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We haven’t been in the lifestyle for so long and we’re still figuring some things out.

Sometimes I wonder if bulls prefer couples who show up with clear rules and a set dynamic already in place, or if they actually like the ones who are more open and let the bull influence how things develop.

From the bull side, which do you prefer? I’m really curious 🧐

Curious about the bull preference on this.

Some husbands are fully into it, ready to help, clean up, wait on you, and make everything easier. Others are more hesitant, awkward, or visibly dealing with mixed feelings even while they go along with it.

From the bull side, which one do you actually prefer?

The eager and willing type, or the one who’s clearly working through it while it’s happening?

Curious how far some of you have pushed it.

We’ve all heard the stories of bulls who degrade, ignore, or openly disrespect the husband… and somehow still get asked back for more.

So I’m asking directly: What’s the most disrespectful or fucked-up thing you’ve done to a cuck during a dynamic that didn’t get you cut off and actually got you invited back?

No judgment. Just want to hear real stories..

Curious to get real answers from bulls on this.

We’ve been in the lifestyle for a while and one of our rules (at least for now, her preference ) is that I’m in the room when she plays.

Safety and comfort are a big deal for us, and she’s not interested in playing alone either.

One bull we talked to suggested it would be better/hotter without me there. He wasn’t rude about it, but it made me wonder how common that preference is.

Do most of you actually enjoy having the husband there and watching, or is it something you mostly just tolerate to get the meet?

Just trying to get different opinions and understand the bull side of it better.

Curious to hear from bulls (and couples) about this.

We’ve been in the lifestyle for about 9 months and have met a few guys. Some start off interested, say the right things, then the effort drops off pretty quickly, slow replies, long gaps, or they just fade out.

Even with our regular, he only reaches out when he wants to meet. There’s no “hi” or check-in in between, just silence until he’s ready to set something up. It happens often enough that I’m wondering if this is a common pattern or just the ones we’ve run into.

I know every bull is different and not everyone is looking for the same thing. Some guys just want casual sex with no ongoing connection, which is fine if that’s the agreement.

For us, though, we’re more interested in a boyfriend-type bull for her, someone who actually wants some level of connection, consistency, and relationship energy with her rather than just pure hit-and-run sex. That seems harder to find than the low-effort version.

Is the indifference / only-messaging-when-they-want-to-meet thing something a lot of couples run into? And for the bulls here who prefer the more involved / boyfriend-style dynamic, what usually makes you stick around vs. pull back?

My wife and I started this journey about 8 months ago. We’ve met 3 bulls so far and one of them has become a regular.

At the beginning I was extremely turned on. After the meetings we had great sex and we were going at it a lot. I still get turned on by the whole thing and I genuinely love my cuck role, but something has shifted.

I’m now much more comfortable being pussy-free. I mainly look forward to her getting fucked by him. The desire to have sex with her myself has dropped a lot.

The problem is on her side. She has a high sex drive, she’s very sexual, and she still wants me. We only see the bull every other week (sometimes more than that), so between those meetings she gets frustrated because she wants dick and I’m not really initiating or craving it the same way anymore.

Is anyone else in a similar situation?
Did this happen to you and was it temporary, or did it become a more permanent shift?
Curious to hear how other couples have handled this.