Why do subs get aroused when teased/mocked, or when they're asked to say out loud what they want from a dom?
I feel that I understand my sexual preferences pretty well by now, but there's two types of dirty talk where I don't quite understand why they arouse me, and I was hoping I could get perspectives from other subs on why it might scratch that submissive kink!
The first type is below. I don't understand why simply asking me what I want is so arousing to me lol. I feel like I could ask my partner, "What do you want?" or "Where do you want to cum?" and it would also be arousing for him, even though he leans more dominant. So it's a little perplexing that we can both be aroused by similar questions.
Asking Me to Detail What I Want
- "Please what?" - in response to me saying please
- "And what do you need?"
- "Tell me what you want, specifically"
And then the second type of dirty talk is shown below. I don't understand why it arouses me when someone teases me for my preferences. 😅 I guess my partner and I have the same dynamic outside of sex in which he'll tease me, I'll be fake-offended, and then I smack him over the head or on the shoulder for being a bully. But that kind of teasing doesn't arouse me, it's just our style of humor.
Teasing/Mocking
- "Use your words" - when I'm overwhelmed and having difficulty saying sentences
- "You're so needy"
- "Poor thing.. can't think straight"
- "Damn.. you LOVE that, don't you?"
- "You're a fucking mess this morning, huh?" - when I had to change my underwear twice because I kept getting too wet reading a dom's messages