r/CuckoldPsychology

Yesterday we had an evening to ourselves, so to tease my husband I did that thing where you write something on two cards and the other person blindly picks one.

One option was cuck sex, with the cage and dirty talk and I get to get off while he doesn’t. Of course I liked that idea, but the other option was dominate sex, where my husband controls everything. Honestly, our sex life is all over the place and has drastically changed since i started my hotwife journey. Originally he was the dominate one in our relationship, as well as the bedroom, but over the last six months that has changed and it’s been a great time too.

Anyway, he got the one he wanted and we had an amazing night! Was just curious, are any of the men on this sub like my husband where you switch back and forth? If you are completely a cuck, I’m interested to hear that perspective as well.

Our situation is the following. My wife suffers from chronic depression, anxiety, and what in our geographic area is known as a “highly sensitive person,” meaning, simply put, someone prone to experiencing emotional highs and lows more intensely than most people. I do not know what the proper term for that would be in the USA.

The point is that therapy and medication obviously have a negative effect on her libido, not just regarding including a third person, but even in our regular sex life. When we do have sex, it is intense, but over the past two years I have to admit the occasions have become more spaced out.

She has tried diets, supplements, natural products, etc., but the change is usually marginal at best. I love her and I will always support her, but the situation is uncomfortable for both of us. I do not pressure her, but her frustration about the issue is visible, especially because she genuinely enjoys being a hotwife.

Have any of you lived through something similar? Were you able to overcome it, or what has helped you deal with it? Any physical or mental suggestions would help us.

We have been together for over 20 years now. We have been talking about cuckold scenario's for almost as many years. We love to fantasise and dirty talk about it. I always thought that if something would happen it would probalby be a little experimenting in a swingers club. But yesterday something new came up.

My wife took a temporary job out of town where she will work for 6 Fridays over the next seven weeks. Yesterday was the first time and when she came home we talked about her day. She casually mentioned another guy working there who helped her out. When she described him it was clear she found him attractive. A nice looking African man. She was impressed with how he handled some difficult costumers. And he is cute. Later that day, I was giving her a massage, I asked her to imagine if she was single, would she let him seduce her? Without hesitation she told me yes, if she was single she would let him. Then I suggested she should let him seduce her anyway. If anything happened she should let it happen. Perhaps even actively try to seduce him, have an affair. She loved that. Her eyes lit up. "Would you agree to that?" She asked. I told her I would accept it if it happened.

We had a discussion on what could happen, how it could happen, boundaries. Yes, it was hot and we were both aroused, but the conversation was more serious than before. Like, this could happen for real. After almost an hour of talking, massaging her and her edging me she allowed me to cum. Afterwards I felt a bit ashamed but I knew deep down I was still into the idea.

Now the cat is sort of half out of the bag. She will be working with him every Friday for the upcoming weeks. After that the assignment ends for her. We didn't discus it further today, but it is still lingering in the air. I am planning be a very supportive husband for her, to tease her a bit, encourage her to just 'see what happens' in the next weeks.

Any tips, advice? What can I do to facilitate the proces? Or should I just back off and let nature take its course?

I am a cuck and I do not know why but somehow I really like If the Bull is involving grooming requests and in particular pubic hair style preferences for both the Cuck and the hotwife. For example I found it really humiliating when I was Clean shaven Like a boy while the bull had a fully grown bush. Seeing how He was pounding my gf and being sucked Off with that manly cock was Just so arousing. Do you have similar thoughts/ experiences?

Any guys have experience on transitioning from the cuck to the bull? I’m new to this.

My girl and her new boytoy are going out and staying at a hotel tonight, and they’re taking a Polaroid camera with them. Any ideas of what photos they should take or any ideas I could give them while they’re out?

There’s a million ways she can dirty talk the cuck, what are some things to say to the wife? Specifically while roleplaying? Wives, what is your favorite thing to hear?

Please say if you are a cuck or wife when answering

(Not sure if this will get removed or not, so Mods please don't ban me for it. I will just delete it if its not allowed)

I posted this long while ago and appreciated all the feedback. Wanted to post again for people that may not have seen it last time, I love to hear other peoples view on this. Also, maybe there are couples who are into the same thing and it shows they aren't alone since all of this isn't part of the typical lifestyle.

I have always had a long time fantasy to be a bf type more than the typical bull. I've always wanted to have a emotional connection relationship with a married couple/wife. I enjoy the thought of getting to know her, share things with, excitement of texting all day, those normal daily life things.

I know all those things are different and could be placed in a different category lifestyle, but wondering if finding something like that is possible...even if its having it as an online relationship only, esp with newer couples who just aren't comfy with doing it IRL but enjoy the thought of the lifestyle? Or is what you see online the same as IRL where couples just want to have multiple third partners for hookups and thats it?

The other night me and my gf went on a double date with a friend and his gf. Although we were acting like a normal couple in front of them. Later that night when we went home she mentioned us switching partners while jerking me off. I told her what if he fucks both of you two. Two for him and none for me. That’s what I get right haha. To my surprise, she immediately said yesss, and you can be his cheerleader. After hearing that I was so turned on, I almost came. There’s such a crazy feeling imagining someone have sex with two different girls, one of them being the love of your life and you just watch. I couldn’t imagine feeling more like a king. Has anyone actually had this experience? What is something we can expect?

I enjoy seeing caption pictures which trigger the mental response on a primal level. So if there is a captioned picture that turns you on beyond any logical limits, share it with us. It would be nice to know what appeals to your subconscious as a hotwife or a cuck or a bull.

Becoming a cuck couple in our early 20s required A LOT of inspiration lol.

From two nervous college students hosting their first bull in their senior dorm to now, at 26, playing caged at a Swingers club, a lot of times we’ve felt alone…. like we’re the only people our age living out this lifestyle. Our friends & fam look down on the LS.

So finding online role models with genuine perspectives on cuckolding was key to us taking the leap. We started with a FUCKTON of porn which was really fun and helped built the excitement lol but obviously limited in real life helpfulness. In that regard, no one helped us more than u/venuscuckoldresspod . Venus has such an infectious enthusiasm about cuckolding, and her episodes represent every type of cuckold couple & bull. Her episodes helped us discover new kinks, force hard conversations, and dedicate ourselves to the IR side of things.

But what we really want to know is who inspired you?!

Did your parents live an open lifestyle that pushed you to seek your own? Did an ex-partner push you into trying this? Did a friend come out as cuck and make you curious? Did you find an online role model like us to help talk you through the complexities of kink?

As someone not doing this dynamic yet, but have always been very curious, and have no idea how common verbal humiliation is in real cuckolding, there's something at the end of my fantasies I wondered about: In the cases were there are very rough verbal comparisons, like size comparisons or pleasure being better with the bull, how honest do couples make that? I understand the selection quality of the partner already in some way puts the cuckold as below the other two for the fantasy, but if the cuckold's partner says something like, "He fucks me better than you," Or something like that, does it register as something taken outside of the bedroom? Or is it closer to roleplay? I've skimmed a few posts but I don't know how deep the experiences are. Is the mystery behind those statements part of the draw too?

When I envision myself after the sex/watching, the humiliation being close to the truth is something I'm not sure I'd be cool with. I reckon that if it bothers me this kind of stuff is left better to explore through porn and a verbal fantasy with my partner.

Hey!

Need a bit of help please fellow cucks!

So me and the Mrs are swingers and I've always had a cuck fetish, we've recently met a couple who we trust enough to go down this route of play with.

I'm not exactly small but above average size, and I'm struggling to find a cage that actually comfortably fits. All the ones I've had either pull away at the base and are really uncomfortable or straight up don't fit!

Recommendations please for a cage for a slightly above average cock?

We have been really close a couple of times and now she says she’s ready. I really need to eat the bull’s cum to complete my fantasy. We’ve talked about during sex and she doesn’t seem like she’s into me doing that. How can I make that happen the first time and do I have too much vested in eating the bull’s cum.

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My wife and I had been discussing and role playing sharing her for a while and she initially started with it to support my fantasy but had been getting more and more into it with more research and thought. We got to the point where she wanted to find a guy to float the idea by and feel out for a connection.

She had two men that she was vibing on via text that she was seeing herself fucking, including an in person date with one of the men, and an invitation to join us at our hotel room. But both situations took turns that made it apparent that either of these men were going to be viable options. Which was for the best and we moved on but now that it’s been some time, she has mentioned wanting to try again but is having doubts about getting excited for it not to happen again.

Any suggestions on navigating this together. How can I both support her concerns and her desire to try again?

She's going to a party in an hour with a friend and the purpose is to play erotic games and have sex.

I'm just rubbing on myself thinking that once again someone will be enjoying my wife.

I let her do what she wants but my rules are that she sends me a summary of details after each encounter.

Anyone else require something like that?

Also what do you guys do while shes away?

Goodday everyone , I am an experienced bull from the Netherlands and have meet some couples in the past. The current time phrases like “ cuckold”, “wifesharing”, “hotwives” become more standard as a kink but there are only empty words and not any action come out of it. So a lot of guys of couples only shoot but dont follow up to any serious action.

So to date with real serious couples becomes so hard while it seens if they hide somewhere or gone other places.
Who could give me some answers?

I am small. 4.5. And for years have been wanting my wife to cuckold me. We haven’t had sex for several years. I haven’t gotten off to the idea of fucking her for many years.

Several years ago she admitted to me that her best sex was with her hung ex bf. She revealed lots of detail to me, including how she loved sucking his uncut and how she went on the pill so he could take her bare and cum in her. Her fave was for him to mount her from behind in front of a mirror. His
Heavy low hanging balls slapping her clit.

They had sex 3/4 times a week. Sometimes several times a night. She has had more of his cum in her than mine over the whole time we’ve been together.

I cum thinking of begging him to make her his again. I love thinking of his dick and how much she enjoyed it and misses it.

Can anyone else relate?