r/frustratedasianmen

I (25am) am a grad student and went to an end of the year party for one of my classes. It was at our professors house and when it was winding down some of us left together including this really pretty Chinese girl I’ve been crushing on and this big handsome muscular white guy. We all took the train together and I got off at the same stop as the Chinese girl, white guy, and two other Asian guys. Well we leave the station and the Chinese girl lives right across the street so we all say goodbye to her and turn to walk when she calls out “wait!” And we all turn and she gives me the most disgusted look and says “not you” before asking the white guy for his number as the three of us shamefully walk away. I looked back and his hand was around her waist. I know the statistics about wmaf but it was so brutal to literally be told “I don’t want you” to my face by this beautiful Asian girl who apparently loves white men. She actually was confused and grossed out I would think she was talking to me. I get rejected and white men don’t even have to ask. I’ll never forget the look she gave me. Im not the one she wanted and never will be

Got into this kink when I had a foursome with my gf, her bff, and a BWC that went south. Ended up being a threesome with him and my gf and her bff with me stroking in absolute amazement at what a big cock could do to a woman. Witnessed my gf’s first multiple orgasms, first time squirting, just a humiliating experience x1000.

Fast forward to now: WMAF is like all I can think about but I don’t want to have this kink, it was sort of forced on me…but now I get off to it? Will this ever go away? I admitted to myself I have a problem when I started to get back into the game dating some new girls (try to keep it Asian ha) but I had this horrible thought of introducing her to the guy with a BWC who stole my gf???? Wtf??? Is this normal??? How do I make this go away

Background: Tall 6'3", well-educated, conventionally attractive white guy here, well-endowed. I seem to have a magical talent of sniffing out "good girls" who secretly want to be more sexual. Not just asians -- all backgrounds.

For this kind of good girl, slutiness is like gravity: It just takes a little push. The key is to know who's susceptible to the push, and in what direction will send her tumbling down to sexual madness.

A typical arc goes is: I spot the good girl, I work my magic --- panties come down. We have lots of sex. Then I continue to escalate -- we have more sex, higher intensity.

Then at some point, we discuss what's going on: she was a good girl, but with repressed desires that we are now living out. Then we talk about her specific repressed fantasies, and we explore them The fantasies are often pretty specific. I have heard:

1. Desire to be dominated and sexually consumed (probably the #1).
2. The desire to completely sexually submit and serve, sometimes in a degrading way (#2, linked to #1).
3. Desire to cheat on their partner, or pretend cheat on their "type" with a different type (me).
4. Desire to be in a threesome with another woman or with two or more men.
5. etc. etc. various other roleplay fantasies, usually with very specific details -- and with both physical and emotional components.

Recently I targeted and converted an attractive 26yo Chinese girl into a regular. Nice career, good girl -- but repressed and needing sexual expression, which we found together. We got to the part about her specific repressed fantasies, and ...

• Her: I'll have to think about it. But I'm pretty sure I just want a big dick, and that's why this is so hot for me.
• Me: Wait, that's it!?
• Her: Yes.

So I probed to see if she had domination, submission, cheating, group sex, other kinks or fantasies. Scenarios she wants to live out, or just role play -- anything more specific, the way other repressed girls do.

But it was all about the big dick though.

Nothing else.

Maybe this is just how asian girls are!

Too bad for SAD if so.

I’ve posted before about my FWB I visit when I’m in China. Im a white man that speaks Chinese, goes there for work now and then, and at the end of trips I bring my FWB to whatever city I end in. We hang out over a weekend, eat good food, travel, and have sex. I prefer meeting her consistently rather than just random hookups because she’s genuinely a good friend of mine, hot, great in bed, and we have mutual kinks. Two kinks are relevant here: I send her some money to buy clothes for her to dress up in (refer to the handcuff story I posted last week), and during each trip we film one of our sex sessions. This creates a memory we hold on to, but allows us to stay in the present and enjoy each other for the other sessions.

This trip coincided with Dragon Boat Festival. I told her I had actually not had the privilege of having sex with a Chinese girl in a Qipao yet (traditional clothing), so we picked one out for her to wear, and thought doing that on the holiday adds a little extra spiciness. It’s a tight black silk Qipao, which complements her favorite pair of black high heels. We went to some local sites that day, took pictures for her social media, and when we got back to the hotel we got to business and had one of the best fuck sessions we’ve had, of what half was in front of a camera.

She reached out to me over the weekend with something interesting, she said a male friend (Chinese) asked to see the video. She’s pretty open about discussing her sex life and has told her friends about me and our agreement, but I didn’t know she shares it with guys too. She had actually mentioned this guy to me before, that apparently he has a cuck and humiliation fetish and in the past he’s sent her money for her panties, socks, etc. she reached out to me to ask if I’m okay if she sends him our video. I told her not to send it raw, it needs to be reasonably edited to preserve our identity (or at least mine, she doesn’t seem as hung up about it). She sent me clips instead, which I reviewed and was okay with.

There were four in total:

1. A two minute long clip where she is kneeling on an ottoman in front of a mirror, takes my pants off, and makes out with my dick before a blowjob
2. A three minute clip of me fucking her from behind while she is holding the camera into the mirror. My favorite or me and her of all time, some of our best dirty talk of all time in that video.
3. A brief clip of her on her back looking into the camera while im fucking her off camera. Hard to describe to be honest, but her facial expressions are sexy.
4. A second two minute blowjob video where she is on her knees and I’m fucking her face. I slap my dick on her face and she very audibly chokes on it while trying to deep throat me.

She said she sent it to that guy but I don’t know what the response was but it’s a fun and powerful feeling knowing that there’s a guy out there that paid a girl money for the privilege of seeing her get fucked by me.

This morning it dawned on me…how much did she charge that guy? I asked her and apparently they agreed on 100 RMB per minute, a total of seven minutes for 700 RMB. I joked I should get half, and she responded saying next time she’ll use the money to buy us a drink at a bar on him.