Would it be weird for a cuck/Stag to try and befriend Bulls with the purpose of possibly having sex with my lady? I want to form genuine friendships within the lifestyle but I also want to be intentional. Cause right now my friends are mostly vanilla and my lady is not attracted to them.

And being friends I mean sometimes we hang out without the lady present. Working out together, going out to bars, etc. Is this realistic?

My question is for husbands here: which option do you prefer the most

1. Your wife should keep only one bull

2. It's up to her how many she wants to have

Which option do you prefer and why? It's only for my education to understand the cuckold psychology. Really appreciate your contribution. I'm male and doing this for study, as I am a student of psychology

People underestimate how hard is to be a good bull.

It’s completely insane to me to even try to imagine myself doing what you guys are capable of.

I’m an attractive, above dick (but caged) young cuckold, and being dominant, controlling with a big dick energy is something that I was never able to do. It’s all about how you’re built mentally.

Seeing the energy and confidence that leaves a bulls body without saying anything, how girls fold in front of you, how you fuck and take control and manage to dominate their body and mind, is completely alien to me.

Like it makes me so tired only thinking about the stuff that you can do, and seeing it in person makes me feel so inferior, submissive and patethic because I know I could never recreate even 10% of it.

Good. Fucking. Job. You guys deserve everything you take.

My wife 45f and I 57m have been trying to meet potential thirds in upscale DC bars and restaurants recently. Some have music on other floors, so there is a lot of entertainment energy. Most of these clubs are black owned. She has her spade anklet prominently displayed and given the opportunity, would love to engage in conversation with an attractive man. She is very attractive and in great shape. So far we haven’t been approached in any fashion. My question is, what can we do to give off even more of a vibe to make others interested? She is somewhat shy, but once approached is very friendly.

Basically I was chilling at one of my regular bars and got to talking with a lady who was also at the bar alone. We chat for quite some time and because the conversation was flowing and she doesn’t seem prudish the conversation went to my bull activities. She seemed genuinely interested and actually asked good questions; it was a very engaging exchange. She invites me to hers to try me out and I obliged. Overall a fun time.

Anything similar happen to anyone?

When I first started this lifestyle I bumped into a couple who's wife never slept with a black guy and wanted to try. She was the shy and timid type but her husband was overly aggressive and eager to see me slide my dick in and outside of his wife.
Everything was perfect. We all talked on the phone multiple times and I exchanged pictures with them but the thing that made me back off is the location and what he said to me. They stayed in what looked like a country ass area right outside the city but the place looked like a mini farm with a house on it and multiple houses nearby but with alot of space inbetween them all. You know know how in some country looking areas they have those small one story houses on huge plots of land and driveways with neighbors nearby? That's where they were.
He ended up telling me "When you come you have to be very careful because the people here aren't too fond of others in the community and it gets extremely dark out here at night so when you come, stay at the corner and cut your lights off before calling me". I asked if they'd like to get a room instead and the guy wasn't having it.
I said fuck that didn't even go through with it and at the time I didn't even have my protection neither? Man hell no, I had a feeling it was something about them or him especially.

48M cuck married to 37F bi hotwife. I’ve been in the ls for over 15 years with a couple of different partners, and have generally had excellent experiences with male bulls/thirds. The not-so-excellent experiences (eg flakes) are frequent enough, however, to be a real bummer. My wife, who has had several relationships with women, is interested in connecting with women who enjoy cucking men with their female partners. I’d love to hear from women with experience in this area.

The more I indulge in this lifestyle, the less I am interested in dating. Why would I waste my money on dates for the POSSIBILITY of sex when I can just pound a hotwife with less money and sometimes less effort? I am in my late 20s and have zero desire to keep going on dates with a woman when I could spend my money elsewhere and in alotta cases the women are annoying, entitled, and their emotions and choices change up like day and night. Anyone else feel this way?

Question for the Bulls and Im not going to be surprised by the array of responses.

Have you ever met with a couple, read into that the husband was down but too nervous to go with power exchanged and shifted the method of approach on the fly?

Just curious how everyone hands the guys that need to be guided more than pushed or the ones that are on the fence but still ready.

How did you get interested in being a bull and why? I've been thinking about it myself a little.

Do you ever incorporate PNC into your play? As in, having the cuck cum early on and then sitting through the session? It seems like it could be a fun way to show dominance and remind him where the focus is during play.

So chatting to many people on her it always has an extra edge chatting to someone from my own country or even my own region. It gives just that much of stomach turner when a right note is hit. A while ago me and my girl got more than I bargained for and I can only take my head off to the clever, skilled bull pulling it off.

I got chatting to the guy regularly enough through a post of one of us and we got along nicely. Educated guy, could have a normal conversation and talking cuck and bull we easily related to eachother. Sharing partial pictures at first he was into my girl and could totally lean into my insecurities and turn ons. We had a mutually beneficial time talking for a few weeks.

As time went on we got to know each other a bit more and revealed some more stuff and shared more pics, as thing would naturally develop I guess. There was never any talk of meeting up or hanging out; this was plenty.

In retrospect I think it started when I showed him a daily life pic that showed most of us although still with faces covered by smileys. He started asking a bit more about where I was from and certain routines. I happily shared stuff and figured it was part of just chatting more.

Not much later at the bar I often meet my girlfriend after work I found her one day after walk chatting to some dude. Kind of happens a lot. She is a genuinely friendly woman and it doesn't bother me the least. The looked familiar and it was quickly established we go to the same gym. We all got chatting and got along nicely. Convo was easy and after a few drinks we all went our separate ways.

On the Friday night later that week he was hanging out with some buddies as my girl and I got our Friday night drink on. He wandered over a bit later in the evening and we all started chatting again. Because of the deinks the convo was a bit more forward and sexy. The guy was clearly hitting on her and taking some shots at me. My stomach turned. He was pushing some buttons with both her and me that she and I so often discussed set us off. Pretty soon I saw signs that she well thoroughly turned on. When this is done by a stranger I get a weird kind of nervous. As the evening got later, in retrospect, the guys used some turns of phrase we had used chatting on Reddit as he looked at me clearly. Well hindsight is always 20-20.

Not too many drinks later he looked at me as he put his hands under her skirt right there at the bar; one of the many things we talked about online. My wife knew everything was fair game now. As she headed to freshen up the guy laughed at me and simply mentioned his Reddit handle....

We were far do deep in to realize my buttons had been pushed to perfection. He claimed his prize that night. Just reward for a game well played

Specifically wondering what the bull’s think would make a perfect time. Ladies and hubbies feel free to add in. :)

Is it wrong to make the cuck pay for your travel and hotel when you are visiting .
I get one of them to drive over
200 miles round trip to pick me up because they moved and I said I was not going to pay for the trip.. what do you think

27m aspiring Bull here. Trying to seek out my first experience in the lifestyle, and the apps are garbage and Reddit is garbage for this. Then I learned about this event called Splash mocha where it's literally couples looking for a third and it seems perfect for me. It's about as close as you can get to a hot wife convention! Dream come true

At first based on the imagery of it...... I thought you had to be black to go as a single guy but it seems like that's not the case from what I can find on google, so for anyone who is actually been to one of these, I want to know what the qualifications are if there are any, and then what the vetting process looks like for being admitted as a single guy.

Additionally, let's say you get in, do you still have to buy a ticket and book a hotel room the same way on the website?

Im sure there's competition to get in,, so I want to know how selection happens. Mentally and emotionally, I would totally be in the top 1% because I worked to learn these dynamics. Now, fitness..... is another story but then again I am Young in my 20s...... so my non-saggy skin, knees, and eyesight haven't disappeared yet like some of the 40s/50s geriatrics in the lifestyle thinking they can still fuck properly.

So for anyone who has experience in splash mocha, tell me how it works! Thanks.

A few ideas for cuck humiliation.

1, While you fuck her, let the cuck lie on the floor and you put one foot on his face, with his mouth stuffed with your sock. Reminding him of his place.

2, While you fuck her, spit on his face.

3, Before you start, he has to prep both of you with his mouth and after you finish, he has to clean up both of you with his mouth.

4, After you finish in her, she let you decide if/where he cums. You get to cum in her but he only gets to jerk off and cum on her toes, in a condom, or not cum at all.

5, Before you leave, slap his cucky face a few times, say “fking pathetic cuck” and laugh at his useless dick, he has to respond “thank you sir for satisfying my wife”

6, Cum on her face, and let him lick and swallow all the cum.

7, Tie the cuck on the bed with arms and legs spread out, and use his as a mattress where you and her fuck on.

8, The cuck is not allowed to touch himself until you and her both finish.

Share more ideas below pls?

There’s this assumption in kink spaces that anything involving the ass is inherently submissive. i get where it comes from culturally, but i think that framing falls apart when you apply it to prostate orgasms specifically, and especially when you think about what it looks like for a cuckold to actually witness one.

The instinct of many dominant men is to say “that’s gay” but gay in this context is just code for weak or submissive. and for a man who is truly secure and dominant there’s nothing gay about any sex act that involves a woman.

most of what happens in a cuckolding dynamic is psychological, right? the hierarchy gets implied, performed, communicated through symbolism. who *she* chooses, how *she* looks at him, the peaks of *her* pleasure, and what gets said or doesn’t. the cuckold figures out his place through inference mostly fixated on the cuckoldress’ experience.

but let’s flip the script. What about witnessing the bull reach absolute peak physical pleasure and the cuckoldress being not just the source of it but the one who patiently and dutifully guides him there. that’s an extremely powerful thing to witness. A true mindfuck if you will.

and it needs to be made clear about what that peak actually is. a prostate orgasm isn’t just a stronger version of a regular orgasm, it’s a completely different thing. men who’ve had one describe it as full body, longer, it takes over in a way that a regular orgasm just doesn’t. there’s really no good way to explain it to someone who hasn’t been there but the short version is it’s probably the furthest the male body can go pleasure wise. that’s what she’s giving him. that’s what the cuckold is witnessing.

the cuckoldress isn’t passively receiving anything in this moment. Rather, she’s actively building his most extreme physical experience. her hands, her fingers, her focus, her mouth, her willingness to go somewhere that most people treat as off limits, she is the direct cause of what he’s experiencing.

and she pointed all of that at him. not the cuckold

That distinction is the gut punch. every bit of her attention and skill is going toward maximizing another man’s pleasure and the cuckold is just kind of there, ambient, background, a witness that the bull barely registers because what’s happening between him and the cuckoldress is consuming everything in the room. nobody has to say the cuckold doesn’t matter in that moment it’s just visually true.

he’s watching the love of his life be completely useful to another man’s body.

And not in a decorative way, or a functional way. She’s not objectified. She’s exercising her full agency to skillfully, intimately, and intentionally push him to his limit. Like a master artist and this experience she is painting for him is her magnum opus, and the cuckold has the privilege to watch it get made.

she knows where to go, she’s allowed there, she’s not thinking about her cuck at all because her focus is 100% on the bull’s pleasure. the bull’s body, convulsions, reactions, moans are all evidence of the hierarchy, as are her hands and mouth that don’t relent and don’t break focus.

and the cuckold sees it on her face before anything else. the want. she’s not performing, she’s not going through motions, she is hungry to take this man to his limit and it shows. that eagerness, that lust, that willingness to go anywhere and do anything to get him there.

and then the bull reaches it. the cuckold sees it happen in real time, the moment the body takes over, the sounds he can’t control, the way he stops being composed or dominant or anything other than completely taken apart by what she’s doing to him. the cuckold is watching the ceiling of male pleasure and he knows, without anyone saying it, that this is not something she ever chased with him. that hunger she has right now. that focus. it was always there. just never pointed at him.