u/Bearded--Twin

I am lucky to have huge mouth, giving me the capacity to suck even the largest balls in a motion almost in a similar way to sucking / deepthroating a cock. The partners Ive done this for all love the experience....specifically the feeling of their heavy and full balls sliding in and out of an eager and deep mouth.

I have jokingly started calling this a "ball job" given it's similarity to a blowjob - but it may have another name!

Given the positive reslpnse I've received so far, my question to this community is:

• Does the idea of receiving a "ball job" excite you? Why or why not?

Id love to know what makes it so hot (or not) so I can improve my skills in this area!

I am lucky to have huge mouth, giving me the capacity to suck even the largest balls in a motion almost in a similar way to sucking / deepthroating a cock. The partners Ive done this for all love the experience....specifically the feeling of their heavy and full balls sliding in and out of an eager and deep mouth.

I have jokingly started calling this a "ball job" given it's similarity to a blowjob - but it may have another name!

Given the positive reslpnse I've received so far, my question to this community is:

• Does the idea of receiving a "ball job" excite you? Why or why not?

Id love to know what makes it so hot (or not) so I can improve my skills in this area!

In RPGs, most of us tend to gravitate toward certain classes and alignments. Some are natural tanks who soak up damage, others like to dish it out as DPS, some thrive on keeping everyone alive as healers, and others prefer the subtle, strategic role of support.

I have been wondering… do those same instincts show up in the bedroom?

For example:

• Tanks might love taking control, pinning a partner down, or being the steady, unmovable presence someone can lean on.
• DPS could be the hard, fast, relentless types who drive toward the finish line with intensity.
• Healers might thrive on aftercare, massage, making sure a partner feels safe and cared for, or even milking every drop slowly and deliberately.
• Support might be the ultimate wingmen, talkers, and builders who get inside your head, boost your confidence, and set you up for the perfect release.

Do you find your go-to class in games matches how you approach sex and intimacy in real life? Or is it completely different?

Curious to hear. What is your main RPG role, and does it line up with what turns you on in real life?

I think every str8 guy needs a gay buddy. Here are just a few of the benefits str8 men discover when they have that kind of gay buddy in their life:

• A solid friend you can count on: He is steady, loyal, and always in your corner. The kind of guy you can trust with anything.
• Conversations that actually go deeper: With him you can talk about real life. Struggles, hopes, fears, or anything you usually keep inside. No judgment, just honesty.
• Support that builds you up: When you are interested in a woman, he can remind you of your best qualities. He knows how to boost your confidence and help you see yourself the way others do.
• A natural wingman: He can make introductions smoother, build you up in front of women, and drop hints about your best qualities. Sometimes it is subtle, like reminding her how loyal you are. Other times it might be playful, like letting slip how well hung you are or how good you are in bed, so you do not have to.
• No pressure to perform: You do not have to act a certain way, hide parts of yourself, or put on a front. You can relax and just be you.
• Total acceptance: Straight, married, curious, reserved...it does not matter. He accepts you fully without trying to change who you are.
• Openness when it comes to sex: If the trust is there, he may be open to helping you in the most physical way possible. Imagine being able to lean back, let go, and have a friend who is eager to make you feel good. No awkwardness, no questions...just release. And when you are spent, he is still that same buddy. Maybe you order out, cook something simple together, or binge a show until you are hard and ready again.
• The best of both worlds: It is more than just sex. You still have the connection, the laughs, the loyalty—but now you also have someone who knows how to drain you until your legs go weak, who enjoys your cum, and who is happy to go back to hanging out afterwards. That mix of friendship and desire is rare...and once you have it, nothing else compares.

How many men here have had this? Or seek it?

I think every str8/bi guy needs a gay buddy. Here are just a few of the benefits str8 men discover when they have that kind of gay buddy in their life:

• A solid friend you can count on: He is steady, loyal, and always in your corner. The kind of guy you can trust with anything.
• Conversations that actually go deeper: With him you can talk about real life. Struggles, hopes, fears, or anything you usually keep inside. No judgment, just honesty.
• Support that builds you up: When you are interested in a woman, he can remind you of your best qualities. He knows how to boost your confidence and help you see yourself the way others do.
• A natural wingman: He can make introductions smoother, build you up in front of women, and drop hints about your best qualities. Sometimes it is subtle, like reminding her how loyal you are. Other times it might be playful, like letting slip how well hung you are or how good you are in bed, so you do not have to.
• No pressure to perform: You do not have to act a certain way, hide parts of yourself, or put on a front. You can relax and just be you.
• Total acceptance: Straight, married, curious, reserved...it does not matter. He accepts you fully without trying to change who you are.
• Openness when it comes to sex: If the trust is there, he may be open to helping you in the most physical way possible. Imagine being able to lean back, let go, and have a friend who is eager to make you feel good. No awkwardness, no questions...just release. And when you are spent, he is still that same buddy. Maybe you order out, cook something simple together, or binge a show until you are hard and ready again.
• The best of both worlds: It is more than just sex. You still have the connection, the laughs, the loyalty—but now you also have someone who knows how to drain you until your legs go weak, who enjoys your cum, and who is happy to go back to hanging out afterwards. That mix of friendship and desire is rare...and once you have it, nothing else compares.

How many men here have had this? Or seek it?

College...for me... was all about self discovery. I wasn’t out yet, not even to myself...but I was open in ways I didn’t fully understand at the time. Looking back, I guess I was waiting for someone like Brian.

Brian was straight. Or straight enough. He was that laid-back, easygoing guy who somehow floated through campus—always friendly, always chill, always surrounded by girls. Athletic build, warm smile, good heart. He and I hit it off right away. We studied together, grabbed meals, gamed late into the night. It was that casual, no-pressure friendship that just felt natural…close.

One morning we were eating breakfast before class. I was rushing, barely awake, and I had this massive banana on my tray. Without thinking, I tilted my head back and just swallowed it to get the whole thing in my mouth so I could chew it on my way to class. One smooth glide, no pause, no joke...about 9 inches. I didn’t do it to be sexual—it was just something I could do. But Brian? He froze. Just stared at me like he’d seen something he couldn’t unsee. I laughed it off and dashed off to class, but something lingered in the air after that.

That weekend, the girl he was hooking up with was out of town. We went to a party together, knocked back a few drinks, then headed to my dorm to chill and game. Buzzed and relaxed, we were talking shit, half-focused on the screen, when he brought up the banana thing again.

“Dude,” he said, half-laughing, “what the hell was that? You swallowed that thing.”

I shrugged. “Yeah. It’s just something I can do when Im hungry and in a rush. I'm chipmunk like that.”

He leaned in a little, voice quieter. “Have you done bigger?”

I nodded. “Yeah - I can struff my face pretty full.”

“You didn’t even gag.”

“Nope. Random party trick I guess.”

He got quiet for a moment, eyes still locked on the screen. Then: “Random question...are you weirded out by gay stuff?”

I felt my heart beat a little harder....definitely didn't expect this topic to EVER comr up... “Not weirded out by it at all.”

He took a swig of his drink and looked straight at me. “I’ve never been deepthroated. Girls say my cock’s way too big.”

There was this silence. My mouth moved before my brain caught up.

“I could try bud - if you wanted to experience it.” ....can't believe I just said that.

His eyes widened like he wasn’t sure if I was joking...but when I didn’t flinch, didn’t smile, didn’t backtrack...he just nodded. Quiet. Nervous. Curious. And then he unzipped.

What came out was easily the biggest dick I had ever seen. Long. Thick. Cut. Heavy in his hand. He looked down at me with this mix of shock and hunger.

I dropped to my knees.

It was my first time doing anything like that—but something primal kicked in. Instinct. My hands knew how to wrap around the base, how to stroke in rhythm. My lips parted and I took him deep—deeper than I should’ve been able to. My throat opened naturally. No gag, no pause. Just wet, warm pressure sliding down over every inch of him.

He let out a sound—low, desperate—and his hips twitched forward. I took more. Let my tongue swirl at the base. Let my spit drip down onto his balls and stroked them slowly while he filled my throat again. I remember him moaning my name under his breath—like he couldn’t believe it was real. He was shaking.

That night, I made him cum hard. Guttural, clenching, hands buried in my hair as he pulsed all the way down. And after that, it became a quiet tradition between us. When he was stressed? I took care of it. After a long night? He’d text, show up, and I’d be on my knees before the door even closed. Sometimes he’d sit back on my bed, legs spread, and I’d worship that thick cock for an hour—tongue on the underside, lips around the head, slow strokes that made him twitch. His balls were worshipped often too.

Sometimes he’d close his eyes and sigh while I edged him, holding him just shy of release until he was panting, begging, ready to explode. I’d milk every drop from him, swallow every time. It wasn’t just about sex—it was care. Connection. Something deep and wordless.

He never labeled it. We never talked about it outside those moments. But the trust between us? It was real. And when he graduated a year later, it ended as quietly as it started. He moved across the country, got married.

Still… I think about it a lot as I haven't had a buddy quite like this since then.

About how natural it felt to give a buddy pleasure like that...to really see them, help them, let them unload everything into me, without judgment or pressure.

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[Reposting here after a friend suggested I share this. Also ... this is my own writing and content ..its not AI generated!]

I’m a guy with a lot of experience on both sides of a blowjob (though I’ll admit, I prefer giving). Over time I’ve asked for feedback, read everything I could find, and even helped a few friends get better at it.

When I started out, I was clueless. Now I know a few tricks that can turn an average blowjob into something a guy will never forget. None of this is one-size-fits-all, but maybe these tips can spark some ideas. Would love to hear if other guys have more to add.

Be safe, go slow, and most importantly...enjoy it.

1. Show you’re into it: Nothing kills the mood like someone who looks bored. A little moaning, a rhythm in your head, or closing your eyes while you work goes a long way. Let him feel you want it.
2. Play with contrast: One of my favorites....wet his cock, then blow cool air over it to dry it a little...before sliding your wet mouth back down. That dry-to-wet change can drive him crazy. Want to up it? Try it with a mint or ice cube.
3. Fake the deepthroat: Not everyone can take it all the way down...and that’s fine. Lube up your hand, keep it tight against your lips, and stroke as you take him as deep as you can. To him, it’ll feel like you swallowed him whole.
4. Change the angle: If he’s big, angles matter. Laying on your back with your head off the edge of the bed lets him slide in deeper with less strain. Go slow, trust each other, and don’t force it.
5. From behind: Some guys love lying on their stomach or being on all fours while you suck them from behind. Nose near his ass, new angle on his cock...it can be a game changer if he’s into it.
6. Don’t forget his balls: Cup them, lick them, or take both in your mouth. Bonus if he’s facing your feet: you can tease his ass with your nose or fingers while he strokes himself.
7. Eye contact: Glance up at him with his cock in your mouth—you’ll see exactly what it does to him.
8. Finish strong: Swallow if you can. Or let him paint your chest, face, whatever he wants. But don’t stop the second he cums—gently nurse the last drops out of him.
9. Talk about it: The hottest head happens when you’re both open about what you like. Before, during, after....communicate.

These are things that have worked for me, but I’d love to hear what you enjoy or what turns you on when it comes to head! I welcome messages and comments.

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I think every str8 guy needs a gay buddy. Here are just a few of the benefits str8 men discover when they have that kind of gay buddy in their life:

• A solid friend you can count on: He is steady, loyal, and always in your corner. The kind of guy you can trust with anything.
• Conversations that actually go deeper: With him you can talk about real life. Struggles, hopes, fears, or anything you usually keep inside. No judgment, just honesty.
• Support that builds you up: When you are interested in a woman, he can remind you of your best qualities. He knows how to boost your confidence and help you see yourself the way others do.
• A natural wingman: He can make introductions smoother, build you up in front of women, and drop hints about your best qualities. Sometimes it is subtle, like reminding her how loyal you are. Other times it might be playful, like letting slip how well hung you are or how good you are in bed, so you do not have to.
• No pressure to perform: You do not have to act a certain way, hide parts of yourself, or put on a front. You can relax and just be you.
• Total acceptance: Straight, married, curious, reserved...it does not matter. He accepts you fully without trying to change who you are.
• Openness when it comes to sex: If the trust is there, he may be open to helping you in the most physical way possible. Imagine being able to lean back, let go, and have a friend who is eager to make you feel good. No awkwardness, no questions...just release. And when you are spent, he is still that same buddy. Maybe you order out, cook something simple together, or binge a show until you are hard and ready again.
• The best of both worlds: It is more than just sex. You still have the connection, the laughs, the loyalty—but now you also have someone who knows how to drain you until your legs go weak, who enjoys your cum, and who is happy to go back to hanging out afterwards. That mix of friendship and desire is rare...and once you have it, nothing else compares.

How many men here have had this? Or seek it?

I've been wondering about something lately, and I'd genuinely love to hear what this community thinks.

Not every kink comes from trauma. Not every fetish has some deep psychological explanation. Sometimes our brains just like what they like. But...

Do you ever look at one of your kinks and think, "That didn't come out of nowhere."

The more I've reflected on my own life, the more I've noticed that some of my strongest kinks seem connected to experiences that shaped me long before I ever found the kink community. For me...

• I never had a father, and I've always been drawn to older men with strong dad/mentor energy.
• I lost my identical twin at birth, and I've always been fascinated by the bond identical twin brothers share.
• I love CMNM as the clothed male, and sometimes I wonder if that reflects my relationship with control...not over people, but creating a space where someone else can feel accepted, desired, safe, and cared for.

Maybe those connections are real. Maybe I'm just connecting dots after the fact? What I do know is that exploring these questions has made me understand myself better.

One of the things I'm most grateful for about these online discussion spaces isn't just the freedom to explore kinks...it's the freedom to explore ourselves.

Reading other people's stories has made me more self-aware, more accepting, and I honestly think it's helped me become a better person.

So now I'm curious about all of you.

Have you ever looked back at your life and realized a kink suddenly made more sense?

Or do you think our kinks simply exist... and we humans just love finding stories to explain them afterward?

Neither answer is "right." I'm genuinely curious.

If you're comfortable sharing, please share a kink or two that made a lot more sense after you understood your own story. I have a feeling I'm not the only one who's asked this question.

Having given many prostate massages to a few friends and partners over the years, I've become fascinated by the way men describe the experience. Even men who are very sexually experienced often report sensations that feel completely different from their usual orgasms.

It got me wondering: what is it about prostate stimulation that can make the experience feel so unique? Here are some of my thoughts....

• Full-Body Sensation: Many men describe a prostate orgasm as something that isn't just focused in the genitals. Because the prostate is connected to a dense network of nerves deep within the pelvis, the pleasure can feel like it radiates through the hips, abdomen, legs, and beyond. Instead of a single peak, it can feel more like waves moving through the body.
• The Prostate Is Exceptionally Sensitive: The prostate is often called the "male G-spot" for a reason. It's highly responsive to stimulation and can produce sensations that are distinct from what many men experience through more familiar forms of sexual activity.
• Greater Pelvic Floor Involvement: The prostate sits within a complex system of muscles and nerves that contribute to arousal and orgasm. When these structures are engaged together, many men report stronger contractions and a more immersive orgasmic experience.
• A Longer Build-Up: Unlike orgasms that can arrive quickly once stimulation becomes intense, prostate pleasure often rewards patience. The gradual build-up can create a deeper sense of anticipation, making the eventual release feel especially powerful.
• Remarkable Relaxation Afterwards: One of the most common things I've heard from men afterward isn't about intensity...it's about relaxation. Many describe feeling deeply calm, physically loose, mentally quiet, or even blissful after a prostate orgasm in a way they don't typically experience from other forms of climax.

For those who enjoy prostate play, the appeal often isn't just a bigger orgasm...it's a different kind of orgasm.

In my experience, one factor matters more than any technique: finding someone who knows what they're doing. Good communication before, during, and after, plenty of patience, regular check-ins about comfort and pleasure, and lots of lube can make all the difference.

I'm curious....for those who've experienced both, what differences have you noticed between prostate orgasms and more traditional orgasms?

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I don’t know exactly when it happened, but somewhere along the way I realized that men over 50 with warm, grounded, protective “dad / grandad energy” absolutely drive me wild.

Not in a cheesy “older men are hot” way either. It’s more the vibe. The calmness. The confidence. The way some men can make you feel looked after just by being near them. I have thought about it, and here is what hits me:

• Melow Confidence: No showing off. No trying too hard. They are just a man comfortable in his own skin, and somehow that’s ten times hotter.
• Protective Energy: The guys who naturally check in on people, make sure everyone’s okay, put a reassuring hand on your back, or make you feel safe without making a big deal about it.
• Patience: Mature men often know how to slow down and actually enjoy connection, conversation, touch, affection… all of it. That energy is incredibly attractive and this is HUGE!
• Feeling Chosen by Them: When a nurturing older guy gives you attention, praise, guidance, or affection, it can make you want to absolutely melt for him.
• Wanting to Take Care of Him Too: There’s something deeply satisfying about making a good man feel desired, relaxed, appreciated, and cared for after years of him being the one everyone else leaned on.

Curious if other people relate to this too!

Genuine question from a CM here. CMNM feels surprisingly hard to find “in the wild” because most people don’t even know the term exists. Before finding subreddits like this one, I honestly thought I was almost alone in liking the dynamic of remaining clothed while another man is nude, vulnerable, exposed, and emotionally open.

What I’ve discovered is that a lot of naked men (NMs) are out there… they just often describe the kink differently:

• enjoying vulnerability
• liking being watched
• enjoying embarrassment or nervous excitement
• liking being the only naked one
• craving the feeling of being “seen”
• liking the contrast in confidence or power

Meanwhile, many clothed men seem hesitant to talk about it openly because they worry it sounds too niche, too awkward.... when for many of us it’s actually the opposite. For me, CMNM is less about humiliation and more about intimacy, trust, tension, anticipation, and that electric imbalance where one person is exposed and the other isn’t.

So I’m curious:

• If you’re an NM, how did you discover you were into it?
• What makes a clothed man appealing or safe to you?
• And where do people even meet others into this dynamic outside of kink spaces like this?

Would genuinely love to hear from both CMs and NMs, especially people who enjoy the softer, psychological, teasing, emotionally vulnerable side of CMNM.

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This post is a bit vulnerable and still feels a little strange to admit.

I'm in my 40s. But when an older man with that calm, protective, confident "dad energy" refers to me as son... something in me melts. It took me a long time to realize it wasn't really about the word....It was about what the word represents.

For me...

1. I never had a father: I grew up without that unconditional bond, guidance, or reassurance that someone was in my corner. I think a part of me still wonders what that would have felt like.
2. I love making someone proud: I'm naturally a people-pleaser in the healthiest sense. I enjoy caring for people, helping, showing up, and giving my best. This dynamic makes those parts of me feel seen and appreciated.
3. It's about more than attraction: The physical side is great, sure. But what really draws me in is the connection before and after. The conversations. The laughter. Feeling known. Feeling cared for. Feeling like I matter beyond a single encounter.
4. It feels safe: There is something incredibly attractive about someone whose presence makes your nervous system relax. Someone steady, patient, and protective. We all crave safety in different ways, and this is one of mine.
5. I love the idea of having a mentor. Someone who's lived a little more life. Someone I can learn from, challenge myself with, laugh with, and grow alongside. A relationship where admiration flows both ways.

For years I couldn't explain why older men affected me differently. Now I think I can. Two questions for the group:

1. If you're drawn to people with "dad energy" ....what do you think you're actually responding to?
2. And if you are someone with that kind of energy... when did you realize other people saw you that way?

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This post is a bit vulnerable and still feels a little strange to admit.

I'm in my 40s. But when an older man with that calm, protective, confident "dad energy" refers to me as son... something in me melts. It took me a long time to realize it wasn't really about the word....It was about what the word represents.

For me...

1. I never had a father: I grew up without that unconditional bond, guidance, or reassurance that someone was in my corner. I think a part of me still wonders what that would have felt like.
2. I love making someone proud: I'm naturally a people-pleaser in the healthiest sense. I enjoy caring for people, helping, showing up, and giving my best. This dynamic makes those parts of me feel seen and appreciated.
3. It's about more than attraction: The physical side is great, sure. But what really draws me in is the connection before and after. The conversations. The laughter. Feeling known. Feeling cared for. Feeling like I matter beyond a single encounter.
4. It feels safe: There is something incredibly attractive about someone whose presence makes your nervous system relax. Someone steady, patient, and protective. We all crave safety in different ways, and this is one of mine.
5. I love the idea of having a mentor. Someone who's lived a little more life. Someone I can learn from, challenge myself with, laugh with, and grow alongside. A relationship where admiration flows both ways.

For years I couldn't explain why older men affected me differently. Now I think I can. Two questions for the group:

1. If you're drawn to people with "dad energy" ....what do you think you're actually responding to?

2. And if you are someone with that kind of energy... when did you realize other people saw you that way?

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I identify as a CM and love this role on so many levels and would love to connect with a NM who prefers deeper communication and connection within this dynamic.

Here are a few things that I enjoy doing as a CM in this dynsmic:

• Making nudity the normal state: Not just “get naked for a moment,” but nudity could be the default for you. Watching TV, cooking, playing a game, just hanging out. You’re nude because that’s how you’re most comfortable. I stay clothed and we just enjoy the dynamic together.
• Taking care of you: If things ever go deeper, I like being someone who looks after you while you’re open and exposed...helping you relax, slow down, and feel safe in various ways.
• Letting arousal build without pressure: No rushing. No need to “perform” or finish anything. Just letting feelings, reactions, and sensations exist while you stay nude and present.
• Encouraging you to get and stay nude: There’s something powerful about being invited to remain uncovered. Not forced. Not demanded. Just gently encouraged to stay open while I stay dressed.

If any of this appeals to you, please message me!