u/4irlmeetz

Salam so this is an advert seeking marriage. I'm looking for someone with high libido and modest expectations and can be adaptable.

I can say all the kinky things and urges and the ways I would stimulate my future wife (and in sha Allah wives) in marriage but that's not as important as the basics. (Feel free to see all the over the top kinks in my profile but I'm very self restrictive irl until I get married).

About me: 37m. Brown British desi sufi Muslim. I am a heavy guy that's lost some weight, if you like heavy men great, I have lost double digit kilos last year and intend to continue that trend in sha Allah. Was highly technically qualified but gave it up to be a carer to family who were ill for a long time and passed away. I help my widowed mum a bit and rebuilding my way into a sustainable career. We had a lot of bereavements.

What do I offer: consistency, control, emotional variability, lots of affection, dominance, sincerity. I do therapy to work on some toxic elements I have just from the circumstances I dealt with growing up.

Religiousity: I was very religious, but I have since the carer years had trouble being perfectly practicing. I'm trying to get back to 5 times a day prayer but the stress of responsibility and anxiety is something that does disrupt that. I do believe strongly but I am not brilliantly timely or consistent on prayer. Though I am on the other things in sha Allah

How much do I earn: I'm not in work, I volunteer and am rebuilding my life. I do have a house with my mum. Connection important, work will flow. There's much I can do.

You mentioned wives not wife, why?

Yes im single but I've always felt I had so much love to give I want to fulfill a sunnah and take on the responsibility of having more than one wife if possible and treating everyone equally. If you're not just tolerant of that but actually like that idea please reach out.

What I'm looking for: female, the most important thing is that she believes in Islam and is very adaptable. If you hear a thing you don't like and think okay how can I work or compensate or go around that, that's the girl for me. I am very kinky and that would be present in our marriage frequently but also discreetly.

You should be a Muslim or open to becoming a Muslim and have started the steps. I would like the person to be between 20 and 33. I am preferring someone who is in their late 20s. Someone who wants kids but isn't desperate for them, it just happens as a consequence of the marriage.

Regarding hijab and burqa. I love the look of hair I love the variety of hijabs different countries have. You will be dressed very differently at home and alone then in public. I would prefer someone who is adaptable but as to the final say whether she adopts the hijab or not it's up to her. I would prefer someone who does not want to do the full burqa.

Regarding maidenhead/virginity of the wife. Ideally you're a virgin (I am as well) but I'm pragmatic and realistic. If you've had some (not many) sexual experiences in the past and made tauba about them and asked for forgiveness or you've reverted to Islam after they happened then you're still a potential.

Ethnicity: I'm not super fussed about this but I do generally prefer white or East Asian or Desi (indian subcontintent) women. Open to other communities like middle eastern maghrebi etc but I grew up in the uk as a super minority and my biggest familiarity is white people and desi people. Strongly prefer people already residing living and have indefinite leave to remain (or citizenship) in the UK.

Your fitness: I would like if the person I marry is physically active and fitter as I want someone that inspires me to get better. I like the contrast of being a big man with a slim wife.

That's it. If you found this curious and want to perhaps talk and eventually meet, message me with the words "*Pyaar Ishq Aur Mohabbat*"

And we will chat :)

P.s. number 1 quality im looking for is honesty

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What I am looking for: cis female. Age between 20-36 though I prefer late 20s. In the uk Must be slim, welcome if they're a runner bunny type and have a thing for guys much bigger than them but will understand and encourage me to get fitter. Very sexually open-minded, spiritual and respectful.

preferred ethnic backgrounds Caucasian, East Asian, south Asian, Mediterranean, middle eastern. Though not a deal breaker by any means I like having a complexion contrast as a light brown man myself.

Kinks you're into: too surrender and be controlled. Enjoys serving but also pleasure and pain. Mindfuck and compassionate cruelty and intimacy and instruction. There's a whole host of specifics but this is top line overview. Deep theoretically Pervy and introverted exhibitionist. Decidedly non vanilla but likes being controlled over their specific niche kinks. Piss drinking. Spit swallowing. Gagging. Over stimulation. Mindfuck. Discipline. Discretion.

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Iimits: no feeders. not really much raceplay besides the enjoyment of complexion contrast. No scat. No abdl. No dragon dildos. No furry or imaginary type things. Cat girl aesthetic fine. Not wanting me to share them or make them do things to my friends or others. I want more than one partner but the best we would get is co-wife friendships you'd have.

Common sense caveats: enthusiastic consent, ability to self advocate even though personality wise we click well. Good or reasonable mental health. No extreme personality disorders. Understanding that symbolism will be heavy actions won't be as spicy as what's written here.

Things to understand about a practicing Muslim Dom that takes his faith seriously: I havent had any sexual contact by choice until marriage. I want to keep it that way but find someone compatible with getting to that step. If you're fetishing a Muslim bull I'm not that person

If you're interested and cis female and vaguely down for talking please reply with the name of a fruit commonly associated with Rubicon drinks in your message to me