r/frustratedasianmen

Like at least with the racist guy there’s open hostility, but with the liberal guy it almost feels more condescending or patronizing in a weird psychological way. For example all the Oxford study videos where Asian women talk about Asian men's misogyny and it's almost like they're asking for the liberal white man to save them from the misogyny of Asian incels? I feel much more humiliated by white guys telling us to be less misogynistic and accept WMAF even though we're not. But it's hard to talk about this societal issue without sounding like a disgruntled angry incel.

Curious if anyone else gets what I mean or if I’m completely off base.

31 F Korean American. I grew up in an Asian heavy city, moved for college and married to a Korean American. Most of my friends are Asian. Born to immigrant parents I was raised with very traditional values and believe I relate to it and I'm proud of who I am. I do not conform to the Asian stereotypes of being feminine, submissive or shy. I am outspoken, social and hold my ground.

I work in a male dominant industry (law firm) and it's specially important for me to not come across as weak or dependent on my male coworkers. I am respected and I have grown quickly for my age among my peers. I do get the attention and blatant flirting at and outside of work and I immediately shut it down.

However, I struggle with the more senior and powerful men in my industry. Such men are always white. They are more composed, steady, speak with such authority and in a more appealing way that I know it blurs professional lines but also makes me listen. I have to then remind myself that they are also my peers or someone I want to aspire to be in the future.

Happy hours and non professional settings are more difficult. Turning down younger and men my age is easy. However, white men 10-20 years older are more patient, calculated and often have the courage to say what they think. I find it hard to stand up and challenge them or to immediately turn them down. Things like their smirk, their eyes, their scent are registered in my mind and makes me think of them. I do let them know that I am married and I always wear my wedding ring. Yet I cannot explain the attraction.

In my college and dating years I've been on dates with white men and could never connect and always preferred dating men with a similar background. Being attracted to white men older than me and powerful has only happened over the last year and half and it feels wrong and like I'm being a bad wife. My husband is a nice man and works in a different industry and someone who keeps to himself which I've always found cute. So the contradiction to what keeps me up at night (visualizing them and playing the interactions repeatedly in my mind) is incredibly confusing.

A big white guy came up behind my wife and I at EDC. He bumped her slightly and when she looked up at him, he smiled at her and she fell head over heels. He held her hand and begin fondling her grabbing her tits under her shirt and grabbing her ass and making out with her while her and I were holding hands. He was really handsome and all I can do was look away as best I could. With my side eye, I could see people behind and to the side of us looking, smiling, and laughing at me. I was still holding her hand and looked over and her face is turned upwards to her left French kissing him as he stood behind and to her left. His right hand was under her skirt grabbing her ass. I looked away and stared at the DJ for a few minutes and when I turned to look at her again, her eyes were slightly closed with her pupils rolling into the back of her head. Her mouth was slightly open as in a slow moan. I couldn’t believe by eyes. She was having an orgasm. He was fingering her. This went on for an hour and we kept holding hands. They exchanged numbers in front of me. My wife acted like nothing happened.

I’m an Asian guy who’s been in the rave/festival scene for years, and a lot of my close friends are white guys, and many of them date Asian girls. Over time, I started noticing how common White male / Asian female relationships seem to be in rave culture.

It feels like almost every Asian girl I’ve genuinely liked either rejects me for a white guy, or eventually ends up dating one of my white friends or another white guy in the scene.

What makes it harder is being around it constantly. Some of my white friends know this bothers me, and they tease me about it. Sometimes they’ll make jokes about how “Asian girls love white guys,” or joke that they already know how things will end whenever I say I’m interested in an Asian girl. A few of them are also very physically affectionate with their girlfriends in front of me — kissing, grabbing them, picking them up, dancing on them — almost like they know it gets in my head.

And honestly, I can’t ignore how much attention that kind of confidence gets. When new Asian girls come into the group, they immediately notice those relationships. They see white guys being loud, confident, dominant, openly affectionate, and completely unafraid to show attraction in public. The girls naturally start talking about those couples or becoming drawn toward that energy.

Meanwhile, I feel like a lot of Asian guys, including myself sometimes, are more reserved physically and emotionally in public. We overthink things, avoid making moves, or worry about coming off wrong. So when you compare that to someone who’s bold and expressive, it can feel like we’re invisible before we even get a chance. One time to show some confidence, one of my white friends would challenge me to see how fast we Asian girl instagram. I went into this group of girls and I started stuttering and felt soooo embarrassed but I told them I can buy them some food if they give me their instagram, I bought the food and they left, didn’t see them again lol. While my white friend got all of a group of Asian instagram and they came over to dance with us. I of course had to buy all of them food, which was the punishment.

Hello!

We are a late-20s Asian couple with huge cuckold fetish, currently in a long-distance relationship. I am in New York, he is in Hong Kong.

We used to invite bulls a few times and we loved it.

What really turns me on is seeing my boyfriend in action trying to get my attention while i am busy with the bulls, e.g. kissing my toes or thighs while im riding, or eating me out while im sucking a cock, etc

But given that we are long-distance now, we were wondering how we could satisfy our kink remotely.

We did think about live streaming myself with a bull on bed, but.. the idea of him just sitting on the other side of the world watching doesnt really hit me.. if you know what I mean 😛

Also I am new to this city, and I am not yet comfortable inviting a man to where I live alone..

So I came up with an idea of "renting out" my boyfriend to a lady or a couple who would like to humiliate him and toy him for me.

During the play, she/they could live stream him for ME to watch real time, or send me some photos/videos of him in action.

I would absolutely love to see him getting played around as a cuck, even if I am not there in the scene.

So I want to hear some opinions from fellow ladies or couples here:

Have you ever wanted a submissive third, or a "rental" cuck, to humiliate while you have fun with your partner?

I believe all kind of swinging should always be mutually enjoyable, but I am not sure whether there will be ladies or couples around who would actually find this idea fun for them too.

What do you think?

It seems that the proliferation and popularity of WMAF in both media as well as irl has a dramatic effect on asian culture. It's been massively liberation for us asian women yet I also really enjoy how much it's destroyed asian "masculinity"