u/ExtremeTrashPanda

A lot of men struggle to have a sense of style and I really like bringing their personality into their clothes. Often I see people using dressing a sub as this feminization thing online and I don't find that very intriguing. To me attractiveness is seeing them at their best rather than humiliation. That means dressing them to fit who they are. Sometimes that is something a little feminine if they are of that style already ❤️

Seeing a man being themselves in their clothes is so attractive. Just makes me wanna be all over them. It gives them confidence. I love that so much. The ultimate good boy no matter the style.

I'm a romantic in the end I wanna lift my man's spirits high and love him so much. Seeing someone be brought out just makes me so happy that I wanna make them moan later for being such a good boy ✨☺️

I dunno if that's weird but, call me the doting wife/girlfriend type. I want to bring out the best in a man and really reward them for doing their best. I get all flustered when I've built them up to their best because I know that's mine and I'm going to just make him the biggest mess for working hard. So cute!!!

As a disabled domme I've found that it's difficult for me to do a lot of things. But I've learned that for sub boys who love to serve it's very fulfilling for them to take care of someone like myself. So I don't feel as discouraged as I once did. So here's things for fellow dommes and subs who care for a disabled domme.

What I've found helpful:

🩷 Communicating how much energy I have and what I can handle at that time

🩷Learning what positions are okay or not

🩷Pillows/ wedge pillows are your besties

🩷It's okay to do something less intensive to make sure your body is okay.

🩷Toys like a Hitachi wand can be great for reaching the "fun" areas so you don't hurt yourself

🩷You may not be able to overpower your sub due to lack of strength but you can mentally dominate the hell of them 😜

🩷Aftercare may look different than others, like needing a massage, leg elevation, heat or ice packs to get inflammation down

🩷It's okay that you cannot do all the traditional domme things. A service sub will love caring for you and be devoted to you. Take care of them mentally though and do what you can for them. Your sub needs care too.

🩷Take anti-inflammatories prior to play to prevent pain.

I hope this helps.

Also I know I've been gone while. But I'm happy to return a little. I did definitely need to step down as mod. Any stress was not good for my heart condition. I'll be getting surgery sooner than expected 😅 things got a bit worse. But the surgery will be life changing and I'm excited for that. I am so sorry to the other mods for the abrupt departure I had. I just needed to disconnect from everything and get my footing. I have so much love and care for this community. I wish to only bring light when I can. So I needed to get out the darkness that was consuming me. I tried to help everyone so much I was losing the light I had. So I took a huge step back to recover and get my health in order.

Being disabled is a rough path. I don't wish it upon anyone. But we can always find ways to make it work with what we got. Sometimes we do have to let go of somethings to make sure we are safe. Be the best you and find a path.

Also disabled sub boys, you deserve love too. Some of this information may help you as well. 🩷

Just made more flair options for the subreddit! Hope you enjoy them! If there's anything we should flair or anything else to the subreddit add, just comment below.

I hope to work on this place more 💕✨

Hello,

Sorry to say I am leaving as a mod. I took a lot of time thinking about this on and off and I made the decision to leave. As a mod you deal with a lot of stress and negativity behind the scenes and it can really mess with you mentally. Unfortunately I have a heart condition that is getting a lot worse and extra stress is definitely not needed. So I made the choice to leave for my mental and physical health. I love everyone here and I've done A LOT here since I joined. Trust me, I was cleaning this place up everyday like clockwork.

I'm sorry if I let anyone down. But I know I have to do this. I'll be getting surgery in a few months and hope to improve. But I wish everyone luck. ❤️

Love you all.