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Sevilla was a hit — 2 min walk, sangria and tapas, live music, then danced downstairs when the club opened. Mixed crowd, good energy. I stepped away to grab a drink and let her dance on her own for a bit — guys started circling in without her even noticing. Pointed it out to her after. She was glowing by the time we got back to the room.
Rooftop was closed Saturday, so we ended up at 5th & Rose instead — better than the photos suggested, social enough to actually talk. As we got closer to doing the full bar game though, I could feel her anxiety climbing — she was doing it for me, not because she wanted to. So I called an audible. Reminded her it’s about us having fun, not checking a box.
Pulled out some truth-or-dare prompts I’d put together (confidence, flirting, bringing it back to us) — broke the ice without pressure. It morphed into F/M/K around the bar, then guessing games (swinger? sexless marriage? BDSM? throuple?). She was having a blast and it clearly got her head in the right place.
A guy ended up sitting next to us, turned out to be in the lifestyle — respectful the whole night, checked in with me before getting close to her, took us to a whiskey bar. She got properly flirted with by both of us at once, which is honestly a fantasy of mine.
Back at the room she was glowing, said having me right there made her feel safe enough to actually enjoy it. It got incredibly dirty and naughty after that. Still processing and talking through it today — she’s got a lot of new questions about the lifestyle now.
She’s still got two brand new dresses she never got to wear this trip — already thinking about the next adventure to put them to use. Any suggestions welcome.