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how sexually active is piep show for pride at kitty?

It seems to me that every sex positive place is either a gay bar or correlated to BDSM...

I look for a sex positive place that I (male/straight) can visit with my date (female/bi). But not a club like Insomnia or KitKat - more a chilled place where's no loud club music but a relaxed atmosphere

I hope you can follow me :D it's not even easy to just "look online" for it

I went to several events at KitKat as a sissy / crossdresser: four play, piep show, carneball bizarre and had mixed experiences.

Nothing crazy, just crossdressed with wig, make-up, bra, thong and see-through top and skirt.

From negative: young men and especially young women staring in disgust,
to positive: some women really being into the crossdressing.

That's why I want to try an event catered specifically to my presentation.
I found the Trans & Friends event at Club Culture Houze.

Can someone share experiences of the event and the croud?

And how does it work, can you come there in street clothing and somehow dress-up there, put on a wig there?

As it's not quite without risk to go crossdressed in a revealing outfit in public lol.

Thankful for any advice.

Im planning a trip to Berlin. Planning to go to klub valboten or kitkat on the evening.

Just wondering if there are sex positive places to hang in the day? Im hetro and

the nude spa's are not for that kind of think.

I was thinking maybe something like an outdoor pool party.

Hi,

does anyone know what time Insomnia closes? It say 5am on google but I can’t imagine the party is over so early?

Thank you!

Also is this different than carnival bizarre . I assume its two events happening simultaneously?

Visiting Berlin for pride with my friend, in mid 30's, its our first time in Berlin, would appreciate some advice on whats the best party/ event for Saturday night. Got tickets to Revolver on Friday, but not sure what's the best spot for Saturday night. I appreciate the help.

Looking for reviews of this party as it seems to be marketed for younger people, but the fact that it allows single guys is making us question it. Any toughts?

Hello everyone

My wife and I love going to spa’s in Germany and Austria. We love the sauna culture and respect the rules around it when it comes to behaviour

However, we are also very affectionate and enjoy each other quite a lot 😃 and we enjoy erotic, sensuel/sexual vibes. We don’t swing but my wife has exhibitionist desire.
We don’t want to impose this on people who want it but we would also like to go to a spa where “looking” and a discrete sexual vibe is accepted - not a direct sex or swingers club - more like a spa, where ie. My wife can have her legs a bit more spread open and display her piercings, or where we can kiss occasionally and just be romantic.

We heard that the e spa at hotel q! Has more acceptance of this, but I am unsure if it is true. I have read that it is an adults only hotel, however reviews show that kids are also allowed?

So, question is, can anyone confirm that there is a little more liberal sensual vibe at the hotel q! spa or is it just a standard hotel.

Secondly, are there any recommendations for a place as described above?🫣😊

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i have the right clothes for the inside, but what to wear in sommer to the way there? does it look bad if you come in basic black shorts and shirt and show on picture what you will wear inside?

Stroked with a guy in the shower but wanted to do more (hj/bj). Only watched through the glass. Anyone got any advice on how to best approach more or where to go after you both are fine with it?

Hello, im looking out to maybe have some csrsex for the first time with another person. We both want to do it late in the evening so we don't get disturbed. However I also don't know where we could go to that would be Safe enough for no one to pass the car.

Anybody got any ideas?

We're a heterosexual couple looking for clubs similar to Insomnia. Specifically, clubs where you can dance, where they don't just play electronic music, and where sex is possible. Are there any such options in Berlin?

Hello all,

I wanted to share our thoughts on the latest Pornceptual party, last weekend at Maaya.

First of all, I want to say that we have been going to Pornceptual for years, we have never had issues and always found it safe and open to be our dirty slutty selves.

However this time, two huge issues:

Recording

There was SO. MUCH. RECORDING. going on, I would see someone with their phone out, pointed at the crowd, at least a few times per hour. And thats only from what I personally saw.

It was mainly near the DJ, recording the DJ themselves, but also with people in the background, and then they would just blatantly film the crowd too.

I think I don't need to explain why this is such a huge issue, especially in the age of AI.

I infomed awareness, several times, and the only thing they did was to come to that place, stick around for a few minutes, and then leave. Nothing was actually done. I don't blame them themselves, but it seems they were not properly trained for this.

Also, I was told that recording is actually allowed?? I have no idea why they would allow that, at Pornceptual of all places.

Maaya Security

For some reason Maaya had HEAPS of security guys walking around EVERYWHERE. And it was obvious they weren't prepared for pornceptual. It was like tourists at a zoo. By the end of the night they weren't even pretending to do actual work, they were just staring, glaring, commenting at the people, mostly female. At one point one guy came so close to a female friend of ours, he was openly ogling her, we had to move.

This will be our last pornceptual, as these are all non negotiable criteria for us. Its a shame, but it seems like this isn't made for the community anymore, it seems to be becoming a brand.

Would love to hear others input / experience.

Hey everyone! My wife and I are… experimenting… and we want to find out the best way to get tested in Berlin. I had read a post here once where I thought there was an easy place to go which may be even free with insurance (TK) but we can’t find any good info. Any recommendations? We are hoping to have regular testing done.

Thanks!

Hi!

I'm planning my first trip to Berlin soon and had a few questions about safety and general experience.

I’m a crossdresser. I usually use the term “crossdresser” because it’s the easiest way for people to understand what I mean, even though I don’t really feel super comfortable with that label - it’s just what most people recognize.

I’ve never really been part of any specific “crossdresser” spaces or meetups, and honestly those kinds of very niche groups make me a bit nervous. I’d feel much more comfortable just being in queer-friendly spaces in general, rather than anything labeled specifically.

My main questions are:

• How safe is Berlin at night in general for someone presenting more femme?
• Are there areas that are better to stay in or avoid when going out at night?
• How do club entrances usually work there (queue, door policy, going alone, etc.)?
• Is it generally fine/safe to use taxis/Uber while dressed?
• Any general tips for navigating nightlife there without feeling out of place or unsafe?

I’m not really looking for anything sexual or hookup-related, just trying to understand the city a bit better before coming, since it’ll be my first time and I’m a bit unsure about how things work there.

Thanks a lot for any advice!