r/SexPositiveBerlin

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Anyone attended this bator club? Is it well attended, what’s the demographic?

Any first hand reports?

Me and my partner, cis, we're looking for parties to join this week, the tango base ones are the ones that sounds like fit better for us.

Any advice or recommendations?

We're a bit out of balance with the shoes.

We like tango and sounds a good place to start playing around and with people.

What party do you recommend?

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How common is it at naked parties at KitKat (like Nacktfleisch) that guys are walking around / dancing with full erections? How do people usually react or interact?

From your experience, how normal or widespread is drug-use (not alkohol or weed) at Kitkat, especially people engaging in sexual activities during these parties.

I’ve recently become much more comfortable with my partner, and we’re thinking about trying group sex with another couple for the first time at a club. We’re considering KitKatClub, but we’d love to hear if you know any better places.

We’re both 25 and have been together for two years, but we’re new to swinging and group sex. We’d really appreciate any advice for communicating boundaries, or personal experiences you’d be willing to share!

I enjoy being watched during sex and might be open to another couple joining us, but I want to avoid unwanted interactions. Which areas at KitKat offer both privacy and visibility?

We were also wondering whether it’s normal and acceptable to bring a towel to place underneath us for hygiene during sex.

We’re considering the SYMBIOTIKKA party at KitKat. What is the atmosphere like there, especially regarding sex? Since it’s on a Wednesday, is it usually less crowded and less sexually active than the weekend parties?

Hello,
I am visiting berlin after September Mid(17-19). I am planning to go to the sexy clubs I heard of like Kitkat, Berghain, Insomnia etc.
I am looking for people who are planning the same, I want to have the best experience and am open to anything. I dont expect anything in return but just some crazy like minded people who want to sexplore. Its all about having fun, so lets not make this complicated. I will be gone back after my stay.
Please let me know about any exciting events/parties happening

Wanna share my experience 🖤
Before I got into kink I used to feel like something was wrong with me. Like the parts of me that wanted to let go, or take control, or feel something intense were proof I was broken.
Then I started exploring it — choosing to play with power and trust on purpose, with clear words, in a space that stayed safe. For the first time I could actually look at those quiet parts of myself without shame. I said what I wanted. I heard the same from someone else. I practiced letting go and holding control with care.
And it changed how I feel. Knowing my edges and choosing them stopped me from running from myself. Trusting in those small, clear ways made trust easier outside of them too. It feels less like something’s wrong and more like I finally met myself — and walked away freer.

Hi everyone I am going to Berlin specifically for a pinky promise event(I have been in London and had a great time) . This is the original plans. I was looking at the KitKat and insomnia websites and there's no events on the alternative days I am there for

I want to know what is on 16th Oct and the 18th. Is KitKatclub and insomnia better than pinky promise as I could change my plans if I get good feedback from people.

I am possibly going solo (30f) and would like somewhere that you can have a good time and maybe meet people that are friendly, respectful and not new to the scene (no kink tourists).

What would you guys recommend?! :)

Also: I would also take recommendations on good raves to go to that is safe for solo female travellers (by this I mean I can just enjoy myself without worrying about people touching me without consent on the dancefloor, unfortunately I get freaked out and then don't end up enjoying myself). I love meeting new people but I am touch aversion for people I don't know or consented to grabbing me.

EDIT: I will be in Berlin only from 16th to the 19th. Looking for events on the 16th or 18th.

Has anyone been to Lustgarten before? I’m considering going tomorrow and would be interested in hearing about your experiences like atmosphere, crowd, what to expect, play vs. party etc.

Until recently I wasnt really getting along with my own body (and shape thereof). Im Trans (so obviously im stupid about that). Buuut things got a lot better, and id like to not "hide" anymore. Ok to be fair I never did, but I dont have any friends who like to go to clubs and kinky parties.

I got happy energy, bring good mood (im hot too xP) and id love to find some nice people to just explore things with, have fun, go out, do whatever friends do (my good friends have exceedingly, started to get kids, which makes them... "unavailable".... >.<)

Sooo. If you feel like you'd have place in your social group for a kinky fun person. LET ME KNOW! xP Or tell me where to find people like you :P

I dont know where to start otherwise 😊 Sooo - advice on that is very much appreciated. Any pointers towards groupchats / activity or meetup circles, etc are greatly valued. :O

As the title says, I like to eat cum. I went to Laboratory (naked party Thursday) in Berlin, it was fun, a lot of guys, but most of the ones I sucked, when I asked if they wanted to cum in my mouth, said "oh, I just arrived."

Since making guys cum is the most fun part for me, I'd rather go somewhere guys come to cum instead of 3 hours of partying and then cumming once.

I've tried outdoor cruising it's better than Lab for this, but not as safe, and still not quite the fantasy. Any ideas? Especially in Berlin.

(Btw, I do this rarely and always test afterwards.)

My partner and I are looking for a sex-positive club to visit. Which club would you recommend in terms of safety, staff/security, and overall atmosphere? Also, are we allowed to bring our own towels?

Has anyone here worn a visible chastity cage to sex-positive events here? (Cage outside your clothes)
I’m thinking of attending some events next month and was wondering how this is generally received. I’m particularly curious whether venues tend to have any issues with visible chastity gear, or if it’s considered pretty normal fetishwear.
Would appreciate hearing about people’s experiences, especially with specific events or venues. Thanks!

Hello everyone,

My girlfriend and I (38 and 40 years old) live in the south of France and, for the past few years, we have made a habit of coming to Berlin for a few days in August.

On Saturday nights, we usually go to CarneBall Bizarre at KitKat. We have rarely been disappointed: we really like the people, the atmosphere, dancing and playing😇

But we saw that on Saturday, August 29, there is also Unleashed at Insomnia. This party seems to be quite popular, and a lot of people have already signed up for the event.

We have never been to Unleashed before, so we don’t really know what to expect.

We would really like to hear your opinion, please. Do you think it would be worth discovering the Unleashed party? Or should we stick to our usual habits and go to KitKat that night?

Thank you in advance for your feedback.🙏 

Love, Lust & Freedom  🕊️