u/-NotWhoYouThinkItIs

28 [F4M] #Netherlands - Newbie on the submissive side

Hi, I'm really new to everything kinky, but I know what I want.

I'm south asian, I live in the Netherlands, and I'm looking for both, a relationship, and someone compatible with my needs.

While I've only had vanilla experiences so far, I've come to realise I have specific preferences.

I don't want to go into too much detail from the get go, but broadly speaking, I'm interested in soft dominance and cnc.

I'm also not interested in something purely physical. I'm looking for a relationship with someone interested in the same things as me. Personality and appearance matter to me.

Me? I'm around 5'2, 56 kgs. Slim, short hair, dark skin. I wear glasses but my vision is pretty good without them as well.

I have a lot of hobbies, I really enjoy making things with my hands. I read and more often than not live vicariously through fictional characters.

I get tired socially in large groups and I have been known to skip socializing in favour of lazing in bed by myself. I prefer 1 on 1 conversations.

I also need to clarify that my sexual preferences in no way indicate how I feel about the patriarchy. I don't believe women are naturally submissive or anything of that sort. I'm a raging feminist, and I don't change the way I look or behave based on whoever is in my life.

I'm not going to shave my legs before wearing a skirt XD

Anyway, if any of this seems interesting to you, drop me a message!

Ages 25 and above please.

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u/-NotWhoYouThinkItIs — 5 days ago

BDSM in the Netherlands

Hi all, I'm new to this country and I'm interested in exploring things that are pretty taboo in my home country.

Does anyone know what it's like in the Netherlands? I've heard a MUNCH is a good place to start, but as someone who has only ever had very regular sex, anything else seems daunting. Even talking about is nerve wracking.

I do feel pretty unsatisfied though, and it's very hard to be open about my preferences on dating apps, so I figured I'd take a different approach.

If you have any experience or advice or even tips/leads on exploring aspects of bdsm in the Netherlands, please share!

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u/-NotWhoYouThinkItIs — 7 days ago