Potential SB Seeking Advice on Finding a Serious SD Arrangement
I'm not exactly sure if this post is in the right community. Nonetheless, I'm gonna post.
I've already read some posts here stating that it's really difficult to find an SD in the Philippines. I am 25 from Davao. I'm 5'5 and weigh 54 kgs. I am a licensed professional teacher with a bachelor’s degree related to mathematics, and I have even had research published in an international journal. At my age, I'm still ambitious and continuously working on improving myself.
I love traveling and doing solo dates, although most of my trips are just around our country, since I didn't have any motivation to get my passport processed. I've just had my appointment this June since my sister and I have international travel plans by 2027.
I must say I don't look that bad since I usually get approached by foreigners when I travel, and even when I went to Metro Manila last month. Here are some of my hobbies: walking/running, hiking, camping, freediving, reading books, watching movies/TV series, trying new cafes or restaurants, and exploring places with great histories.
Anyway, I feel like it's difficult for me to find an SD since most prefer someone great at sex. I want to find someone who's a provider and at the same time someone I can connect with emotionally, intellectually, and who is willing to be patient with me sexually—someone confident and experienced who knows how to lead and bring out my best version in intimacy through trust and patience. I do have some experiences, but most are just foreplay since I was really afraid before. Although through those experiences, I discovered a lot about myself. I love foreplay, and I know what I enjoy, like being disrespected respectfully in bed, but I still have a lot to learn and experience.
What I can offer in return is genuine companionship, loyalty, meaningful conversations, and someone genuinely interested in your life, goals, and experiences. I'm naturally curious, a good listener, and I genuinely enjoy learning from people who have achieved more in life than I have. I value consistency, appreciation, and making someone feel cared for rather than treated like an ATM.
I do cardio and go to the gym regularly. I have an active lifestyle, and I really wanna build shared experiences. I also want a quality SD who is educated, emotionally mature, and willing to invest in our relationship, not just financially but also through time, effort, and mutual respect. I'm looking for something long-term with clear intentions, clear expectations, and honest communication from the beginning, not a one-time arrangement.
As for preference, I do find myself more comfortable and attracted to someone around 30–45 years old, though I’m also open to a bit older as long as he still takes care of his body, carries himself well, and smells really good. I believe attraction really matters.
I'm just not really sure where to find someone with those intentions. I'm also a bit scared to be on dating sites since my students might find my profile.
Has anyone here successfully found a long-term arrangement in the Philippines? If so, where did you meet, and what helped you filter out people who weren't serious?