43 [M4F] #NYC – I'm in your head, and it's empty.
Outwardly, I’m reserved, career-driven, and usually in a suit. But behind closed doors... I’m playful, affectionate, quick to laugh, and hungry for life.
I like this contradiction in myself and draw power from it - and ultimately, any dynamic like this one involves not just control of each other but of yourself. Psychology - yours, mine, ours - is at the heart of this.
I’m less interested in blunt-force dominance or subjecting you to performative cruelty than getting into your head and slowly, incrementally, turning your brain off from the inside.
I want to separate out from your public persona the pliable, instructable, mindless, clingy little toy that hides within and needs to find expression.
Direction, language, and playful control - remotely and in person - are central to this dynamic. You should love to chat, to take instruction, to please. You aspire to becoming what you secretly are - and then returning, for a while, to what you need to pretend to be: a normal, high-functioning member of polite society.
What you wear, how you present yourself, and how you offer yourself to me are central to your training - and, when we’re apart, the meat of it. You fantasize about being directed, shaped, designed, and made to serve. In return, you crave approval, affection, and endless, doting praise.
I have zero interest in chaos masquerading as kink. (There is a lot of that here, making it hard to know who's experienced and safe, and who's cosplaying control under the guise of cruelty.) Consent, communication, and boundaries are non-negotiable.
About me: 43, fit, articulate, polished, sane, successful, and hung. I come from the arts but am now an engineer. I appreciate intelligence, femininity, and a mischievous streak conditioned through obedience. Like you, I'm recently tested and fanatically healthy.
I live in NYC and you should, too, or be really close to it. It shouldn't take military-grade logistics to regularly meet.
If this sounds familiar or if you're curious and simply want to know more, tell me who you are, where you are, and what caught your eye.