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▲ 375 r/LetBoysBeManipulated

Important message!

Safety & Respect Towards SWers

Hello everyone,

We wanted to revisit an important topic regarding how sex workers are treated within this community.

If an account belongs to a sex worker and they are posting content that follows subreddit rules, they are welcome here. Simply being a sex worker is not considered self-promotion or soliciting dms. Sex workers are allowed to participate in this community like anyone else, as long as they follow the rules.

Targeting, dogpiling, or harassing someone because of their profession is not acceptable here. This also applies to findom creators. While findom-related content is not allowed in this subreddit, people who keep that separate and respectfully follow our rules are not doing anything wrong by participating here. SWers are people too, and they deserve to feel safe and welcome when engaging respectfully in this space.

Please also remember: not every sex worker is a scammer. If you have proof that someone is scamming users, feel free to bring it to the mod team and we will investigate and take action if necessary. If an account simply seems suspicious, you can still message us and we can keep an eye on the situation. However, someone being a sex worker alone is not evidence of wrongdoing. Many SWers are legitimate people simply doing their job.

At the same time, online safety is important for everyone. The mod team works hard behind the scenes to keep this community safe, but there are limits to what moderators can realistically see and control. Please report rule-breaking behavior when you see it, and remember that personal internet safety is also important.

General Online Safety Tips

Photo Safety

Be careful when sharing personal photos online. Images can contain metadata or identifying details. Intimate photos especially should only ever be shared with someone you deeply trust.

Check Accounts Before Engaging

Be cautious of accounts that:

- Constantly push users into DMs

- Spam repetitive posts/comments

- Are extremely new

- Participate heavily in free karma communities

Use Reddit’s Safety Tools

If someone is harassing you, crossing boundaries, or being pushy in DMs, use Reddit’s report and block features. Never feel guilty for blocking someone who disrespects your boundaries.

Protect Personal Information

Avoid sharing sensitive details like your full name, address, phone number, workplace, or school.

Be Careful With Random DMs

Unsolicited DMs should always be approached cautiously, especially if someone immediately tries moving conversations to apps like Telegram or Snapchat.

Avoid Suspicious Links

Do not click unknown or suspicious links sent through DMs.

Set Boundaries Early

Be upfront about what you are and are not comfortable with. If something feels wrong, trust that feeling. Loneliness can sometimes make people ignore red flags, but protecting your wellbeing is always more important.

✨In Short✨

SWers who follow the rules = welcome here 👍

Treat them with respect like anyone else in the community.

SWers who break rules = report them 👎

If someone is breaking rules, report it and let the mod team handle it.

Please continue to keep discussions respectful in the comments. If anyone has additional online safety tips, feel free to share them.

The mod team truly cares about this community and spends a lot of time handling issues behind the scenes, even if that work is not always visible. We are not perfect, and we moderate in our free time while balancing real life responsibilities, but we do our best to keep this community safe and welcoming.

Hostility and harassment are not tolerated here. Continued harassment or aggressive behavior towards others may result in a ban.

u/ExtremeTrashPanda — 10 days ago
▲ 164 r/LetBoysBeManipulated

Porn can shape how you think about sex, so learning how to use it in a healthy way really matters. It’s easy to watch it and start wanting what you see, but a lot of it doesn’t reflect real life.

One big example is the body image. Porn often shows very specific body types that aren’t typical. You’ll see larger breasts, penises, and butts, sometimes naturally occurring but well above averages, sometimes surgical made to be exaggerated. This can make people feel like they don’t measure up. A lot of men, for example, feel insecure about penis size because porn mostly shows larger ones. In reality, most people are not very large like you witness in porn, and that’s completely normal. Everyone has different preferences, and people who genuinely care about you aren’t focused on that they care about you as a whole person. There's love for every size breast and penis size I promise you!

Another thing to keep in mind is that porn is made for the camera. It’s meant to look good, not always feel good or be practical. For example, in domme/sub spaces you might see the “Amazonian” position. It looks great on screen, but in real life it can be hard to pull off; it takes flexibility, strong knees, and effort. Some people can do it, but it’s not easy for most couples. You might also see rough anal sex without lubrication or preparation. Trying that in real life can be dangerous and lead to tears, bleeding, infection, and serious pain. It’s important to learn what’s actually safe and realistic before trying anything new with a partner.

There’s also the issue of watching too much porn. This doesn’t get talked about enough, but overuse can start to blur the line between fantasy and reality. In some cases, it can lead to risky or inappropriate behavior like attempting sexual acts in public, which can result in serious legal consequences such as fines, charges, placed on a sex offender registry, and even land you in prison depending on the laws where you live. Taking breaks and keeping your habits in check helps protect your mental health and decision-making.

Here are some signs that porn use might be becoming a problem:

⚠️Watching more often or longer than you planned, like staying up all night or losing hours unintentionally

⚠️Ignoring responsibilities like school, work, or chores

⚠️Losing interest in real-life intimacy or feeling disconnected during it

⚠️Hiding your use, deleting history, or avoiding others to watch

⚠️Feeling guilty, ashamed, or irritable. Especially when you try to stop

⚠️Expecting partners to act like performers or feeling disappointed when they don’t

⚠️Physical effects like poor sleep, headaches, eye strain, or fatigue

⚠️Spending more money than you can afford on subscriptions or content

If you rely on porn to fall asleep or function normally, that’s a strong sign your brain may be getting dependent on it.

There are a lot of reasons this can happen, like low self-esteem, stress, anxiety, depression, loneliness, relationship struggles, past trauma, or just how easy porn is to access. For some people, it has little impact. But for others, it can affect focus, relationships, and overall well-being.

If you want to cut back or stop, a few things can help:

⭐Be honest about how it’s affecting you (sleep, focus, relationships)

⭐Notice your triggers, when and why the urge happens

⭐Limit access (block sites, remove saved content, keep devices out of your bedroom)

⭐Replace the habit with something specific, like exercise, reading, or spending time with friends

⭐Talk to someone you trust or a therapist

Recovery takes time. The first few weeks can feel difficult, with cravings and mood changes. Over a few months, focus and self-control usually improve, and things start to feel more balanced. With time and support, many people build healthier habits and feel more in control again.

Yes, it can get better. Getting support, especially from a therapist, can help you understand the root causes and build healthier ways to cope, so you’re not just fighting the habit but actually addressing what’s behind it.

As someone who had gone through this though not on the extreme end, I feel it's important to discuss. For me it gave me guilt, it consumed my mind, it made it harder to orgasm without it, and I went through watching more and more heavier porn for the dopamine hit to the point I felt I was nearing territory that could end up being illegal stuff if I wasn't careful. At that moment, I had heavily unsafe thoughts of harming myself for even thinking about trying to find porn that is that extreme. It's actually embarrassing to admit I got there. But when you're so deep into the porn world as an addict lines blur, things you would normally never do become okay. The post nut clarity makes you feel like an absolute monster.

What I did, was quit using it to sleep, leave groups on discord and reddit that fueled that unhealthy obsession. I started using no porn during solo play more and it reset me. Suddenly the orgasms are better and I start feeling better. Going full gooner made me heavily depressed and had consistent guilt hovering over me.

This post felt personal and scary to talk about. Admitting I had an addiction is a scary thing. But I think this is important because someone may be suffering like I did and I hope they can find help in this post and start moving forward with corrections in the behavior.

Just remember, it's okay to ask for help and as long as you can make changes now before things go too far. You can always check into a mental health ward if you think it's becoming extreme and you may be in danger of yourself and others.

Sources are from personal accounts, looking through MANY reddit comments on similar discussion posts.

I used a few sites as well:

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Another long research here lol. 4 hours this time.

u/ExtremeTrashPanda — 19 days ago
▲ 449 r/kinkyromantics+1 crossposts

Ladies let me know about yr fav kinks and stuff

Comment yr fav things you like to try and do tonight 😋

u/ExtremeTrashPanda — 19 days ago