r/thehappywife

'40F' engaged to '36M', together for 3 years. Wondering how to close the orgasm gap?? I have been married before, now widowed. He has never been married. I am desperately trying to close the orgasm gap. I have been a mom for half of my life and just became accustomed to putting everyone else's needs first. I have recently had this awakwning that very likely half of my life is behind me and lifes to short to not have a fullfilling sex life. I have always had a toy or 2. Recently invested in several. Masturbation has never been an issue for me and could probably indulge daily. He tends to cum quick during intercourse. (He has recently purchased a ring and some delay spray). I seemingly take forever to get there and thats IF I even can I get into my head and even with my favorite toys cannot cum with him PIV or even with him present next to me. How do I relax enough to have an orgasm with him, or with him near understanding most females don't cum from PIV alone. Hoping to hear from someone who had also dealt with this and their experience but obviously open to hearing all perspectives.