r/kinkyromantics

Up to now I have enjoyed many kinky adventures but have just started a new relationship. BF is perfect in every way but the sex, although great, is a bit too vanilla for me. He hasn't had much experience with kink so my question is, what are some ways of introducing kink without making him terrified and running for the hills???

TW: Anal sex

I've always had tears and bleeding from my anal opening when doing anal (and even shitting sometimes).

I recently discovered a very fat cream that seems to make it not tear when I poop at least anymore but I'm afraid it'll still tear when I have PIA sex.

I'm very petite and he is very girthy.

We use buttplugs to try stretching beforehand but I still tear...

Any tips and tricks on how to fix this?

We're both 25+ years of age if that matters.