossdressed. nothing extravagant, in a style that is as passing as possible.

I've been lots of times to KitKat as a femboy, getting safely there with U-Bahn was easy, just wear a hoodie and pants over my outfit and change there.

but now I want to go fully dressed with wig, full make-up, painted nails, bra underneath etc. which is harder to hide and may attract lots of negative and dangerous attention in public.

but not all lgbtq+ bars have a place to change and applying make-up takes time, which seems not practical in changing rooms like in KitKat or in toilets.

But how is it even possible to get safely to a lgbtq+ place as much ready as possible?
Especially with the current atmosphere and attacks on lgbtq+ people?

U-Bahn/S-Bahn/Tram seems to be waay to dangerous, especially since I'm in Lichtenberg area.

Taxi/Uber could work, but it's a gamble with drivers?

Bicycle seems to be the safest option, cycling in dark and conceal as much as possible.

How do other people do it?
Thankful for any advice I can get on this.

I’m a femboy and have been already a few times in KitKat, also to Piep Show. Although it is an lgbtq+ party, it seemed more focused on masculine gay cis men, furries, puppies. Which is great don’t get me wrong.

I always wanted to go, not only as femboy, but fully crossdressed with a wig, bra, makeup, etc.

But is this appropriate for Piep Show?
Or will I be in the wrong place?

Also in general, is crossdressing ok at Four Play and Carneball?