r/Hypersexual

Idk where to talk or ask advice to without having someone be biased or anything lol. Anyway, my gf and I are pretty young (M19, F18) and have been together for 2 years and counting.

We met each other online through interests of gaming and making friends, and eventually jumped into a relationship. She had hinted towards the start of our relationship that she’s hypersexual (having a high sex drive and some compulsive tendencies). I can admit that It was pretty exciting for me as well (ADHD lol). We have a pretty solid relationship and have met, her mom loves me and my sisters really like her. We had an instant connection and good chemistry.

My issue here is that around 7 months ago before ever meeting irl, she had a few compulsive behaviors of “flirting” or talking about sexual things with random people (would only last a day before forgetting about it). She had admitted this towards the 2nd week of my visit while I was with her. She’d say that it feels like some part of her just needed something to cope with(?).. She is (level 1) autistic and has been fighting depression, so compulsive behavior seems to be a coping mechanism in some way, for a relief?

She told me all about it and deleted/blocked all of her past mistakes and would let me through her phone as well. I trust that she’ll change because she wants to; we even spoke to her therapist about it.

I just wanna know if anyone has been in a similar situation and how it’s been with your partner? I just feel like I’m able to forgive her, but something in the back of my head still hurts.. I can also provide more info if this seems confusing lol.

Just because I’m “freaky” or horny doesn’t mean I wanna do lame shit like send nudes just to jerk off. I also don’t wanna ft basically the same thing. I don’t wanna have flings being verbally degraded by a STRANGER. I don’t want to have the same type of sub/dom dynamic offered to me all the time. Apparently that means I’m boring when really I find y’all extremely boring😭
Maybe ppl would call me Demi sexual but personally don’t like the label. I just find it all very repetitive. I find it hard to … get hard. ( I’m a girl I just think master bating sounds childish)

I genuinely hate how horny I get and I just can’t stop thinking about sex and filthy fantasies and it always feels like I have to do something or it won’t go away it just eats this makes relationships hard especially bc yes I really want to fuck you especially if you were there for me and were genuinely just kind and that’s pathetic and I love to deep to just fuck I wish I could sometimes and sometimes I lie to myself and shove those feelings down after I fuck so what do you guys do? Do I just have to find those types of friends I just hate everything about it

I’m a hypersexual and high libido Muslim male, I can’t stop being two seconds off a full blown semi in this heat; and it doesn’t help when I have a big bulge - yes I’m hung too.

I try keeping off porn and masturbation, but I love the feeling of jerking myself off almost like a comfort toy idk?

I also love to show off my nudes on Reddit and eve more so due to the compliments and messages I get.

I try to stay away and to fight it off but my libido just grows and grows, I try to be celibate but I have so much offers to take my v card near where I am.

I really don’t know what to do. No matter how hard I try, the urges always come back and I can’t beat them. It’s been 2 years since I started. I don’t think I can live without this. I am in constant need of love and stimulation to the point that my brain sexualizes everyone. The only way I can let it out for some time is by masturbating, but that’s also bad because it ends up making my urges worse. Sometimes it feels as if someone is controlling my body to act on my sexual urges. I tried venting, seeking out help from my friends, I went to a psychiatrist, I analyzed all my feelings to the point I know pretty much everything about this addiction, I tried showering without my phone or diverting my attention to something else, I tried getting some new hobbies, it just doesn’t work. I don’t know what to do anymore. The urges keep coming back with the same strength as before and I can’t resist. For anyone struggling with this, can anyone help?

I’ve been hypersexual my whole life and the past years for personal reasons but my libido has been fine I masterbate daily. But lately I’ve been so depressed I don’t even want that. It scares me cuz it’s one of the only things I get excited about. I mean I wanted my urges to go down somewhat. But not completely go away. I’m just lonely. And I’m so stressed out and tired. It’s kind of nice and scary at the same time though to not have urges. And it’s throwing me off cuz how am I gunna date if my libido isn’t working right like one minute I’m horny then I’m not? Not like I’m dating anyone as the beginning of the post says but I’m trying. Cumming is one of the only motivator’s I have😭 if there’s a god please don’t take it away from me
( I’m a gay woman )

Hi folks, just coming un and see how you all doing.

It's important to look out for each other and see how your holding out.

Anyway if you want to talk or anything, doors open.