r/GayOlderYoungerDating

I think every str8/bi guy needs a gay buddy. Here are just a few of the benefits str8 men discover when they have that kind of gay buddy in their life:

• A solid friend you can count on: He is steady, loyal, and always in your corner. The kind of guy you can trust with anything.
• Conversations that actually go deeper: With him you can talk about real life. Struggles, hopes, fears, or anything you usually keep inside. No judgment, just honesty.
• Support that builds you up: When you are interested in a woman, he can remind you of your best qualities. He knows how to boost your confidence and help you see yourself the way others do.
• A natural wingman: He can make introductions smoother, build you up in front of women, and drop hints about your best qualities. Sometimes it is subtle, like reminding her how loyal you are. Other times it might be playful, like letting slip how well hung you are or how good you are in bed, so you do not have to.
• No pressure to perform: You do not have to act a certain way, hide parts of yourself, or put on a front. You can relax and just be you.
• Total acceptance: Straight, married, curious, reserved...it does not matter. He accepts you fully without trying to change who you are.
• Openness when it comes to sex: If the trust is there, he may be open to helping you in the most physical way possible. Imagine being able to lean back, let go, and have a friend who is eager to make you feel good. No awkwardness, no questions...just release. And when you are spent, he is still that same buddy. Maybe you order out, cook something simple together, or binge a show until you are hard and ready again.
• The best of both worlds: It is more than just sex. You still have the connection, the laughs, the loyalty—but now you also have someone who knows how to drain you until your legs go weak, who enjoys your cum, and who is happy to go back to hanging out afterwards. That mix of friendship and desire is rare...and once you have it, nothing else compares.

How many men here have had this? Or seek it?

Hey! 28 here, in the NYC area and over the dating apps (all money, no results), so trying this instead.
A little about me: I’m a photographer and a full blown weeb, and a Structural Engineer, so if you can talk anime with me and let me take your picture, we’re already off to a great start. Music is a big part of my life, indie and punk especially. Think Goodkid, Greyson Chance, Years & Years, Rancid. I’m a pretty classic introvert, so honestly an extrovert who can pull me out of my shell would balance me out nicely.
Stats: 6’2”, 235, vers bottom (leaning toward a vers top on your end).
What I’m hoping to find is someone who is 18–28 in the NYC area. Financially independent, working or in school, who is 420/drug-free (not my thing at all). Someone who is cool with dating an older guy and has some of my same interests.
I’m attracted to White, Hispanic/Latino, East Asian, or Arab guys.
If any of this clicks, send me a message and tell me your favorite band or anime. It is the easiest way to start a conversation.